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Empathy and Detachment

Last week, we looked at The First Empathy. The week before that, we started in on an exploration of Empathy. This week, we continue.

Jenny says…

I encourage you to read our first two blogs. Now, carrying on from my last post…

My thoughts on all of this has been kind of snowballing into this thought of core. The knowing that there are behaviors attached to feelings. My heart really goes out to the kids that are feeling that it is normal or okay to treat others this way. As I said the behavior is connected to the feeling. To me that says that these children or adults for that matter are either hurting or sad. They are feeling an underlying emotion that is creating this anger or volatile expression that they so freely dish out to whoever crosses their path. It isn’t connected by anger towards this person necessarily, but they still express it anyhow.  

For empaths, we take things a little more personally. Much like my son did. He got angry that this little boy was being mean to him and calling him nasty names, so my son aggressively acted out. Rather than taking a moment to feel and control the reaction that we so quickly have, we act quick. As adults we do much the same. We are reactive human beings. Far and few in between are proactive. We need to be more conscious of what we say and do. We need to be more conscious of what we are teaching our children and our youth. We need to make the world a better place somehow. I feel that it starts with what we teach our youth. We see it more and more as we get older. The generational gap, and differences. We see the lack of respect, and structure. I am not saying that this applies to all of us, but we have the ability to make a difference, to make a change. The youth being the foundation to this change in our society. We are getting much better at speaking aloud about this epidemic. How can we start making this difference? How can we live what we teach?   Stay tuned…

Barry says…

Feeding off of Jenny’s thoughts, I first offer this on Emotional Intelligence (EI). Empathy is a virtue; and one that can be practiced. It is my experience and observation that EI can help those who more need practice with Empathy, and those who more need practice with Detachment as their Empathy is advanced. Detachment is a counter balancing virtue to Empathy. Both can be practiced, not unlike two wings of one great bird in flight.

Empathy is a powerful virtue of leadership. So is Detachment. Empathy is a powerful virtue of strength. So is Detachment. The power is found in the balance. I just posted on Endure and Respond. A week or so ago, I posted on Empathy, Endurance and Excellence. And recently, I have posted on Human Tech. All of this is to say that we can work on our human tech; our character. We do it through practice. In this case, practicing the balance of Empathy and Detachment seems like a great place to start. That is, in part, the beauty of EI. It engages:

  • Self Awareness
  • Self-Management
  • Social Awareness
  • Relationship Management

Enter Empathy and Detachment, in healthy balance. More to follow…

TOGETHER

So, we continue. Together, we continue to be committed to living a joyful life and work.  Friends do that.  Together, and through November and beyond, we will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.  Join us, stay tuned and engage us.  Our lives matter.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

PLUS…

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Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

The First Empathy

Last week, we started in on an exploration of Empathy. This week, we continue. First, we suggest the read of last week’s post. Second, this post. Third, look forward to the next broadCAST.

Jenny says…

Let me tell you a little bit about my boy. He is so kind and loving. He has always been the most soft-hearted empathetic little boy. He loves hard, much like his Mama. He feels others pain and shows caring gestures in moments of people’s sadness or hurt. I am so unbelievably proud of the little man that he is growing into. So, when I see him behave in this way, I question what it is that caused his reaction. My heart hurts for people in these moments of confusion and uncertainty.  

So, I decided to sit with him and practice what I recently studied in my program. I tried to get his perspective of what had happened. In exploring today’s events with him, I discovered that there is this one little boy in his class that has been bullying him on a regular basis. This has been causing my son to have somatic issues. He has been anxious in the mornings before school, at times calls home after throwing up and uses pretty much any excuse in the book to leave. This is heart-breaking as a parent. Heart-breaking in general to be truthful. It isn’t only sad that my child is hurting, it is also sad that we really don’t know what the child doing the hurting is going through. In the program that I am in, it makes us look at things in a different light. I realize that my son deserves to be comfortable in class. He should never feel unsafe or scared. Sadly, that is not the world we live in. We live in a world where people aren’t always given the skills needed to be kind to one another without judgement or anger. So, as his mother I need to prepare him for the unknown. Prepare him to love the ones that don’t have it programmed in them to be empathetic and loving. You can’t control the way that others treat you, but you can control the way that you react to said treatment.  

