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The Paths of Love

In lasts week’s post on Love and Grace, we continued an exploration of caring for ourselves, which we started with in The Long, Cool Road and followed into broadCAST September 2019.  We recommend the reads and reflection, and we continue the deeper dive this week.

Jenny says…

To date, and essentially, I have offered the following in retrospect.  Allow me to recap.

This Blog may very well be all over the place in thought. As I have been these past couple weeks. I don’t mind saying it like it is, as you probably have noticed by reading my last blog, I am quite up-front and honest. I am usually very positive and upbeat. But guess what, I am human like the rest us, and I am exhausted. I have been pushing myself to the limit in every aspect of my life. I have been trying to be a kick-ass Mom, Friend, Partner and Student. Well I only have so much to give. I guess what I am saying is that in order to fill your own tank, you need to do things that you love. Even then you can find yourself drained and depleted. I am a prime example of that this past week.  

This summer has been full, beautiful and extraordinary. So many positives, yet I am pooped. I am a strong believer in self-care. A huge believer. But even in the moments of self-care, my mind is in full speed, thinking of all that I need to do in the next five years of my life. Which in all honesty does not help or benefit me in the slightest. While most structure their lives around schedule and organization, my life just doesn’t work well that way. Or at least I don’t think it does. Lord knows I have tried. I am a fly by the seat of my pants kind of girl. I get things done, and if I don’t, I clearly didn’t think it was needed in that particular time, or in that particular order. I know I am not the only one that lives like this. Other people may think it is chaos, where I find it comfortable. It just works. Rather than getting into how it works, which I don’t think really matters. We all work differently. I want to talk more about doing the best that we can with what we know. And finding what fits and benefits your life. 

I am currently reading a Brene Brown book called Rising Strong. She is a phenomenal writer and I find myself relating to most of her writings. I have to say it is taking me a LONG time reading because of that thing we call life. I take all the moments I can spare to sit and read for a bit. But let’s be real, I also have a million other things that I want to do. Be lazy and watch Netflix, eat cheesecake, do my nails, hang with my boy, maybe just do absolutely nothing while scrolling through Pinterest. You know, all those important valid things. Which I think at times we need to do. I think it is a part of unwinding and letting ourselves breathe for a moment in time.  

In Brene’s book she talks about doing the best that we can with what we know. I relate this to Child and Youth Care (in which I am studying), and life in general. Brene talks about finding people ignorant or rude, or responding a certain way to something. At first, we look at the person like they have ten heads. Like maybe they are just jerks. That’s not the case. We are simply doing the best with what we are given. We are doing our best in life with our skills and knowledge. This speaks to me on many levels. In society, as a parent, as a friend, as an employee, or with ourselves. I look at how I am to others. I love them, I love everyone really. I find the best in anyone and everyone. That is because I was raised that way. Raised to be kind, empathetic, compassionate, and respectful. That built a love and understanding within me that I use outward. I treat others with love because I was treated with love. It is my norm. But when it comes to taking moments to care for me, that isn’t so natural. I can’t exactly blame it on my upbringing, but it is more of a generational thing as far as I am concerned. I feel like moments of relaxing, taking a nap, going to a spa, or getting your hair done, may have been considered more of a selfish act. When really it isn’t. It is taking little moments to love yourself.  

Because this is not such a natural act, I get stuck in moments of self-care, with little imprints of caring for others or thinking about the million things I need to do. That is not self-care at its finest. I know how difficult it is to completely unwind, allowing your mind to compartmentalize the important and not so important things we need to focus on at that time. I guess therefore I have been left exhausted. I have been doing things for myself amid chaos these past couple weeks. But clearly, I have not allowed myself to detach and let go of everything I have no control over in that very moment. If I can’t fix it now, then get into that little box inside of my head so I can push it away somewhere until I can address it or accommodate it.  

Let me add something this week.

  • In life there will always be moments to love ourselves enough to rest and take care of our basic needs. But how we come to do that is the real test. This is where we are doing the best with what we have, or what we know. We are taught by people around us how we should and shouldn’t love ourselves. We mirror what we have watched growing up. We allow people to plants seeds, such as, selfish, lazy, high maintenance, or needy. When in all reality it is a basic need of ours. We NEED to care for ourselves. However that looks to each of us may be completely different or one in the same. Now like I said, we are either taught how to love ourselves or we learn. So, let us learn.

