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LISTENING and LOVE

Last week, we shared on The Paths of Love. Indeed, throughout September, we have been taking an eye to love and self care.  We have shared on Love and Grace, and The Long, Cool Road … and through the broadCAST September 2019.  We recommend the reads and reflection, and we continue the deeper dive now.

Jenny says…

In my last post, I finished with… “In life there will always be moments to love ourselves enough to rest and take care of our basic needs. But how we come to do that is the real test. This is where we are doing the best with what we have, or what we know. We are taught by people around us how we should and shouldn’t love ourselves. We mirror what we have watched growing up. We allow people to plants seeds, such as, selfish, lazy, high maintenance, or needy. When in all reality it is a basic need of ours. We NEED to care for ourselves. However that looks to each of us may be completely different or one in the same. Now like I said, we are either taught how to love ourselves or we learn. So, let us learn.”

Since then, I have thought:

  • Self-care is whatever you feel it might be. It is the things that fill your tank. For me that is cuddling into my boy, going for a nice meal by myself, or just going for a walk amongst nature. It can also be a pedicure, or a hot bath, or dressing up in your nicest clothes and getting out of the house for a bit. It honestly doesn’t take much. I find myself becoming depleted when I don’t try to do those things for myself. I guess what I am saying, is the notion of self- love and self-care is wonderful, but to really kick ourselves into gear to do it seems to be a problem within many these days.
  • I just sent a text to a dear friend to say hi and to let her know I missed her. I asked how she was, she mentioned she was exhausted. She has had a full summer, with visitors and adventure and has yet to slow down. But in that text, I knew that she was clearly feeling the tired lagging feeling that we all feel in moments. My response was “Go rest, listen to your body and rest.” Sounds simple right? But it isn’t as simple as that. She feels the need to entertain and accommodate her guests. And that’s cool. But she needs to entertain and accommodate her body, and what her body needs. And in little moments our body will tell us. It will scream at us. It will begin to shut down. Whether it is through pure exhaustion, or anger, or irritability or tears. WE NEED TO LISTEN!!! I have to listen.  I will share more after I do.  🙂 

Barry says…

Love it, Jenny.  Listening is a manifestation of love.  Listening is a power of L.O.V.E..  If L.O.V.E. is LOOKING inside ourselves for our strengths, seeking out OPPORTUNITIES where those strengths are most needed, having a VISION of how applying those strengths to the opportunities will make life better, and then ENGAGING the action… then listening is one of those powers in potential.

  • Listening
  • Is
  • Sincerity
  • Trust
  • Empathy
  • Now

Listening is love in action.  It is sincere.  It is worthy of trust.  It is empathy in action.  And, it is in the now.  It is present.  In the Virtues Project™, we suggest Companioning is listening.  It is 7-step, character driven process of sincerity, trustworthiness, empathy and presence, in the now. It has no agenda but to be present with sincerity, trust and empathy.  It has no answers, but a love to be that presence, with ears and heart.

You can find a copy here, or here.  Or you can connect with me at barry(at)epicengage.com and I will send you a copy.

Either way, I suggest listening is a manifestation of love; and a powerful one.  And, I suggest (as does Jenny) that we listen to others, and ourselves.  Be your own best companion and you can be a better one for others.

Until next time…

TOGETHER

Together, we continue to be committed to living a joyful life and work.

Best friends do that.

Together, we will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.

Join us, stay tuned and engage us.  Our lives matter.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

 

PLUS…

CHECK OUT OUR COACHING

and our MULTIVERSE of online forums and offerings

 

Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

 

The Paths of Love

In lasts week’s post on Love and Grace, we continued an exploration of caring for ourselves, which we started with in The Long, Cool Road and followed into broadCAST September 2019.  We recommend the reads and reflection, and we continue the deeper dive this week.

Jenny says…

To date, and essentially, I have offered the following in retrospect.  Allow me to recap.

This Blog may very well be all over the place in thought. As I have been these past couple weeks. I don’t mind saying it like it is, as you probably have noticed by reading my last blog, I am quite up-front and honest. I am usually very positive and upbeat. But guess what, I am human like the rest us, and I am exhausted. I have been pushing myself to the limit in every aspect of my life. I have been trying to be a kick-ass Mom, Friend, Partner and Student. Well I only have so much to give. I guess what I am saying is that in order to fill your own tank, you need to do things that you love. Even then you can find yourself drained and depleted. I am a prime example of that this past week.  

This summer has been full, beautiful and extraordinary. So many positives, yet I am pooped. I am a strong believer in self-care. A huge believer. But even in the moments of self-care, my mind is in full speed, thinking of all that I need to do in the next five years of my life. Which in all honesty does not help or benefit me in the slightest. While most structure their lives around schedule and organization, my life just doesn’t work well that way. Or at least I don’t think it does. Lord knows I have tried. I am a fly by the seat of my pants kind of girl. I get things done, and if I don’t, I clearly didn’t think it was needed in that particular time, or in that particular order. I know I am not the only one that lives like this. Other people may think it is chaos, where I find it comfortable. It just works. Rather than getting into how it works, which I don’t think really matters. We all work differently. I want to talk more about doing the best that we can with what we know. And finding what fits and benefits your life. 