… and that is where my thoughts are processing. I will have more to come in the next broadCAST.

Barry says…

“You can’t control the way that others treat you, but you can control the way that you react to said treatment.” No truer words, Jenny; and kind of where my head and heart are now. In my first post on Empathy, I suggested that “Empathy is practiced when we are increasingly able to put ourselves in the shoes of another. It is diminished through apathy and distance. It is increased by caring and closeness. Dehumanization is one of the forces and sources advancing meanness and cruelty. The humanization of the world advances us in Empathy.”

I think the place to start is within. Empathy can constructively impact our Endurance. As I have noted before, “As leaders, educators, entrepreneurs and anyone… as we remember the feelings of our own moments of seeming vanquish and victory alike, we grow our practice of Empathy for ourselves and others. From that, we are stronger, more resilient and understanding.”

For me, as I put myself in the shoes of my former selves through life, and re-feel what trials and triumphs I have experienced (knowing I am still here and thriving), I gain a better sense of my strength and capacity. Track records matter, and feeling what it took to get through in the past can strengthen us for the future.

… and that is where my head and heart are today, on Empathy. More to come in the broadCAST indeed.

TOGETHER

So, we continue. Together, we continue to be committed to living a joyful life and work.  Friends do that.  Together, and through November and beyond, we will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.  Join us, stay tuned and engage us.  Our lives matter.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

PLUS…

CHECK OUT OUR COACHING

and our MULTIVERSE of online forums and offerings

Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

The Road to Empathy

For the past two months, Jenny and I have blogged on fear and love. This month, we blog on Empathy. We recommend all the reads and reflection to date, and we continue the deeper dive now… on Empathy.

Jenny says…

Hello all you incredibly wonderful humans!  

This month will be the one I chat about a topic that hits close to home, which I am sure it will for many of you. It is about how bullying behaviors affect the empath child, and even the empath adult. We have no shortage to talk about here. None sadly. The world is full of empaths, and the ones that have been taught that it is normal to speak to someone with hatred or lack of kindness. Whether or not it is pre-meditated, or simply done subconsciously, it is there, and it remains to be a problem within society.   

My son came home last week sad and a little embarrassed because of his reactive behavior. His teacher had sent me an email and I quickly responded. We had spoken on the phone about what she had known about the situation. As we always know there are 3 sides to the story. I needed to hear my boy’s side. He had been in class and got upset (the reason was unknown at this point) and he took some pencils and broke them on the floor. As his mother, I had to ask him questions as to why this was his chosen behavior. As a Child and Youth care student and almost graduate, I delved into exploring this further with him. What was the trigger for his anger? Why was he sad? 

Stay tuned, for this unfolding in the upcoming broadCAST.

Barry says…

This is such a powerful topic and one we need to talk more about indeed. For me, Empathy is a virtue available to all. While some are more inclined to feel, Empathy is something, a strength of character, a virtue… that can be learned and practiced.

Bullying is a crucible to examine Empathy. As someone who was bullied, observed it, and even a few times in my life, consciously or unconsciously did it… I am reminded that bullying is a learned behaviour. Children are not born with it. They learn by the examples set; and this world has plenty of examples of bullying. It needs more examples of the strength we know as Empathy.

Empathy is practiced when we are increasingly able to put ourselves in the shoes of another. It is diminished through apathy and distance. It is increased by caring and closeness. Dehumanization is one of the forces and sources advancing meanness and cruelty. The humanization of the world advances us in Empathy. Simply and for now, consider this video on Empathy.

I am looking forward to this road. We all need to explore it.

TOGETHER

So, we continue. Together, we continue to be committed to living a joyful life and work.  Friends do that.  Together, and into November and beyond, we will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.  Join us, stay tuned and engage us.  Our lives matter.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

PLUS…

CHECK OUT OUR COACHING

and our MULTIVERSE of online forums and offerings

Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

Using Fear

This week, we continue our exploration of fear.