In my next post, and upon reflection, I will share thoughts on what that might look like.

Barry says…

I love the idea Jenny is proposing.  Self care and love are unique to each of us; as is balance.

Yesterday was a bit a remarkable day for me.  In Public Relations class with some music students, we talked on the importance of self awareness as an artist… and the need to be authentic in our “branding”.  Posing creates much more work, to maintain the pose.

Last evening, I attended a memorial for a former student who took his own life last week.  Sam was a gifted Soul; gifted with compassion, generosity, kindness, thoughtfulness, creativity, enthusiasm, joyfulness and more.  And yet, he chose to depart this realm.  I shared this post on my feelings around the news and the day yesterday morning.  Then, last night and upon reflection after the memorial, I shared this Facebook live post, around thoughts on Sam and more.  I shared this post yesterday as well… on Sam’s family choosing to advance the necessary dialogue on suicide.

So What?

And so why do I offer up such?  I would suggest that self care and self love are grounded in seeing our best self and character, and honoring it.  I suggested in class that one powerful form of self love is to love others.  In other words, when we fully identify and accept who we are here most to love … and love them… we love ourselves.  This does not imply trying to save everyone.  It does imply that choosing to be of service to those who matter most to us can run parallel to us taking time to take care of ourselves.

For example, I spent a great deal of my adult life trying hard to please everyone.  In the final analysis, and with great mentors, I realized that I get to pick who I choose to best serve.  For all, I choose to try to give friendliness and joyfulness as a countenance.  That is my universal service.

But to maintain my best energy and care, my personal and professional lives have a sharper focus.  With Epic Engage™, we serve those world embracing and noble minded educators, entrepreneurs and emerging leaders who get it or want to get it.  We are clear on that.  We are not here to convince or preach but serve who best and most needs our work.  We get to choose when and where and how.

With my personal life, I have my Camelot, my tribe, my chosen family who will get my very best.

Stephen Covey referred to this prioritization as the big rocks.  I referenced it in The Long, Cool Road.

Ultimately, I am suggesting that self love and the love of others are parallel journeys; but we must be very strategic in choosing who we best serve.  During this most busy term of my life (and it indeed is), the best way I will take care of myself is to choose who I will actively and purposefully serve and love best.  I only have so much to give, and I must needs choose where I will best give.  In so doing, I will both take care of my energy and health, and I will feel best fulfilled with the feeling that I have been there for the people who matter most.  Caring for them in my personal and professional lives shows care for me.  I think that is what Andy Grammer sings of here.

My 10-Day Path to Love

So, I am taking on a personal 10-day project to sharpen the blades and simplify.  I saw this meme on Facebook, reminding me of the intriguing numerical significance of 10 days in September 2019.

91#19 with the # running from 0 through 9.  Intriguing indeed.

Each day, I will eliminate one distraction or add one habit.

Yesterday, on the first day, I decided that I will no longer engage in any activity unless I feel a real energy is there for movement.  In other words, I need to feel a “Hell Yeah”.  If not, I do not.

Today, and in honor of Sam, I will commit to one simple, conscious act of kindness each day.  I tend to think of myself as typically kind… but I am intent on making sure a day does not go by where I do not take one simple act of kindness, in word or deed.

Over the next 8 days, I will establish 8 other commitments.   Whether you start your own act now during this period or not… think about taking 10 days and making 10 simple commitments to cut things out or commit to simple actions that will love you and others.

See where that takes you.  I will let you know my 10 next week.  🙂

TOGETHER

Together, we are committed to living a joyful life and work.  Best friends do that.

Together, we will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

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Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

The Practice of Love

We have started a new chapter with Benny and Jarry.  With that, we have already shared on From Jenny, with Love and then Love and Character.  Indeed, and over the coming months, we intend to expand into PODcasts of what we are affectionately calling the Benny and Jarry Show, exploring real and raw on love and character and how they make for better living, working and playing.  Stay tuned.  🙂

As a conclusion to the opening 4 rounds of this new blog adventure (with much more to come), and for this week, we thought to share on practice.