I am currently reading a Brene Brown book called Rising Strong. She is a phenomenal writer and I find myself relating to most of her writings. I have to say it is taking me a LONG time reading because of that thing we call life. I take all the moments I can spare to sit and read for a bit. But let’s be real, I also have a million other things that I want to do. Be lazy and watch Netflix, eat cheesecake, do my nails, hang with my boy, maybe just do absolutely nothing while scrolling through Pinterest. You know, all those important valid things. Which I think at times we need to do. I think it is a part of unwinding and letting ourselves breathe for a moment in time.  

In Brene’s book she talks about doing the best that we can with what we know. I relate this to Child and Youth Care (in which I am studying), and life in general. Brene talks about finding people ignorant or rude, or responding a certain way to something. At first, we look at the person like they have ten heads. Like maybe they are just jerks. That’s not the case. We are simply doing the best with what we are given. We are doing our best in life with our skills and knowledge. This speaks to me on many levels. In society, as a parent, as a friend, as an employee, or with ourselves. I look at how I am to others. I love them, I love everyone really. I find the best in anyone and everyone. That is because I was raised that way. Raised to be kind, empathetic, compassionate, and respectful. That built a love and understanding within me that I use outward. I treat others with love because I was treated with love. It is my norm. But when it comes to taking moments to care for me, that isn’t so natural. I can’t exactly blame it on my upbringing, but it is more of a generational thing as far as I am concerned. I feel like moments of relaxing, taking a nap, going to a spa, or getting your hair done, may have been considered more of a selfish act. When really it isn’t. It is taking little moments to love yourself.  

Because this is not such a natural act, I get stuck in moments of self-care, with little imprints of caring for others or thinking about the million things I need to do. That is not self-care at its finest. I know how difficult it is to completely unwind, allowing your mind to compartmentalize the important and not so important things we need to focus on at that time. I guess therefore I have been left exhausted. I have been doing things for myself amid chaos these past couple weeks. But clearly, I have not allowed myself to detach and let go of everything I have no control over in that very moment. If I can’t fix it now, then get into that little box inside of my head so I can push it away somewhere until I can address it or accommodate it.  

Let me add something this week.

  • In life there will always be moments to love ourselves enough to rest and take care of our basic needs. But how we come to do that is the real test. This is where we are doing the best with what we have, or what we know. We are taught by people around us how we should and shouldn’t love ourselves. We mirror what we have watched growing up. We allow people to plants seeds, such as, selfish, lazy, high maintenance, or needy. When in all reality it is a basic need of ours. We NEED to care for ourselves. However that looks to each of us may be completely different or one in the same. Now like I said, we are either taught how to love ourselves or we learn. So, let us learn.

In my next post, and upon reflection, I will share thoughts on what that might look like.

Barry says…

I love the idea Jenny is proposing.  Self care and love are unique to each of us; as is balance.

Yesterday was a bit a remarkable day for me.  In Public Relations class with some music students, we talked on the importance of self awareness as an artist… and the need to be authentic in our “branding”.  Posing creates much more work, to maintain the pose.

Last evening, I attended a memorial for a former student who took his own life last week.  Sam was a gifted Soul; gifted with compassion, generosity, kindness, thoughtfulness, creativity, enthusiasm, joyfulness and more.  And yet, he chose to depart this realm.  I shared this post on my feelings around the news and the day yesterday morning.  Then, last night and upon reflection after the memorial, I shared this Facebook live post, around thoughts on Sam and more.  I shared this post yesterday as well… on Sam’s family choosing to advance the necessary dialogue on suicide.

So What?

And so why do I offer up such?  I would suggest that self care and self love are grounded in seeing our best self and character, and honoring it.  I suggested in class that one powerful form of self love is to love others.  In other words, when we fully identify and accept who we are here most to love … and love them… we love ourselves.  This does not imply trying to save everyone.  It does imply that choosing to be of service to those who matter most to us can run parallel to us taking time to take care of ourselves.

For example, I spent a great deal of my adult life trying hard to please everyone.  In the final analysis, and with great mentors, I realized that I get to pick who I choose to best serve.  For all, I choose to try to give friendliness and joyfulness as a countenance.  That is my universal service.

But to maintain my best energy and care, my personal and professional lives have a sharper focus.  With Epic Engage™, we serve those world embracing and noble minded educators, entrepreneurs and emerging leaders who get it or want to get it.  We are clear on that.  We are not here to convince or preach but serve who best and most needs our work.  We get to choose when and where and how.

With my personal life, I have my Camelot, my tribe, my chosen family who will get my very best.

Stephen Covey referred to this prioritization as the big rocks.  I referenced it in The Long, Cool Road.