Jenny and I are digging deeper on this thing called fear, for ourselves and others.  We are going beyond the “face value” of this force we call fear.  This week, we question it’s value.

Jenny says…

I have shared three times on fear so far in:

I encourage you to go back and read for yourself.  In The broadCAST™, I finished by saying I had some questions.  I do, for us all.  And some thoughts.

I think of all the things that our body and brain is capable of in these moments. I think hell, why are we not learning how to use fear and stress in a more positive way? Why can’t we build on our fear and maybe somehow it will help us overcome and conquer something that we had no idea we were even capable of? Or maybe allowing ourselves to feel the fear in those very real and terrifying moments, we in turn discover life-altering realizations about who we really are, and why we react in those particular moments.

Honestly, I continue to think on these questions and thoughts and will no doubt share more next week.  For now, I am asking that you think about it.

Barry says…

Jenny, I find this useful and am pondering same.  What if fear was a tough coach, believing in us but pushing us?  What if fear desired to be tamed or conquered?  In my post in The broadCAST™, I suggested “that fear is too often lumped into one big bowl. Truthfully, there is irrational and rational fear. Fear has its benefits. It can keep us safe in the face of rational fear. Irrational fear, on the other hand, can control us in ways we must resist.”

What if the irrational fears are truly here to help?  We know the rational fears are good for us; they protect us.  But, indeed, what if the irrational fears were intent on inviting us to tame them, to conquer them, to build confidence through the courage in facing them?  What if they are stepping stones to learning our greatest capacity?

Tomorrow, I have one of the most potentially far reaching talks I have ever given ( I will share more next time), but there are voices within that I have not heard in years. Voices that say, “Are you up to this?” and such.  I have been in the training and development field for 39 years, have delivered messages to 200,000+ people through 20,000+ contact hours, have coached 1500+ clients, and delivered to audiences as large as 4,000… and still that voice creeps in for tomorrow.  It questions me.  And I will answer to the best of my ability.  As a mentor once said to me, “Courage first, Confidence second”.  I am about to find another stepping stone.

Fear as Motivator

TOGETHER

So, yes… fear continues to be our journey for October.  Together, Jenny and I ever continue to be committed to living a joyful life and work.  Best friends do that.

As noted, having a better understanding of fear helps too.

Together, and through October and beyond, we will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.

Join us, stay tuned and engage us.  Our lives matter.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

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From Jenny, with Love

In our last post, A New Chapter with Benny and Jarry, we announced just that… a new chapter with Benny and Jarry (aka Barry and Jenny lol).  Going forward, we will write on character, love, unity and excellence as it relates to living and working and serving and playing our lives away; whether as educators, entrepreneurs, emerging leaders or anyone looking to get more out of life by giving more to the lives of themselves and others.  But first, let us introduce ourselves for this next chapter.

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

This week, Jenny offers up…

The reality of self-love is very important to our living our best lives. Our body is our home; we simply can’t live in it peacefully if we continue to destroy it. We need to be openly accepting our flaws because the reality is at the end of the day, the only person you truly have is yourself. And we need to be stronger for ourselves (Alyssa Lexine. Thought catalog. Aug 2016).

We need to be kinder to ourselves, allowing room for growth and error. Giving ourselves permission to mess up and make mistakes without chastising the person that matters the most; You, your own self.

We are beings of light and love. We so often freely love others, but we hardly take the time to recognize it for ourselves.

We are so quick to say when someone doesn’t love us the way we wish to be loved. Why are we waiting for them to step up and love us? When in all reality we have the power to do it on our own. We get to set our own standards on how we deserve to be loved, and by doing so we don’t have to accept anything less from others or ourselves.

Now to start this journey of falling completely in love with ourselves; realizing the importance of self-love is the first step to bettering your life. Here are just a few tips to get you started.

First and foremost, define your own beauty. Love yourself now by first accepting yourself the way you are. Change your focus to the thing that is most important. Start with one small thing about yourself and decide to love it. You don’t need to be perfect, but it’s uniquely you. Maybe begin with your eyes because you have seen so many beautiful things, while enduring all the tears you have cried.