Jenny on Practice

With practicing self-love comes health benefits. You will see that self-love is simply about owning our own power and acting from a place of kindness toward ourselves. It helps us let go of blame, shame, and anger. We invite ownership and power into our lives, while becoming completely responsible for our own lives; along with recognizing that we are the source to our happiness… the source to the power to change our futures, careers, relationships, passion, compassion, empathy, and authenticity.

It’s then that we begin to believe in our power. What matters is how we feel about ourselves, rather than others’ opinions. Practicing self-love puts us at peace. We accept our strengths and weaknesses. Unconditionally. All the self-love that we are now providing ourselves, allows us to show up and live our destined purpose… thus allowing us to let go of loneliness and embrace a deeper connection with the world… and attracting harmony, peace, spaciousness, and significance in relationships.

The more we look at ourselves with love, the more we practice love and acceptance towards others; accepting mistakes and failure and inviting vulnerability into our lives. We accept that we are enough. That there is no room for comparing ourselves to others.

When we love ourselves, we give birth to creativity, inspiration, and openness. Reality is accepted rather than blaming and fighting it, while, accepting failure knowing that it is one step closer to growth.

Allowing ourselves to grow gives us more energy to spread love and joy. Your positive love for yourself shines naturally and good things gravitate towards that energy. Lastly, we feel safe knowing that we will always be there for ourselves (Cynthia Belmer, Mind Body, Jan 2014).

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry on Practice

Character is about practice.  We are not born with Patience.  We practice it.  We are born with all virtues, in potential.  Potential becomes practical when practiced.  Courage and Confidence can be practiced.  Empathy and Compassion can be practiced.  Discernment and Creativity can be practiced.  Love can be practiced.  Indeed, in our last post, I suggested:

  • … that L.O.V.E. is about the practice of character.  LOOK inside yourself for your strengths of character.  Identify them.  Name them, Claim them.  Then, seek out OPPORTUNITIES where they are most needed.  Discover what work, jobs, careers and vocations require them.  Discover what services and hobbies demand them.  Yes, identify your strengths of character and to where they are most called.  Then, have a VISION in your head and heart as to how the world, or your corner of it, will be better when you do apply your strengths to those opportunities.  Then, simply ENGAGE.  Do it.  That is how we L.O.V.E. our work.  That is how we L.O.V.E. our service, and play and school and community and life.  We look inside for our strengths of character, seek out opportunities where they are needed most, have a vision of their impact, and engage.

The late, great Stephen Covey suggested that love is an action.  I suggest that it is a virtue, accessible to us all; and that it is accessible to us in our actions, through practice.  When we look inside ourselves for our strengths (virtues, knowledge, skills, abilities) and then find opportunities to serve the world (or our corner of it) with those strengths, while having that vision of service in our head and heart… and we engage the process… we LOVE.  We LOVE our work, our business, our school, our family, our friends and ourselves.  We LOVE our life.  And it is a practice.

Jenny provides examples of that above, and the benefits of doing same.  I suggest that practice makes permanent.  The more we practice, the better we get.  The more we practice any virtue, the more body memory we create in knowing how to live it.  In the days and weeks and months to come, I will continue to share on the art and science of character, and it’s relevance to L.O.V.E..  And I will be practicing, for life.  I need it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

To You, Our Friend and Reader

Jenny and I (and Benny and Jarry) are so excited about the conversations and content ahead.  We hope you are too… and we thank you for joining us on the journey.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love

Benny and Jarry

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My Summer CAMP

Last week, I published Summer Cookin’ with the AL’s.   I am holding true to it.  I have met with Felicia Newell and Jon Butler on plans for my health this Summer and into the Fall of 2019.  And, I am excited about same.  In a nutshell, and drawing on my last post, I reiterate my vision:

  • SpirituAL … I am a spiritually connected man, and Baha’i
  • EmotionAL… I am a Simple Man, best friend to my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda
  • PersonAL… I am a singer, dancer, cartoonist, writer, archer and storyteller
  • PhysicAL… I am a man of 36″ waist and 100 kilos
  • MateriAL… I am a man of simple beautiful home and car, with new bed, telescope and wardrobe
  • FinanciAL… I am a man of healthy WEALTH, not extravagant but allowing me to do the work I love and love the work I do, to live the life I love and love the life I live, and support the causes and people in which I believe most
  • VocationAL, ProfessionAL, OccupationAL… I am an educator, for life
  • EntrepreneuriAL… I am The Unity Guy™ of Epic Engage™, the global Character Leadership Company
  • EducationAL… I am a master student and teacher on character leadership, education and unity building, able to speak in English, Mandarin and French

And, now, I am taking 6 days to disappear and cleanse.  I will get more clear, with a much deeper dive.  Some niggling things demand such.  I will pray and meditate.  I will pray and meditate, and act. I will be that spiritually connected man, Baha’i.

I will pray and meditate on what it means to be that Simple Man, and best friend to my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda.  I will pray and meditate on what is speaking to me about singing, dancing, cartooning, writing, and more.  I will pray and meditate on my physical vision; a man of 36″ waist and 100 kilos.  I will pray and meditate on my simple beautiful home and car, with new bed, telescope and wardrobe.  I will pray and meditate on being a man of healthy WEALTH, not extravagant but allowing me to do the work I love and love the work I do, to live the life I love and love the life I live, and support the causes and people in which I believe most.  I will pray and meditate on my work as educator and entrepreneur.,, as The Unity Guy™ of Epic Engage™.  And, I will pray and meditate on being a master student and teacher on character leadership, education and unity building, able to speak in English, Mandarin and French.

Yes, I will pray and meditate; and be open.  Shoghi Effendi once said that there are 5 suggested steps to prayerful problem solving:

  • Pray and meditate about it. Use the prayers of the Manifestations as they have the greatest power. Then remain in the silence of contemplation for a few minutes.
  • Arrive at a decision and hold this. This decision is usually born during the contemplation. It may seem almost impossible of accomplishment but if it seems to be as answer to a prayer or a way of solving the problem, then immediately take the next step.
  • Have determination to carry the decision through. Many fail here. The decision, budding into determination, is blighted and instead becomes a wish or a vague longing. When determination is born, immediately take the next step.
  • Have faith and confidence that the power will flow through you, the right way will appear, the door will open, the right thought, the right message, the right principle or the right book will be given you. Have confidence, and the right thing will come to your need. Then, as you rise from prayer, take at once the fifth step.
  • …lastly, ACT; Act as though it had all been answered. Then act with tireless, ceaseless energy. And as you act, you, yourself, will become a magnet, which will attract more power to your being, until you become an unobstructed channel for the Divine power to flow through you.

You can find more, here.  Most importantly, I will act on that clarity that comes from such prayer and meditation; as the advice is given above.  I will enter such with open mind and heart.  I will be relentless.  I will carve out my own best truth.

My thought to you is four-fold.

  • Cleansing of mind, body and spirit requires honesty, openness and courage.
  • Doing so is an investment.
  • Doing so requires us to be open, adaptive and relentless (your OARs in the water).
  • The return is high, on Clarity and Confidence.

How can you see yourself cleansing and getting to the essentials?  For me, I have done much of such this past year, but, of late, I have come to see that I need this one big push… to truly get back to me.  It may not radically change things (or it may).  But, it is always best to get on your best path.

So, I am disappearing for a week.  I will have conversations with those I deeply trust.  I will take actions needed.  I will meditate.  I will pray.

It is CAMP, for me.  🙂

See you on the other side.

In the meantime, and in related news, consider the latest Leaducator July 2019.  It has relevance, resonance and links worthy of consideration I humbly offer.  Engage and enjoy.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

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Summer Cookin’ with the AL’s

You can call me AL for this blog, lol. But this post is about some new Summer cookin’ for yours truly.  You see, last Wednesday, I posted this on Check In and Conclude.  And now, with Summer in fuller swing, I posted this latest issue of The broadCAST™ for July 2019.  As part of the CHECK IN, I offered…

“As part of my 20022020 Vision, here is what I am cluing up between now and July 1.

