Monthly Archives: January 2019

Purpose and Pace

Last week I wrote on my best contract.  It grounded me.  I might suggest a read of it as it speaks to purpose and meaning and more.  I am continuing to read it.

Last Friday, I had an incredible session with entrepreneurs around getting clear on message and meaning.  That session further grounded me in my own sense of purpose.

Then this week, I engaged a big bad bug.  It grounded me too, but in a very different kind of way.  The down time allowed me to ponder what Linda Kavelin-Popov has coined as a pace of grace.  First, I recommend you check out her writing.  I love her work.

But back to the point.  A pace of grace, to my understanding, is not about walking around in some quiet and meditative state at all times.  As Dan Popov once said to me essentially… water has grace in all its forms… as a drop, a trickle, a stream, a river, rapids, water falls and more.  It is being what it is when it is.  Bruce Lee spoke to the capacity of water too.

For me, this week, I am pondering purpose and grace.  What does it mean to know both?  Every creature in nature inherently understands same.  Our minds are wondrous tools but can stand in the way of us “knowing” purpose and grace.  This week, I constructively challenge you to reflect on purpose and grace… and find your pace.

I am.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

My Best Contract

Some time ago, I referenced the notion of dealing with the ducks.  So many things can grab our attention and disrupt and distract… and more… taking our eyes off the prize.  Of late, I have been experiencing the culmination of a strategic reflection over the last year or so in particular; a reflection intended to get a sharper focus on the most important path for me.  A manifestation of that culmination is found in Manifest, Oh!.  In so getting to this space of late, I have been exploring patience in posts on:

The journey has had a last minute spurring from a reading and reflection on:

I offer these up for two reasons.  First, I humbly suggest each is worth a read and reflect as stand alone.  Second, the value in my own going back on what I have written is not lost on me.  When we record, we must always remember that there is value in the review and reflect.  Record, review and reflect offer a powerful, simple process for learning.  I might suggest that record, review, reflect and re-engineer are a powerful foursome.  I guess I just did.  🙂

That being said, in Manifest, Oh!… I stated that:

A manifesto is a published declaration of the intentions and motives. Mine now goes something like this.

  • I believe in humanity and its future and I am prepared to stand for it in faith, thought, will and action. It is my best birthright. I believe it to be all of ours. I unapologetically believe in the nobility of the human spirit and choose to explore and celebrate humanity and the best and truest of heroism, humility, helpfulness and humor. Yup, there is a bunch of H factors worth hoisting and honoring. In so believing…
  • I teach business leadership at College of the North Atlantic, in class and online; and love my global work with Epic Engage™.
  • I work with noble minded and hearted leaducators, communitrepreneurs and emergents in advancing character leadership and unity building.
  • I deliver in English, Mandarin and French to bring that work to the world. 
  • I have also engaged a deepened level of spiritual studies and practice through The Ruhi Institute, and more. 
  • I am living a life filled with love, song, dance, cartooning, writing, epic stories, archery and more of what and who I love. My #bestlittledogintheworld Panda is by my side in enjoying it all. 
  • I am 110K in weight (slim for my body structure) and benching same; healthy and strong. And, I am financially ready, willing and able to support special projects in which I deeply want to invest and contribute.
  • I am loving it! All!

My 90 day strategic plans for 20022020 as referenced in 2019, Here We Come… they remain, and aligned.  Having a powerful set of 90 day plans aligned with a truly resonant vision is a powerful thing as well.  This is why I suggest some rereads of the above, on and of your own.  But, the core of this blog is truly around an a-ha for me this morning.

My Best Contract

Years ago, I discovered this prayer by Abdu’l-Bahá.  I fell in love with it, and then, after a time, took it for granted somewhat.  In saying it this morning, I realized that it is a contract between God and myself. Let me explain.

What I ask of God is this:

O God!  Refresh and gladden my spirit.  Purify my heart.  Illumine my powers. 

What I promise to God is this:

I lay all my affairs in Thy hand. 