Next, change your self-talk. That little voice in your head that drags you down needs to be changed. You wouldn’t speak that way to someone you love, so what makes it okay to say it to yourself? Replace that negative self-talk with something uplifting. When you make a mistake, try an encouraging phrase like, “It’s ok! I’ll try again.”

Also, don’t forget to pamper yourself. When your feet get wet, go home and put dry socks on. Be more aware of your physical condition and do things to comfort yourself. Warm up the water before washing your hands. Sit down when you are tired.

These are small ways to let yourself know that your comfort and well- being are important (Wendy G, Brookhaven, April 2017).

Don’t forget to spoil yourself regularly. Have a bath, do your nails, put on a face mask, wear your sexy underwear for yourself, or take yourself on a date. Act as if you are completely in love with yourself. Speak, eat, drink, dress and treat yourself as if you were your most loving fan, best friend, and lover all at once. Finally, take things lightly. Don’t be too serious. Make sure to laugh and have lots of fun. Even if you just fake it in the beginning, you will reap benefits. Fake it till you make it. (Lea, Life Coach, Feb 2015).

In the end (and the beginning, and throughout), love matters.  Love directed to others matters.  Love directed to ourselves matters.  Going forward, I will be sharing thoughts on perspectives on the who, what, why, when and how of practicing the strength that is Love.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

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Simpler and Honester :-)

I know “Honester” is not a word, but I had to… I had to write it.  Last week, I wrote simple and honest.  In it, I wrote (amongst other things)…

  • Since initially articulating my focus on these 9 milestones, real and encouraging progress is happening. https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/t4c/1/16/1f642.pngThat being said, I have been restless of late. It is today that I realize why.  There is a purpose to all of these. It is born of being ready for what I have been calling the “next chapter”. But there is still a depth and breadth of Honesty that needs manifesting for me now.  

That simple honesty of spirit has continued this week.  Clarity is burning off any clouds remaining.  On Tuesday evening and Wednesday, I recorded and wrote on what I call Pendulum Learning.  I humbly recommend the aforementioned reads and views.  Regardless, all of this is to say that Simplicity and Honesty are huge in living and working a meaningful life.  With that in mind, over these last months, I have sharpened the blades on my own clarity at work.

  • In the work I do, and the life I live, I create, learn and teach… for a better world. I revere the human spirit; am accountable to it and unapologetically confident in it … and my desire to serve it. I fiercely serve Optimism, grounded in the exploration of character, strengthened by Discipline to get better. I choose to work with noble minded and world embracing leaders, educators and entrepreneurs for that better world at school, work, business and community. Yes, I am a creator, student and teacher on character leadership and education. I am The Unity Guy.

Language does matter.  I have been working on that clarity and purposefully journaling in blog form, exploring my narrative, and moving forward with it. I am catching up with myself.

Professionally, I am clear on what I do and who I serve, simple and honest.  Personally, I am clearing some fog around the simple and honest Barry who does that work and lives that life. So:

In the work I do, and the life I live, I create, learn and teach… for a better world. I revere the human spirit; am accountable to it and unapologetically confident in it … and my desire to serve it. I fiercely serve Optimism, grounded in the exploration of character, strengthened by Discipline to get better. I choose to work with noble minded and world embracing leaders, educators and entrepreneurs for that better world at school, work, business and community. Yes, I am a creator, student and teacher on character leadership and education. I am The Unity Guy. And, I live my life accordingly… healthy and strong, FIERCELY living, loving, working and playing.  Simple and Honest.  You can only catch what you can see.  And I see.  

FOR YOU

My suggestion is this.  Invest the time.  Do not overthink, but be reflective.  Look for the simple and honest answers as to who you are, what you do and for whom you do it best.  Be courageous and truthful.  Do not pose.  Be real.

Ask yourself…

What moves you?  What sustains you?  What reaches your spirit?  Dig, go deeper, look right under your nose and into your heart.  Consider what you love and that at which you are most skilled.  Consider what the world needs more of you on.  Ponder your sense of purpose and passion.  Find ways to honor them.  Find ways to be simple and honest.  Life is short and it freakin’ matters.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

Pulling Back the Bow

I just wrote this on Simplicity and Excellence, inspired by Joe Calloway and Randy Pennington.