Ultimately, I am suggesting that self love and the love of others are parallel journeys; but we must be very strategic in choosing who we best serve.  During this most busy term of my life (and it indeed is), the best way I will take care of myself is to choose who I will actively and purposefully serve and love best.  I only have so much to give, and I must needs choose where I will best give.  In so doing, I will both take care of my energy and health, and I will feel best fulfilled with the feeling that I have been there for the people who matter most.  Caring for them in my personal and professional lives shows care for me.  I think that is what Andy Grammer sings of here.

My 10-Day Path to Love

So, I am taking on a personal 10-day project to sharpen the blades and simplify.  I saw this meme on Facebook, reminding me of the intriguing numerical significance of 10 days in September 2019.

91#19 with the # running from 0 through 9.  Intriguing indeed.

Each day, I will eliminate one distraction or add one habit.

Yesterday, on the first day, I decided that I will no longer engage in any activity unless I feel a real energy is there for movement.  In other words, I need to feel a “Hell Yeah”.  If not, I do not.

Today, and in honor of Sam, I will commit to one simple, conscious act of kindness each day.  I tend to think of myself as typically kind… but I am intent on making sure a day does not go by where I do not take one simple act of kindness, in word or deed.

Over the next 8 days, I will establish 8 other commitments.   Whether you start your own act now during this period or not… think about taking 10 days and making 10 simple commitments to cut things out or commit to simple actions that will love you and others.

See where that takes you.  I will let you know my 10 next week.  🙂

TOGETHER

Together, we are committed to living a joyful life and work.  Best friends do that.

Together, we will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

Peace, passion and prosperity…

 

PLUS…

CHECK OUT OUR COACHING

and our MULTIVERSE of online forums and offerings

 

Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

The Long, Cool Road

In our last blog, Be Open, we spoke to just that; being open.  To follow on that theme, and through September, we thought to explore openness to life, as it is.

A mentor of Barry’s once said “life is best lived, living it at it’s own speed”.  This pic and post from Jon Tesh stumbled across our radar last night.  Barry posted it on Facebook, and added, “Strength is in living the story as most nobly you can…”.  Ultimately, we are all positively challenged to live the long, cool road as best we can.

Still, we often either rush or resist the forces of life, choosing drive over flow.  Here, and for the next few blog posts, here and on LinkedIn, we explore thoughts around love, character and flow.

Here, we begin to digest on thoughts around love, character and living.  In the broadCAST for September, we will continue the exploration, and into our September Benny and Jarry posts.  It promises to be real, raw, reflective and re-creating.  For now…

Jenny says…

Hmmmmm…. Where do I begin???  This Blog may very well be all over the place in thought. As I have been these past couple weeks. I don’t mind saying it like it is, as you probably have noticed by reading my last blog, I am quite up-front and honest.

I am usually very positive and upbeat. But guess what, I am human like the rest us, and I am exhausted. I have been pushing myself to the limit in every aspect of my life. I have been trying to be a kick-ass Mom, Friend, Partner and Student. Well I only have so much to give.

I guess what I am saying is that in order to fill your own tank, you need to do things that you love. Even then you can find yourself drained and depleted. I am a prime example of that this past week.

This summer has been full, beautiful and extraordinary. So many positives, yet I am pooped. I am a strong believer in self-care. A huge believer. But even in the moments of self-care, my mind is in full speed, thinking of all that I need to do in the next five years of my life. Which in all honesty does not help or benefit me in the slightest.

While most structure their lives around schedule and organization, my life just doesn’t work well that way. Or at least I don’t think it does. Lord knows I have tried. I am a fly by the seat of my pants kind of girl. I get things done, and if I don’t, I clearly didn’t think it was needed in that particular time, or in that particular order. I know I am not the only one that lives like this. Other people may think it is chaos, where I find it comfortable. It just works.

Rather than getting into how it works, which I don’t think really matters. We all work differently. I want to talk more about doing the best that we can with what we know. And finding what fits and benefits your life.  In the upcoming broadCAST, I will explore some thoughts around that.  For now, I repeat, “We all work differently… We all work differently… doing the best that we can with what we know… finding what fits and benefits your life.”

Barry says…

Jenny brings up a great point and one around which I have been, myself, thinking on this past week, probably unbeknownst to my bestie even.  Just yesterday was my first day back into the College year, and I posted this on Day One.  In it, I suggested:

“On this first day of the College year, I find there can be elements of overwhelm. For those passionate about teaching and doing our level best, it is a 10 month journey every year, standing in front of and with 15-30 souls at a time and engaging learning in the best of ways. For my speaker colleagues, it is not unlike 24 keynotes a week. This year, I want and intend to take it up another notch and the next 4 months in particular, for me, are going to be truly filled. Filled with delivering courses, studying character leadership and education, co-leading on Epic, learning basic Mandarin, enjoying song and dance, and getting into optimal health and shape. It will be filled, and today is the first day. Day One. :)”

First, I suggest a read of that post.  Second, and even last night, I ran into my own overthinking brain.  It caused my own sense of racing, and I knew that this cannot be maintained over these next 4 months of growth.  Strategic thinking and planning is important, but there is a time and place.  I have done mine.