What I expect of God is this:

Thou art my Guide and my Refuge. 

What I commit to God is this:

I will no longer be sorrowful and grieved; I will be a happy and joyful being.  O God!  I will no longer be full of anxiety, nor will I let trouble harass me.  I will not dwell on the unpleasant things of life.

What I accept from God is this:

O God!  Thou art more friend to me than I am to myself. 

What I give to God is this:

I dedicate myself to Thee, O Lord.

As a Baha’i, I see God as no “man in the sky”, but an unknowable and truly sentient force that is in ultimate control.  Maybe, the ultimate mathematician. 🙂

That being said, I have my free will, or I would not be choosing to offer up what I do in this prayer.  I could chose not to do so.  That is my right, and responsibility.

So, why is this important?  For me, I now see that the path towards my Vision 20022020 with its 90 day strategic plans, and the living of my manifesto, must needs be best guided by this contract in the form of this prayer.  As I walk resolute towards, I need to remember what I ask and what I promise.

I Ask, Expect and Request

  • I ask to have my spirit refreshed and gladdened, my heart purified of questionable motives, and my powers illumined.  I ask and expect that God be my Guide and Refuge.  I ask and recognize that God be my better friend.

I Promise

  • I promise that I will lay all my affairs in the “hand of God”.  I promise, in so doing, that I will no longer be sorrowful and grieved and that I will be a happy and joyful being.  I promise that I will no longer be full of anxiety, nor will I let trouble harass me.  I promise that I will not dwell on the unpleasant things of life.  Full of anxiety and dwelling on the unpleasant is my promise to avoid.  It does not imply that I will be free of same but that I will not dwell there.  That is significant.  I will have my moments but I will not stay there.  Most of all it means that I promise myself to my best understanding of God.

Whether this resonates for you or not, it does for me.  Whether prayer and God resonate for you or not, there is value in understanding that:

  • a powerful and resonant vision is important
  • 90 day strategic plans are very useful in getting there, and
  • a “spiritual” contract or commitment to guide the walk is advisable.

I have my vision, my plans and now my contract.  Time to up the work and business.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy





Strategic Patience

I have been pondering Patience a bit of late.  Last week, I shared on Patiently Something Fierce. I suggest it a worthy little read, with links.  That being said, I am pondering the strategic application of Patience.

Patience is a powerful strength of character in moving forward and facing the future.  Patience is not simply biting our tongue or holding our breath.  It is a knowing that we will get there; wherever there might be.  Water is patient.  It gets where it needs to go, eventually, despite blocks and dams and obstacles.  It will find a way.  Sometimes it will roar and rush.  Sometimes it will flow, or even trickle.  Sometimes even, it will seem stagnant but it is either evaporating or seeping into the water table.  Either way, it will get where it is going.  It is Patience, as strength.  Much of nature knows this too.  Do the work, and inherently trust in the outcome.

I saw this same quality in Chris Ballard, GM of the Indianapolis Colts in his season closing remarks.  Patience is a quiet but powerful knowing that, as we focus on our work, things will happen.  Patience is a powerful form of confidence.  It is poise personified.  It trusts.  It understand that there is work to do, but it trusts in the process.  So, going forward, it is a powerful, practical strength of character, and it is grown in practice.  For me, the T’ra’at is indeed talking.

When we look on other matters, we need to be strategic in understanding when Patience is called upon, and not.  I strongly suggest that Patience is a noble practice in working and living with others.  Everyone has a journey.  That being said, I have fallen prey in my life to excessively waiting on people with respect to work and projects and initiatives, often over accommodating for their hesitancy.  Unfortunately that hesitancy is often grounded in their inability to say that they are not truly ready, willing or able… and in their desire to politely agree so as not to disappoint.  While we should and must be patient with people, that does not imply that we should accommodate thusly.  Great advice given to me years ago, but only now fully gotten is…

  • … go fiercely in the direction that your soul calls and see who shows up.  Do not entertain the well -intended.  Engage the intent.  Do not accommodate the polite “cannot say no” travelers.  Ride with those who have identified they are going there too.  Be patient with those who cannot or truly do not want to ride with you, but not patient in waiting on them changing their hearts or minds.  The train is rolling, and the right ones will catch up.