Writing it got me thinking about how slippery a slope the process can be.  For me, my nine milestones I shared once again in My New Day and Semester continue to be vital for this year.  But… the one that is both most important and challenging is the health milestone.

Steven Pressfield’s The War of Art and his thoughts on resistance come to mind.  The closer we get to moving, the greater the resistance, not unlike a bow.  I am there.  And now I need most to pull back on that bow of health.  It will support all of the others.

How about you?  Where do you need singular focus and purpose now?

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

 

Wander, Wonder, Ponder, Render

Last week, I posted on purpose.  In the last few days, I made a decision 30 years in the making.  Just this morning, I brought together 9 posts on leadership.  All of this is to say that today I am thoughtful on decision and action.  I wrote on action as prayer… and I am realizing ever more so today that the quality of a decision rests in being connected with wisdom somehow.  On my own health road now, this is even more true.

So, I simply offer this thought this week. Wander, wonder, ponder, and render.  Wander through your life from birth to now, walking through the life events as they have happened (I call it walking your life line).  Be deliberate and walk the journey.  That which we most remember, we do so for good reason.

Be in a state of wonder in doing so, realizing this as an epic journey filled with trials and triumphs and everything in between.

Ponder their most constructive lessons for you.  Ultimately, each trial and triumph is a teacher.

Then render some form of decision on where you go from here.

Do this on your own or with a friend, or a professional (as I am not one in that area… but a student of spiritual reflection).  It is not unlike that moment in Castaway.  Watch the movie for context if you like.  But that final scene, he is experiencing the wander, wonder, ponder and render.  You can almost “see” those wheels of life and lessons turning.  Your life matters.  As does mine.  My decisions reflect that.  As must yours.

Be brave.  Be strong and brave.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

 

Because You are Here

Last posting, I noted some thoughts on Purpose and Pace… and a pace of grace. I humbly suggest it worth a read, including the links.

This past week, on LinkedIn, I have written on a New Year and Perspective, on Necessity and Humble Swagger, and on Principle, Character and Leadership. And, back on February 4, I wrote on Mastery and Meaning.  All were an exploration of perspective… for me, and hopefully you the reader.  In part, they were all inspired by my exploration of my own connection to the Global Goals.

These days, I am challenging my own perceptions.  It serves two purposes; to question in order to confirm that which is my true and best core and to eliminate that which is not.  It is kind of a soulful surgery, exploring my perceptions of the world, its diversity, and its presumptions of leadership.

What I am more fully understanding is that I am not driven for fame, but impact.  I am not driven for popularity, but meaning.  I am not driven to create contention nor offense, but build dialogue.  I am more fully understanding that leadership is heroic and humble, and capable of being practiced by us all.

Leadership matters.  Great leadership is trustworthy and inspiring of that trust.  Great leadership gives a damn.  Words are hollow, deeds are true.  Great leadership cares.  It rolls up its own sleeves to be part of, not boss of… it says what it means and means what it says.  Great leadership values people.. not on paper nor in speeches, but in action.  It trusts and engages people.  It believes in them.  It holds up a high standard for us all to strive, out of human desire to grow not fear of failure or punishment.  It is not born of ego, but guided by soul.  And it freakin’ matters.

The messianic style and the sometimes seeming worship of gurus does not speak to me in the slightest.  I do not remotely see myself in such role or capacity, nor do I wish to see myself or be seen as so.  I believe “studentry” is “mastery”; and it is fueled by a humble desire to learn.  I think this is what some of my personal fave writers and speakers address… Dale Carnegie, Stephen Covey, Richard Bolles, Dr. Brene Brown, Steven Pressfield and Joe Calloway, among others.

So What? 

So, what does this mean for me today?  It means that I have questioned my motives.  My post on Manifest Oh!… I have gone back to a reread and reflected and digested. For me, it still stands.  For me, it is about the work.  And, when it comes to my 20022020 vision and strategic goals, I am ever more clear on the WHY.  My best contract stands.  As I continue to work on this current strategic snapshot:

SNAPSHOT 1: January 1, 2019 through March 31, 2019… 90 days.