Now, it is about execution… and execution is in the now.  Knowing what is important now and in the future allows me to prioritize on the go.  I choose those things that will serve me in the now and going forward.  It is about flow over drive.  A wolf does not spend countless hours considering and planning.  It knows what is important to it, and it goes and does that, as needed, when needed… from rest to hunting, and everything in between.  It is true throughout nature.

Over these next few weeks, and starting with the broadCAST, I too will explore thoughts around being as the best form of doing.

As children, we knew what was important to us… and I am not simply talking about play.  I knew what “causes” were important to me.  The work of this company is grounded in those, but I find I get distracted with what Stephen Covey would call the smaller rocks…. and sand. My own exploration this month will be about the aspects of character needed to beautifully and fiercely focus on the big rocks so that we live in the now and look forward to the future.

TOGETHER

Together, we are committed to living a joyful life and work.  Best friends do that.  Together, we will explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.  We think this will get interesting; and out of this will come many cool, long road beautiful moments from the Benny and Jarry experience.  Join us, stay tuned and engage us.  Our lives matter.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

 

PLUS…

CHECK OUT OUR COACHING

and our MULTIVERSE of online forums and offerings

 

Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

 

 

The Practice of Love

We have started a new chapter with Benny and Jarry.  With that, we have already shared on From Jenny, with Love and then Love and Character.  Indeed, and over the coming months, we intend to expand into PODcasts of what we are affectionately calling the Benny and Jarry Show, exploring real and raw on love and character and how they make for better living, working and playing.  Stay tuned.  🙂

As a conclusion to the opening 4 rounds of this new blog adventure (with much more to come), and for this week, we thought to share on practice.

Jenny on Practice

With practicing self-love comes health benefits. You will see that self-love is simply about owning our own power and acting from a place of kindness toward ourselves. It helps us let go of blame, shame, and anger. We invite ownership and power into our lives, while becoming completely responsible for our own lives; along with recognizing that we are the source to our happiness… the source to the power to change our futures, careers, relationships, passion, compassion, empathy, and authenticity.

It’s then that we begin to believe in our power. What matters is how we feel about ourselves, rather than others’ opinions. Practicing self-love puts us at peace. We accept our strengths and weaknesses. Unconditionally. All the self-love that we are now providing ourselves, allows us to show up and live our destined purpose… thus allowing us to let go of loneliness and embrace a deeper connection with the world… and attracting harmony, peace, spaciousness, and significance in relationships.

The more we look at ourselves with love, the more we practice love and acceptance towards others; accepting mistakes and failure and inviting vulnerability into our lives. We accept that we are enough. That there is no room for comparing ourselves to others.

When we love ourselves, we give birth to creativity, inspiration, and openness. Reality is accepted rather than blaming and fighting it, while, accepting failure knowing that it is one step closer to growth.

Allowing ourselves to grow gives us more energy to spread love and joy. Your positive love for yourself shines naturally and good things gravitate towards that energy. Lastly, we feel safe knowing that we will always be there for ourselves (Cynthia Belmer, Mind Body, Jan 2014).

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry on Practice

Character is about practice.  We are not born with Patience.  We practice it.  We are born with all virtues, in potential.  Potential becomes practical when practiced.  Courage and Confidence can be practiced.  Empathy and Compassion can be practiced.  Discernment and Creativity can be practiced.  Love can be practiced.  Indeed, in our last post, I suggested:

  • … that L.O.V.E. is about the practice of character.  LOOK inside yourself for your strengths of character.  Identify them.  Name them, Claim them.  Then, seek out OPPORTUNITIES where they are most needed.  Discover what work, jobs, careers and vocations require them.  Discover what services and hobbies demand them.  Yes, identify your strengths of character and to where they are most called.  Then, have a VISION in your head and heart as to how the world, or your corner of it, will be better when you do apply your strengths to those opportunities.  Then, simply ENGAGE.  Do it.  That is how we L.O.V.E. our work.  That is how we L.O.V.E. our service, and play and school and community and life.  We look inside for our strengths of character, seek out opportunities where they are needed most, have a vision of their impact, and engage.

The late, great Stephen Covey suggested that love is an action.  I suggest that it is a virtue, accessible to us all; and that it is accessible to us in our actions, through practice.  When we look inside ourselves for our strengths (virtues, knowledge, skills, abilities) and then find opportunities to serve the world (or our corner of it) with those strengths, while having that vision of service in our head and heart… and we engage the process… we LOVE.  We LOVE our work, our business, our school, our family, our friends and ourselves.  We LOVE our life.  And it is a practice.

Jenny provides examples of that above, and the benefits of doing same.  I suggest that practice makes permanent.  The more we practice, the better we get.  The more we practice any virtue, the more body memory we create in knowing how to live it.  In the days and weeks and months to come, I will continue to share on the art and science of character, and it’s relevance to L.O.V.E..  And I will be practicing, for life.  I need it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

To You, Our Friend and Reader

Jenny and I (and Benny and Jarry) are so excited about the conversations and content ahead.  We hope you are too… and we thank you for joining us on the journey.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

CHECK OUT OUR COACHING

and our MULTIVERSE of online forums and offerings

 

Love and Character

In our last post, From Jenny, with Love, we commenced a journey; a new chapter with Benny and Jarry (aka Barry and Jenny lol).