I am munching on this; digesting it.  Patience is a strength, and a strategic one at that.  It is wise to know when and where and with whom it is required.

As Joe Calloway puts it in his book The Leadership Mindset, “As the leader, you are the prime keeper and defender of the culture. It is your job. While everyone is part of the culture, you can’t delegate this one because you are the embodiment of the culture. Regardless of what it says on the poster in the break room about ‘Our Culture’ everyone looks to you, what you say, and, more important, how you behave to know what the organization stands for.”  You must assert same.  Patience tells you move forward and trust in the process.  It also tells you that, if some are not on board, you must keep moving.

Whether in school, at work, in business or throughout community… the strategic strength that is Patience must be considered.  As of tomorrow, I have 400 days left for my 20022020 Vision.

  • It is 20022020, and I am a master and lifelong student of the global body of work around character leadership and unity building. I have learned conversational Mandarin and French to bring that work more global. I have also engaged a deepened level of spiritual studies and practice through The Ruhi Institute, and more. I am living a life filled with love, song, dance, cartooning, writing, epic stories, archery and more of what and who I love. My #bestlittledogintheworld Panda is by my side in enjoying it all. I am teaching business leadership at College of the North Atlantic, in class and online; and doing my global work of Epic Engage™. I am loving it! I am 110K in weight (slim for my body structure) and benching same; healthy and strong. And, I am financially ready, willing and able to support special projects in which I deeply want to invest and contribute.

Slow and steady patience in building that vision; I am reminded.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy


Patiently Something Fierce

“Somethin’ fierce” is a phrase I have heard turned locally over the years.  “That weather was somethin’ fierce” … meaning it was definitely intense.  Last week, I posted on The Pit Stop of Patience and the importance that the virtue that is Patience plays in living our best lives.  I believe that it was Elizabeth Barrett Browning who wrote of what we could learn of Patience in nature.

‘O DREARY life,’ we cry, ‘ O dreary life ! ‘
And still the generations of the birds
Sing through our sighing, and the flocks and herds
Serenely live while we are keeping strife
With Heaven’s true purpose in us, as a knife
Against which we may struggle ! Ocean girds
Unslackened the dry land, savannah-swards
Unweary sweep, hills watch unworn, and rife
Meek leaves drop year]y from the forest-trees
To show, above, the unwasted stars that pass
In their old glory: O thou God of old,
Grant me some smaller grace than comes to these !–
But so much patience as a blade of grass
Grows by, contented through the heat and cold.

Panda, my #bestlittledogintheworld demonstrates it.  This morning, I am still reflecting on its power to wait and believe, and trust.  This morning though, I am also reminded of the strength that is fierceness.  Panda demonstrates such as well.  The word fierce can conjure up images of violence and aggression.  But its meaning can also illicit thoughts of strength and assertion.  I consider the former to be faux fierce, and the latter to be the real stuff.  I need the real stuff with my buckets of health, education, service and love this year.  I especially need it with respect to continuing getting back to a healthy, strong body.  Patient and Fierce, oh yes.

Fierce is that strength of both veracity and tenacity.  Veracity is that strength of character grounded in Truthfulness.  Tenacity is that strength grounded in Determination.  Now, imagine Patience with this twin winged power of Truthfulness and Determination.  This does not imply that one has to be the proverbial bull in a China shop.  That, I still consider to be the faux fierce.

It does imply that we know our best destination; the one for which we have the utmost resolve.  It does imply that we not obsess on that which distracts us… our frustrations, fears and idle fantasies.  It does imply that we are (as my dear soul sis and I refer to as) holy all in full arse.  We are wholehearted with being fierce. We are stronger than our fear.  Indeed, the only and true fear we have is in not reaching for that destination, of service and life.  We are willing to give our very all for it.