  • Getting my weigh scales, gym and Panda ready for a Summer of full on wellness, including my first ground setting meeting with a nutritionist Friday… all towards that 36” Waist, Lean and Strong.
  • Setting my schedule for LEARNING this Summer:
    • MBa – Character Leadership and Unity Building
    • Mandarin and French
    • Ruhi Intensive
  • Preliminary PLANNING for CNA and MUN into Fall 2019.
  • Developing my 5 Year W.E.A.L.T.H. Plan for 2019-24.
  • Re-engineering the Epic Engage™ website, including a schedule of project plans.”

But The broadCAST™ moved me to revisit my GROWTHery list leading up to February 20, 2020… with my AL’s work.

  • SpirituAL … I am a spiritually connected man, and Baha’i
  • EmotionAL… I am a Simple Man, best friend to my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda
  • PersonAL… I am a singer, dancer, cartoonist, writer, archer and storyteller
  • PhysicAL… I am a man of 36″ waist and 100 kilos
  • MateriAL… I am a man of simple beautiful home and car, with new bed, telescope and wardrobe
  • FinanciAL… I am a man of healthy WEALTH, not extravagant but allowing me to do the work I love and love the work I do, to live the life I love and love the life I live, and support the causes and people in which I believe most
  • VocationAL, ProfessionAL, OccupationAL… I am an educator, for life
  • EntrepreneuriAL… I am The Unity Guy™ of Epic Engage™, the global Character Leadership Company
  • EducationAL… I am a master student and teacher on character leadership, education and unity building, able to speak in English, Mandarin and French

Consider some or all of the AL’s.  Consider where you are and where you want to be with some or all.  Then you develop a powerful GROWTHery list.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

Beyond Engaged

My last post here was about being engaged.  This morning, I posted this on integrity.  I suggest both reads.  For me, the answers are right under my nose and closer than my life vein.  They impact all arenas of my life.

They confirm the Wisdom of my nine milestone goals, and my dreams and plans.

The greatest and most constructive “disruption” is to align your team of four.

It is getting beyond engaged.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

Engaged!

Last week, I wrote on Simple, Man.  This morning, I wrote on LinkedIn on D4: Discernment, Detachment, Decisiveness and Discipline.  In it, I suggested a three step process of:

  • STEP ONE. Discern and Detach.
  • STEP TWO. Decide
  • STEP THREE. Do with Discipline

I strongly encourage a read of both posts.  Either way, and this morning… I am understanding, better than I ever have, the importance of execution.

Those goals have been discerned and decided with a detached spirit.  They have been through the ringer of reflection.  In them, I am clear, courageous and confident.

There is no more work left in gaining clarity.  There is work in further discerning on progress.  But, the real work is in execution; in DISCIPLINE.

GOING FORWARD

Going forward, these personal blog posts on Barry’s Blog will center on effort and progress up to and including February 20, 2020 and my 60th birthday… and will focus on the role character plays in having the Discipline to achieve these well discerned, detached and decided goals.  It will be focused on realizing and living that original vision:

  • It is 20022020, and I am a master and lifelong student of the global body of work around character leadership and unity building. I work with noble minded and hearted leaducators, communitrepreneurs and emergents in advancing same. In so doing, I have learned conversational Mandarin and French to bring that work more global. I have also engaged a deepened level of spiritual studies and practice through The Ruhi Institute, and more. I am living a life filled with love, song, dance, cartooning, writing, epic stories, archery and more of what and who I love. My #bestlittledogintheworld Panda is by my side in enjoying it all. I am teaching business leadership at College of the North Atlantic, in class and online; and doing my global work of Epic Engage™. I am loving it! I am 110K in weight (slim for my body structure) and benching same; healthy and strong. And, I am financially ready, willing and able to support special projects in which I deeply want to invest and contribute.

This will be a milestone journey for me on many levels; journaling the exploration of my sense of character in striving to be the person we best are and want to be.  I will be drawing on my own expertise, experience and exploration in doing so.

In some important ways, I am considering myself the proverbial figure within the stone that Michelangelo referenced as his approach to sculpting.  Such a model incorporates the twin notions of being and becoming because we are simply carving out.  This will be such a process for me, and I invite you to follow and engage the road.  Who knows what we might learn?