Going forward, we will write on character, love, unity and excellence as it relates to living and working and serving and playing our lives away; whether as educators, entrepreneurs, emerging leaders or anyone looking to get more out of life by giving more to the lives of themselves and others.

Each week, we will offer up thoughts on the journey of Love and Character.  We suggest that Character + Love = Unity = Excellence.  We contend that Love and Character combine to produce palpable, powerful, practical Unity at school, work, business and community… that advances Excellence.

And we share thoughts here.

JENNY says

As I sit here tonight, with my freshly washed face and hair in a ponytail, I reflect on this beautiful, life changing week. My heart is happy. Although it has been for a couple years now. That being said, it has been a journey. A journey of awareness, of self-acceptance, of hardcore, no pussy footin’ around kind of honesty with myself and others. It has been joyous, and raw and real. And I continue to see the world through different lenses… the more I love myself, the more I am loving everyone else.

Don’t get me wrong, there are times I want to lay a smackdown on some people, but guess what??? This new and improved Jenny 2.0 has patience and awareness that I never thought I would be armed with. I am unstoppable.

Ok, let’s get down to the nitty gritty here.

I WAS NOT always this way, believe me. I never knew what it was to love me completely. Until these past few years. It took a swift kick in the ass for me to see who I am and all I have to offer. I guess what I am getting at is that I would ideally love to say that it only takes a few easy steps, but no I am not going to pussy foot around with you either. It is tough.

It is tough.  Your self-doubt and self-loathing will test you. Will scream loudly the moment you begin to think “Hell ya, I am worth it.” It may even kick you down and throw dirt in your face time and time again. But that is just a small little piece of what will make you the kick-ass warrior that you will become.

I have no doubt that if I can achieve this love within myself, anyone can. I want to share my journey with you, I want you to share yours with me. I want you to know how damn important that you are in this world. That YOU are worth all of your own love.

We give so freely to others. And it is a beautiful thing. Don’t ever water that part of yourself down. But start loving yourself the same way. Be empathetic towards your life experiences. Don’t judge yourself in such a harsh way. Be gentle with your heart. You are so precious.

And I hope that this blog that I am just starting helps guide you to that place somehow. This is a journey, for not only me, but for all you beautiful souls reading this. This may not flow, each week I might have a different topic. But there will always be a taste of self-love, appreciation for yourself and others, notes on how to work on becoming more in tune with all your loving qualities, and just random messages on love in general.

What we so desperately need in the world.

So, join me on this journey of falling in love with everything life has to offer, including ourselves <3

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry says

I love the message Jenny brings.  I love the fact that we are writing together going forward.  I love who Jenny is and for what she stands.  I love our incredible friendship and the work and play and life that unfolds from it.  Indeed, I love my life.  I get to teach business at the college level. I get to do this beautiful work with Epic Engage™.  I get to speak, teach, facilitate, coach, consult, create, sing, dance, write, blog, vlog and more… and with Jenny.  I love it, all.  I love my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda, and my modest beautiful little home I call The Greens.  I love my life.

We just completed an incredible retreat centering on the work of The Virtues Project™… exploring the 5 Strategies for building lives and cultures of character (I will share more as the weeks and months go by).   I often suggest that Love is a virtue.  It is an emotion.  And it is action.  I suggest that L.O.V.E. is about the practice of character.  LOOK inside yourself for your strengths of character.  Identify them.  Name them, Claim them.  Then, seek out OPPORTUNITIES where they are most needed.  Discover what work, jobs, careers and vocations require them.  Discover what services and hobbies demand them.  Yes, identify your strengths of character and to where they are most called.  Then, have a VISION in your head and heart as to how the world, or your corner of it, will be better when you do apply your strengths to those opportunities.  Then, simply ENGAGE.  Do it.  That is how we L.O.V.E. our work.  That is how we L.O.V.E. our service, and play and school and community and life.  We look inside for our strengths of character, seek out opportunities where they are needed most, have a vision of their impact, and engage.  Indeed, that is the Epic Engage™.

I have been in this work of leadership training and development for 39 years.  I have earned my stripes the great, good, bad and ugly ways.  I have L.O.V.E.d every minute of it.  The errors have been teachers, getting me to consider what strengths of character I better needed to practice.  The successes have been teachers in celebrating those I have practiced.  Character has its teachable moments and L.O.V.E. requires character.

In times of trial, I have asked myself what strength of character were either missing or not being practiced, with the notion of putting them into practice.  In times of triumph, I have asked myself what strengths of character were present in order to replicate, going forward.