Imagine the strength that is the balance of Patience and Fierceness.  Imagine the Trust and Certitude in having a clear and strong sense of who you are and where your soul knows you need go.  Imagine that Patience to know you will get there.  Imagine that Fierceness that will bring you the resolve to do so.  One is your ballast.  The other is your sail.

For me, I am pondering such capacity this morning as I continue my journey, and into a new year.   I am reminded by colleagues of the capacity that this time of year potentially brings.  I am reminded that I need to be patiently something fierce.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

The Pit Stop of Patience

On New Year’s Eve, I wrote this on And So It is New Year 2019. It concerned itself with vision and goals, purpose, meaning, character and more… and I truly and humbly do suggest the read.

Last night and today, January 1-2 in the Northeast Avalon including St. John’s and Mount Pearl, we were met with this storm.  At first it promised to be a blizzard, but it turned and is turning out to be two storms in one.  I even liken it to a bit of a snowy hurricane; high winds and snow, lightening up with rain and freezing rain for a bit, then returning to snow and very high winds.  It has grounded the city, at the very beginning of the new year.  For a snapshot look, notice the shovel handle in the far right of the photo, just outside the door.

Yup, walloped a bit hard, and amidst all the plans for the new year.  Social media has been filled with messages for a great new year, and I am sure many had plans to hit the ground running, myself included.  For me, the intent was and is to launch the new EPIC Speakernet…. 26 expert speakers coming together to be available for conferences and events in Newfoundland and Labrador… effective and officially today.  The thought was and is to launch the introduction of #hUmaNITY and Project BLACKWING™… this week.  The thought was and is to launch our now 19 free services… including DELIVER™, CAPS Cares, and Speakeasies™.  And yes, our updated site.  Yes, there were great intentions, and I guess, by noting them here, I have kind of introduced and/or launched each.  Still, I am reminded that journeys require patience.  Even just two days in can test the journey.  We are eager to get at it.  Then, right at the beginning, a wheel can fall off.

Patience is not about biting our tongues or holding our breaths.  Patience is the power (or at least one of the core powers) of the hunt, and the journey.  The hunt is not simply about the chase, but the wait.

And that can be weighty for many of us.  I know that it can be for me. But then and tonight, I think…

Consider Patience

The Virtues Reflection Card says it is hopeful and expectant, un-rushed and gentle with mistakes.  It says it accepts where we are, with an essential confidence that that is not where we will stay.  Patience does not panic or become disturbed or doubtful.  It breathes well. It trusts that we will make it.  It is the tortoise over the hare.  It has a quiet confidence, and sense of certitude.  It know it will get there.

As my back is “gone” and the snow keeps coming, I need to understand this.  As we each reach for that which we most soulfully desire this year, in whatever areas and arenas of our lives, we need to remember that Rome took more than a day.  Our souls know that.  Our egos struggle with it.  Listen to your soul.  Our lives are journeys.  Our years are segments.  Our days are miles.  Some miles are pit stops and we (I) must remember that the pit stops are necessary.  Indeed, I believe it was the remarkable Stephen Covey who once referenced that sometimes we are too busy to stop for gas, and we must stop for gas.

So, as you venture forth in 2019, enjoy the ride, be alert to the times for both movement and stillness.  If it helps, I offer up this prayer I say in remembrance of my sister.

  • Make me ready, in all circumstances, O my Lord, to serve Thee and to set myself towards the adored sanctuary of Thy Revelation and of Thy Beauty. If it be Thy pleasure, make me to grow as a tender herb in the meadows of Thy grace, that the gentle winds of Thy will may stir me up and bend me into conformity with Thy pleasure, in such wise that my movement and my stillness may be wholly directed by Thee.

Among other things, it speaks to me of the necessity of movement and stillness.  It is not all up to me.  I am simply to be ready.  This storm is out of my control, as is much in life.  What is within my grasp is the ability to be ready.  In education, leadership, business community building and more… certainly, in life … in 2019, I wish that you live your life ready and to be alert to the things that come your way.

Listen and live.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

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