Could be applicable at school, work, business and community.

As Jean-Luc Picard might say, “Engage”.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

 

Simple, Man

Last week, I wrote on Simpler and HonesterWow, I did not realize how much that would impact me, consciously and otherwise.  Over the last year in particular, I have been purposefully reflecting on meaning for me in and for what I keep calling “the next chapter”.  Specifically, back in March of 2018, I wrote on Aim High.  It considered 5 areas worthy of questions, answers and reflection.  And I wrote The Book on Happiness in that month.  In April of last year, I wrote on #FTSF$%#K the Script…. and Find Your Simplicity… and What is Your Ikigai?  In May 2018, I wrote on 5 Questions for Clarity… and Finding Your Scriptand your fit.   The blogging continued on a variety of topics related to my work (including purposeful reflection) and in January 0f 2019, I wrote on The Tr’a’at is Talking…. Manifest, Oh! and Do the Work.  In February, The BIG Cool Work and Our Universal Three… about Remembering who you are, Readying yourself every day and Rising in action and service.  Indeed, this meandering exploration of me heated up with A Birthday Wish and:

It might seem that this is all I have blogged on, but I write a lot of blogs.  🙂  That being said, and in and amidst all of this reflection and journaling (out of the seeming complexity of same), two things arise for me.

  • FIRST, I suggest meandering has a purpose.  It is called exploration.  Indeed, I suggest any and all of the reads above to nudge your own meandering reflection.
  • SECOND, by traveling the road or river and all its meandering, you invariably arrive at a destination point of sorts for at least that leg of the journey.  For me, that has just happened.

The Next Landing Point

These past few weeks in particular, I have had questions asked of me randomly that have surfaced some realizations and remembrances.  I have had huge and heartfelt disappointments and wondrous surprises that have done same.  And, with it all, there has been almost a bubbling up or boiling down of some simple truths.  Recalling passions, purpose and more.

Specifically, the other day, in a conversation around age of all things, someone asked me how I might describe myself in terms of age.  My answer was quick, forthright and lovingly forceful (and unplanned).  I said that I consider myself a “force of nature”.

I don’t give a “rat’s arse” what number or category you want to apply.  I am thunder and lightning with the “and” in between.  Well, that got me thinking; that and those other direct and unexpected questions along the way.  Actually, it got me realizing some undeniable truths for me.  Undeniable truths are the destination point for reflection.  You are trying to get to them, in terms of your very soul.  Everything else is wishy-washy.  So, what are my undeniables?  I include them here as to what my soul screams in a whisper and not necessarily as how I have been living or not living it of late.

  • In the work I do and the life I live, I am a force of nature, unconstrained as the wind. I live to create, learn and teach for a damn freakin’ better world.  I am an outlier and a misfit who loves humanity.  I revere the human spirit, reveling in it.  Humanity rocks.  Inhumanity rots.  I am accountable to and unapologetically confident in humanity; and my deep desire to live and serve it.  I am not perfect, nor do I believe in it as a noun.  I have made and will make doozies of mistakes. BUT, I damn well sure believe in perfect as a verb.  Perfecting and raising my character is not part of me.  It is me.  In that, I have got a four let word for I don’t care… a whole lotta drive to get me there. I do not care about fame nor fortune, but I live for fierce.  I will work, live, love and play with what I call “activants”; those people who do not want to change the world… they are doing it by their very living in it. No kumbaya.  All, bring it.  I love and live fiercely. Untempered.  Unconstrained, Unconditional. Period.  Force of nature. Dangerous. In the best of ways.  When I am fiercely honest with myself, I love and live like a weapon when the order is “fire everything”. In life and work, I love the extremes of inward, slow and gentle to gregarious, fast and forceful.  I am a creator, student, teacher, singer, dancer, writer, cartoonist on all things character.  I fiercely contend it is the path to vibrant, dynamic, exciting and future driven unity.  And, I loooove that.  I am Barry (Lewis Green).  I am The Unity Guy thing.