Character is the soil from which the tree of behaviour grows.  Pay attention to the soil and the tree will take care of itself.  Ask yourself, in any given situation, what virtues were present or what were not.  Ask yourself what do you need to continue practicing or start to practice.  Character is about practice.  Practice makes permanent.  Challenges teach us when we practice character.  Successes celebrate our best selves when we practice character.

My life has not been easy.  Very few of us can say life ever truly is.  Life has its challenges.  It also has its growth, resulting from same.  It has joy and love and so much more.  It certainly has for me.  Going forward, I will be sharing examples of L.O.V.E. in action.  I will be writing, with Jenny, on love and character and their twin powers to advance real, raw and results driven living.  This will be a sincere and simple exploration of the role character plays in our lives.  I am excited to explore.  Hope you are!

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love

Benny and Jarry

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A New Chapter with Benny and Jarry

Last week, I posted on My Summer CAMP.  In it, and among other things, I suggested that, “My thought to you is four-fold.

  • Cleansing of mind, body and spirit requires honesty, openness and courage.
  • Doing so is an investment.
  • Doing so requires us to be open, adaptive and relentless (your OARs in the water).
  • The return is high, on Clarity and Confidence.”

Such as been born out this past week, with changes coming to Epic Engage™ and how and why and with whom we work it.  One of the first changes is to this blog.  Going forward, much of my own work will be with my best friend and comrade in arms, Jenny Dearing.  You will learn more of Jenny in the days and weeks to come but our work together is driven by the advancement of character, love, unity and excellence.  What does that mean?  You will find out soon.

For now, let me suggest that I am personally more clear than ever on what Epic Engage™ stands and works and serves for, going forward.  Here, the blog will be known as Benny and Jarry, to represent the combined work of two best friends with passions and capacities for work that matters to both of us.  More important for now, it is a reminder that my question to you last week still stands.

How can you see yourself cleansing and getting to the essentials How can do CAMP?  How can you have those cool, meaningful conversations with those you deeply trust… to explore who you are and what has most meaning. How can you take actions needed to align in accordance?  How can you meditate on such, nay even pray?  I am thinking July and August will continue to be CAMP, for me…. as I get ever more clear on the work, service and play ahead.

Stay tuned for the first of Benny and Jarry, and look forward to a fierce and fun mission and service as we move forward together, stronger.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

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My Summer CAMP

Last week, I published Summer Cookin’ with the AL’s.   I am holding true to it.  I have met with Felicia Newell and Jon Butler on plans for my health this Summer and into the Fall of 2019.  And, I am excited about same.  In a nutshell, and drawing on my last post, I reiterate my vision:

  • SpirituAL … I am a spiritually connected man, and Baha’i
  • EmotionAL… I am a Simple Man, best friend to my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda
  • PersonAL… I am a singer, dancer, cartoonist, writer, archer and storyteller
  • PhysicAL… I am a man of 36″ waist and 100 kilos
  • MateriAL… I am a man of simple beautiful home and car, with new bed, telescope and wardrobe
  • FinanciAL… I am a man of healthy WEALTH, not extravagant but allowing me to do the work I love and love the work I do, to live the life I love and love the life I live, and support the causes and people in which I believe most
  • VocationAL, ProfessionAL, OccupationAL… I am an educator, for life
  • EntrepreneuriAL… I am The Unity Guy™ of Epic Engage™, the global Character Leadership Company
  • EducationAL… I am a master student and teacher on character leadership, education and unity building, able to speak in English, Mandarin and French

And, now, I am taking 6 days to disappear and cleanse.  I will get more clear, with a much deeper dive.  Some niggling things demand such.  I will pray and meditate.  I will pray and meditate, and act. I will be that spiritually connected man, Baha’i.

I will pray and meditate on what it means to be that Simple Man, and best friend to my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda.  I will pray and meditate on what is speaking to me about singing, dancing, cartooning, writing, and more.  I will pray and meditate on my physical vision; a man of 36″ waist and 100 kilos.  I will pray and meditate on my simple beautiful home and car, with new bed, telescope and wardrobe.  I will pray and meditate on being a man of healthy WEALTH, not extravagant but allowing me to do the work I love and love the work I do, to live the life I love and love the life I live, and support the causes and people in which I believe most.  I will pray and meditate on my work as educator and entrepreneur.,, as The Unity Guy™ of Epic Engage™.  And, I will pray and meditate on being a master student and teacher on character leadership, education and unity building, able to speak in English, Mandarin and French.

Yes, I will pray and meditate; and be open.  Shoghi Effendi once said that there are 5 suggested steps to prayerful problem solving:

  • Pray and meditate about it. Use the prayers of the Manifestations as they have the greatest power. Then remain in the silence of contemplation for a few minutes.
  • Arrive at a decision and hold this. This decision is usually born during the contemplation. It may seem almost impossible of accomplishment but if it seems to be as answer to a prayer or a way of solving the problem, then immediately take the next step.
  • Have determination to carry the decision through. Many fail here. The decision, budding into determination, is blighted and instead becomes a wish or a vague longing. When determination is born, immediately take the next step.
  • Have faith and confidence that the power will flow through you, the right way will appear, the door will open, the right thought, the right message, the right principle or the right book will be given you. Have confidence, and the right thing will come to your need. Then, as you rise from prayer, take at once the fifth step.
  • …lastly, ACT; Act as though it had all been answered. Then act with tireless, ceaseless energy. And as you act, you, yourself, will become a magnet, which will attract more power to your being, until you become an unobstructed channel for the Divine power to flow through you.

