If we have them at all, boundaries are often thought of in terms of that which we can or cannot do or that which we will accept or not accept in the doing of others. In other words, they are typically seen as do’s and don’ts or about the doing…. behaviour. Codes of conduct are a shining example of such. I suggest that a deeper and even better understanding of boundaries might be a code of character.
I have long said that character is the soil from which the tree of behaviour grows. We spend so much time concerned with behaviour and taking care of the tree that we often forget that, if we focus on the soil (character), the tree (behaviour) will pretty much take care of itself. This is why I contend that character development runs deeper and more substantive than behaviour modification.
That said, I ask that you consider this conversation with Christine Ayling… on character and boundaries… the 3rd Strategy of The Virtues Project. Then, consider how you might develop a code of character for yourself and/or your family, friends, classroom, school, work, business or community.
In the meantime, maybe consider all of our new generation of posts to date. Peace, passion and prosperity…
“Intelligence plus character—that is the goal of true education.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.
Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing. ― Abraham Lincoln