This will always evolve in terms of articulation and vocabulary.  But it will not in terms of spirit.  That being said, have I been living this fully?  No.  I have been tempered for way too long, hoping to be comfortable for as many people as possible.  Comfort is good, but it can also be cowardly and complacent.  I want neither.  Never have, though I have tempered myself.  This past year, and over the 4 years since stroke, I have been slowly but steadfastly getting to a space where the shy but immensely creative boy merges with the confident, “successful” but somehow overly-responsible-to-the-wrong-things-and-people man.  It is what drives my nine milestone goals for this year ahead of my next birthday.  The result is and will be some new best of both worlds.  This silly boy and fierce man are one.

Now, many who know or think they know me might say that that is what they see and experience right now, but it is not.  98% pure water is not pure.  And pure is what my soul craves.  No tempering or tampering down.

Does this mean no mistakes?  Hell no.  It does mean I am choosing to get back to and even move the needle on Hell Yeah.  It does mean a rediscovering of an energy buried a bit, for too long.  It does mean a new found kind of boom.

Quite recently, I have been introduced to the music of Damien Rice, LP, Zaz and Brass Against… among others.  Each time, I hear a song that touches my soul, I know.  I don’t have to think about it.  I freakin’ know.  Each time, I meet a person who does the same to and for me, I know.  Each time, I run across a cause that does the very same, I know.  I know. You do too.  You just have to tap in and open up.

Look, conformity for conformity’s sake is numbness.  Conformity for not rocking the boat, is repression and oppression.  Conformity to fit in is a slow death.  I want neither.  I am not in favour of strife nor contention.  But being who you are is not about trying to offend.  Trying to offend is another form of posing.  Asserting your voice is simply finding your place.  As a kid, I knew my voice, all the while learning to speak it.

For You

For you, who might be reading this… here, are my humble suggestions.  First, try out some of the blogs noted and start dabbling or diving in.  Second, practice Courage and Honesty in doing so.  Third, understand that the goal and eventual reality is that you will come to a simple understanding and that is that knowing who you are is right under your nose around about where your heart is found.

In one of my blogs, I suggest that the stars are the Soul, the captain who sets course by the stars is the heart, and the navigator/helmsman is the mind who figures out the way there.  The ship itself is the body.  Understand that and let your soul be your guide, your heart make your best decisions, your mind figure the way, and your best body carry you there.

That is this simple man‘s plan.  Everything else is settling.  To Hell with that.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

Simple and Honest

A few days ago, I wrote on Your 4 Best Horsemen.  In it, I suggested that “Last night, amidst a circus of emotions and though singing the tunes, I thought of 4 words that I now choose to guide me up and into Summer, whereupon I spend 2 months with my bestie and soul sister visiting.  HEALTH. WORK. SIMPLE. LOVE.”  Then earlier today, I posted on broadCASTing Your Ideas.

Tonight, I posted this on Facebook.

  • Since initially articulating my focus on these 9 milestones, real and encouraging progress is happening. That being said, I have been restless of late. It is today that I realize why.  There is a purpose to all of these. It is born of being ready for what I have been calling the “next chapter”. But there is still a depth and breadth of Honesty that needs manifesting for me now.  At this place and space in my life, I am ready. I am ready for a healthier, stronger Barry. I am ready for a more simple and focused life filled with the work I love. I am ready for a life of Panda, dancing, singing, movies, and “coffees”… much of which I have now, but more. And I am finally ready for love; not contrived nor forced nor urgent but when it arrives… I am ready… without plan or intent or timing in mind. Why do I offer this? It does not change who I am or what I do. But, as I approach a Summer that will be remarkable (and it will be)… I need to articulate… to say the words. I will be healthy and strong. I will do the work I love. I will be singing and dancing and doing all the things I love. And, I will be ready. Yeah, I needed to say the words. I have done so. Now, on to living.

All of that is to say that two things occur to me this evening; the power of Simplicity and Honesty.  Get clear on what you truly want, and say it.  Then, go live.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

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Your Best 4 Horsemen

Last week, I wrote on a Discerning Mind. Indeed, these last few days in particular, I have had opportunity to practice.  You see, this weekend marks the 4th anniversary of my mother’s passing to the Next Realm (as I affectionately call it).  I wrote this on Facebook to honor her.