You can find more, here.  Most importantly, I will act on that clarity that comes from such prayer and meditation; as the advice is given above.  I will enter such with open mind and heart.  I will be relentless.  I will carve out my own best truth.

My thought to you is four-fold.

  • Cleansing of mind, body and spirit requires honesty, openness and courage.
  • Doing so is an investment.
  • Doing so requires us to be open, adaptive and relentless (your OARs in the water).
  • The return is high, on Clarity and Confidence.

How can you see yourself cleansing and getting to the essentials?  For me, I have done much of such this past year, but, of late, I have come to see that I need this one big push… to truly get back to me.  It may not radically change things (or it may).  But, it is always best to get on your best path.

So, I am disappearing for a week.  I will have conversations with those I deeply trust.  I will take actions needed.  I will meditate.  I will pray.

It is CAMP, for me.  🙂

See you on the other side.

In the meantime, and in related news, consider the latest Leaducator July 2019.  It has relevance, resonance and links worthy of consideration I humbly offer.  Engage and enjoy.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

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My Birthday Ticket

Last week, I wrote on Wander, Wonder, Ponder, Render … where I suggested that a four step process for exploring decisions for our lives moving forward might go like:

  • wander through your life from birth to now, walking through the life events as they have happened (I call it walking your life line).  Be deliberate and walk the journey.  That which we most remember, we do so for good reason.
  • be in a state of wonder in doing so, realizing this as an epic journey filled with trials and triumphs and everything in between.
  • ponder their most constructive lessons for you.  Ultimately, each trial and triumph is a teacher.
  • then render some form of decision on where you go from here.

Today, on the eve of my 59th birthday, and in part born of such a process this week, I both wrote this on Our Universal Three and created this “birthday ticket”.  The birthday ticket identifies a concise list of things to happen in this, my 60th year, and ahead of my 60th birthday next February 2020… yup, this time next year.  They include 9 milestones that will make my 60th my best birthday yet.

  • 36” waist, healthy and strong; best shape of life
  • master and lifelong student of character  and unity
  • speaker in English, Mandarin and French
  • student with The Ruhi Institute
  • lover, singer dancer, cartoonist, writer, archer and storyteller
  • simple man with my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda
  • business educator with CNA
  • Strategic Leader with Epic Engage™
  • financially capable contributor to the world.

This “ticket” is now present on my desktop at College, and at home.  It is on my phone.  It is concise and clear.  It is a one year bucket-grocery list of gifts to me, in becoming and being.  It represents my 20022020 Vision of:

  • It is 20022020, and I am a master and lifelong student of the global body of work around character leadership and unity building. I work with noble minded and hearted leaducators, communitrepreneurs and emergents in advancing same. In so doing, I have learned conversational Mandarin and French to bring that work more global. I have also engaged a deepened level of spiritual studies and practice through The Ruhi Institute, and more. I am living a life filled with love, song, dance, cartooning, writing, epic stories, archery and more of what and who I love. My #bestlittledogintheworld Panda is by my side in enjoying it all. I am teaching business leadership at College of the North Atlantic, in class and online; and doing my global work of Epic Engage™. I am loving it! I am 110K in weight (slim for my body structure) and benching same; healthy and strong. And, I am financially ready, willing and able to support special projects in which I deeply want to invest and contribute.

It is served by my 90 day strategic plans… and I have aimed and claimed my way to this clarity.  All of this is to say that I highly recommend the process of identifying your gifts to you this year.  They can end up being gifts to the world.  In my case, these 9 milestones above answer:

  • Remembering who I am and want to be as Barry Lewis Green
  • Readying myself by learning and developing in the areas that are most aligned for me.
  • Rising to serve as such where I best can.

So, how about you?  For your birthday, or any launch day, what might you set aside as the gifts of gains in your life?  What gains can you lay claim to that will serve in you being your very best?

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

Patiently Something Fierce

“Somethin’ fierce” is a phrase I have heard turned locally over the years.  “That weather was somethin’ fierce” … meaning it was definitely intense.  Last week, I posted on The Pit Stop of Patience and the importance that the virtue that is Patience plays in living our best lives.  I believe that it was Elizabeth Barrett Browning who wrote of what we could learn of Patience in nature.

‘O DREARY life,’ we cry, ‘ O dreary life ! ‘
And still the generations of the birds
Sing through our sighing, and the flocks and herds
Serenely live while we are keeping strife
With Heaven’s true purpose in us, as a knife
Against which we may struggle ! Ocean girds
Unslackened the dry land, savannah-swards
Unweary sweep, hills watch unworn, and rife
Meek leaves drop year]y from the forest-trees
To show, above, the unwasted stars that pass
In their old glory: O thou God of old,
Grant me some smaller grace than comes to these !–
But so much patience as a blade of grass
Grows by, contented through the heat and cold.