  • I am a daily student of the practice of character, unity and spirit… in studies and practice
  • I am learning the first basics of conversational Mandarin
  • I am continuing my education studies, commencing my next and 4th course
  • I am prayerfully engaged in my Ruhi studies, continuing to focus on Book 1 as baseline
  • I am singing, writing and living daily, with my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda
  • I am Salsa dancing weekly too
  • I am building on the re-launch of the new Epic Engage™ with:
    • Project Black Wing™
    • DELIVER™ sessions  January, February and March
    • Thinking CAPS™ national chats January through March
    • The Epic Speakernet promotions and building
    • a new blog-comic strip called Aukwords™ launched in January 2019
    • Speakeasies™ starting in March
  • I am sharing epic stories monthly, via video
  • I am continuing to build strong connections with the business development community, including:
    • MBO
    • Futurpreneur, and
    • NLOWE
  • I am starting my Winter Term, teaching business leadership at college
  • I have a 40 inch waist, eating “more than right”, walking daily
  • I am following my 20022020 W.E.A.L.T.H.™ Plan.

… I am more aware of the reason.  In 13 days, I will turn 59… with one year until 60.  I intend 60 to be the year I am at optimal health and strength, because I see a new chapter unfolding… one that is driven by the soulful need for humble, joyful service and excellence.  I intend my life and work to be so.  I want the physical carriage to support such for as long as I am on this planet… not for fame nor glory, but for my life, in service.  I believe it Goethe who said, “The deed is everything, the glory naught.”  I believe in the words of Baha’u’llah, “Let deeds, not words, be your adorning.” For me, my why is clear.  Because I am here.  A life of words is only worth the deeds supporting same.

Getting to your WHY is crucial.  This week, I cover motivation with my students in Organizational Behaviour.  It will be part of our dialogue.  Because I am here.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

Deeds, Words and L.O.V.E.

Last week, I posted on SNAPSHOTS and LOVE.  I humbly encourage the read.  At its very core, it speaks to the importance of:

  • a meaningful, big and longer term vision
  • equally meaningful 90-day snapshot goals that serve as building blocks, and
  • L.O.V.E. as an action in achieving same.

This past week, I had the serendipitous opportunity to speak to a Grade 4 class in my alma mater elementary school, on being heroic.  It was nothing short of incredible; life changing in many ways for me.  For the first time in decades, I was nervous before walking in.  I deeply wanted to connect with these children, these kids; as I identified with them after so many of the 48 years later.  The school has become so much more diverse, and beautifully so.  The experience I had was surreal.  Connected.  Inspiring.  Real.  Surreal.  All in one.

I say all of this as it rides on my three points above.  My vision is big and meaningful.  My building blocks are concrete and meaningful.  I am approaching their engagement and achievement with L.O.V.E..  But it is that “E” in L.O.V.E. that is resonating ever more powerfully this week; this day.

  • Baha’ullah said, “Let deeds, not words, be your adorning.”  Your adorning (that which dresses you are your actions, not simply your words.  Your words will be supported by your deeds.  My words will be strengthened by my deeds.  Certainly, without the deeds, the words mean nothing ultimately.
  • Baha’ullah also said, ““The betterment of the world can be accomplished through pure and goodly deeds …”  Now there is a simple formula for bettering the world.  And it is not pure and goodly words; at least not without the support of those deeds.

Bruno Mars sang, “Don’t believe me, just watch…  “.  Extreme sang of it in More than Words.  To rise is an action.  To wake up, is an action. To get up is also.  Our words matter, but they matter because we speak them, or write them… actions.  Our words matter, but they matter most when in action.  When we L.O.V.E. … it is the action that brings it to life.  It is what creates impact and legacy alike.

This week, in that classroom, as I felt the rare nerves of both hope and responsibility, I said to myself “let’s do it”.  I trusted in the action, because the motive was pure and goodly.  The results are impacting my countenance even now and going forward.

“What you do speaks so loud, that I cannot hear what you say.”  These words, often attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson say so much about action.  Execution is everything.

Now, what will we do about it?

Peace, passion and prosperity.

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

 

 

 

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