This is a picture of my mother before she was my mother, or a grandmother or great grandmother. I offer this on this day, 4 years after her passing to the Next Realm after 92 years… because it reminds me that lives are more than our memories.  My memories of Marion Green (and my dad Malcolm Green) are grounded in my experiences. But both were people… were young… had their joys and fears… their strengths and challenges… like us all.  They lived. This 4th anniversary is the hardest so far for me… not exactly sure why. My faith is strong. Earned too. I know that. I do not fear that mom or dad or anyone is “gone” or that I have “lost” them. But I miss them both… in this world. Not out of some obsession with memory. I miss the people they were. I am also reminded this day that none of us “get out of life alive” as a mentor and friend once said. Our unconscious sense of invincibility is to be in question. That is not morbid. It expresses the importance of living in this life… truly living. It was a powerful message in “5 Feet Apart” (which I will see again) yesterday… among other very cool moments. Today is hard for me… and it should be. I own it. It is mine. Hard is not awful. It can create a sense of Awe. My life is a gift to me. Our lives are gifts. Watch Dead Poet Society and hear the Professor’s words. Carpe Diem. Seize the Day. This day, I seize the “missing”. I feel it. I embrace it as hard as that is. It is mine. It helps define me and my appreciation for life. Even more importantly, it reminds me that our lives are not a series of pictures or posts… or popularity. My life is mine to use and grow and experience as best I can. Our life is a gift… then appreciating it is more than unwrapping it. It is using it, loving it. This picture speaks to me of a person I never knew … but did. She lived… as Marion Macdonald Green. Miss you mom… and that is a good thing. I think this day is a day for Chapters, Cape Spear, prayer and dreams. My life matters. So does yours.

Rereading this, it still resonates for me today.  As I sang last night, it resonated; choosing songs like Making Plans for Nigel, Auberge and It’s Not My Time.

As well today is the First Day of Ridvan… a sacred time for Baha’is around the world.  And, it is Passover and Easter.  On Good Friday, as noted in my tribute of sorts, I watched “Five Feet Apart” and highly recommend it.  It all has got me thinking about Simplicity, as virtue.

Last night, amidst a circus of emotions and though singing the tunes, I thought of 4 words that I now choose to guide me up and into Summer, whereupon I spend 2 months with my bestie and soul sister visiting.

  • HEALTH
  • WORK
  • SIMPLE
  • LOVE

From this day, April 21 through to June 20, health will guide every decision.  My work as The Unity Guy™ in class and beyond will be a fierce focus only doing what fits… as I enter Intersession at college and a launch of new work with Epic Engage™.  I will sacrifice the less important for the more, in doing so.  I will live simple and with love, practicing Contentment in and amidst the urgency of life.

HEALTH.  WORK. SIMPLE. LOVE.  I am calling them my four horsemen for the now.  They fit my plans. There is alignment. What four words could guide you these next few months?  What four words can be your promise to yourself; at school, work, business and/or community?

Peace, passion and prosperity…

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Discernment and Decision Daily

Last week, I wrote on Every Day is Judgement Day. And on LinkedIn, I wrote this past couple of weeks on The All-In Virtue and My Own Opus.  Here is what is occurring to me this day, this second day into April.

  • Every moment is a moment of judgement; a time of discernment and decision.  It is not unlike walking an unknown trail and being conscious of every step, trusting in our Discernment and Decisiveness.  

On one level, this is not rocket science nor earth shaking but I think we often take that process for granted, and it almost becomes unconscious… not unlike driving the same road every day and taking that trip for granted.  On another level, it requires the practice of deliberate Consideration.

  • What if we considered that our life is an unknown road, because it is?
  • What if we realized that we have not travelled this road before, because we haven’t?
  • What if we took our steps more consciously?
  • What would that look like?

As I walk towards my 9 milestones for my 60th birthday February 20, 2020, I think this is an important recognition.  I have never walked towards my 60th in my 59th before.  I certainly have not established 9 milestone goals before.  Each moment is a judgement call; a discerning decision to place my foot on the next part of the path.  Each decision matters.  Each can take me closer to or further from my intended destination.  Each decision can keep me focused or distract me.  Each decision can shorten or lengthen the time in reaching for intention.

How does this fit for you?  What would this look like?

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

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