Panda, my #bestlittledogintheworld demonstrates it.  This morning, I am still reflecting on its power to wait and believe, and trust.  This morning though, I am also reminded of the strength that is fierceness.  Panda demonstrates such as well.  The word fierce can conjure up images of violence and aggression.  But its meaning can also illicit thoughts of strength and assertion.  I consider the former to be faux fierce, and the latter to be the real stuff.  I need the real stuff with my buckets of health, education, service and love this year.  I especially need it with respect to continuing getting back to a healthy, strong body.  Patient and Fierce, oh yes.

Fierce is that strength of both veracity and tenacity.  Veracity is that strength of character grounded in Truthfulness.  Tenacity is that strength grounded in Determination.  Now, imagine Patience with this twin winged power of Truthfulness and Determination.  This does not imply that one has to be the proverbial bull in a China shop.  That, I still consider to be the faux fierce.

It does imply that we know our best destination; the one for which we have the utmost resolve.  It does imply that we not obsess on that which distracts us… our frustrations, fears and idle fantasies.  It does imply that we are (as my dear soul sis and I refer to as) holy all in full arse.  We are wholehearted with being fierce. We are stronger than our fear.  Indeed, the only and true fear we have is in not reaching for that destination, of service and life.  We are willing to give our very all for it.

Imagine the strength that is the balance of Patience and Fierceness.  Imagine the Trust and Certitude in having a clear and strong sense of who you are and where your soul knows you need go.  Imagine that Patience to know you will get there.  Imagine that Fierceness that will bring you the resolve to do so.  One is your ballast.  The other is your sail.

For me, I am pondering such capacity this morning as I continue my journey, and into a new year.   I am reminded by colleagues of the capacity that this time of year potentially brings.  I am reminded that I need to be patiently something fierce.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

NOW: November Reign

Last week, I wrote on Optimist Primed and Ready.  I think it worth a read and reflect.  For me. 🙂  I also wrote on my 3 Cents on Leadership.  Another reread for me.  I need to reread and reflect… and munch on these yet again.

This week has been eventful.  With work on the new Epic Speakernet™ we are launching and my full slate of work, there have been successes indeed; milestones in the making.  But this week has also tested Optimism.  That being said, Optimism is up to it.

Optimism is not about ignoring problems.  It is not about avoiding the negative.  It is about recognizing the good, the bad and the ugly… and knowing “we got this”.  That requires a range of virtues including Detachment, Patience, Faith, Trust, Determination, Steadfastness, Flexibility, Endurance, Forbearance, Fortitude, Courage, Resilience, Integrity and more.  I say this because virtues are latent within us.  They but need practice.  Practice makes permanent.

Back on September 26, it was world Character Day.  I love the fact that there is a recognition of its importance, and the need for it in this world.  We need character every day.  That requires, nay demands, practice.  If you have ever wished or prayed for more patience, I suggest two things.  First, don’t be surprised if the world gives you an opportunity to practice it.  Second, you do not simply receive Patience.  You practice it.  You work at it, like any craft.

Every virtue is latent within us, in potential.  To develop them, we need practice them.  We practice Acceptance and Confidence and Joyfulness.  We practice Strength and Unity.  Practice makes permanent and we are building a deeper understanding and mastery of a virtue as we become it’s student.  Character matters; and it requires work.

So, yes… this week tested my Optimism.  But, that is the point.  It remains within me.  It always has.  Indeed and now, its access is strengthened.  I am even better at putting it into practice now.  I have always found it a natural virtue for me but now I understand a deeper dive on it.  Optimism shines in the face of trial.

So, for November, I am running a very personal journey called November Reign.  I will spend the next 30 days working on my vision with a fierce and defiant Optimism.  I will own it.  It will be my reign.  Actually, and more specifically, it will be a reign of Nobility, Optimism and Wholeheartedness (NOW).  I will be the poster child for being a student of these three… Nobility in seeing and honoring the best in life, Optimism in living it, and Wholeheartedness in the energy I bring to it.  I will live my slightly and newly updated 20022020 vision of…

  • It is 20022020, and I am a master and lifelong student of the global body of work around character leadership and unity building.  I have learned conversational Mandarin and French to bring that work more global.  I have also engaged a deepened level of spiritual studies and practice through The Ruhi Institute, and more.  I am living a life filled with love, song, dance, cartooning, writing, epic stories, archery, boxing and more of what and who I love.  My #bestlittledogintheworld Panda is by my side in enjoying it all.  I am teaching business leadership at College of the North Atlantic, in class and online; and doing my global work of Epic Engage™. I am loving it!  I am 110K in weight (slim for my body structure) and benching same; healthy and strong. And, I am financially ready, willing and able to support special projects in which I deeply want to invest and contribute.

… as if it already has manifested.  It has.  I will walk this month fired up with the practice of Nobility, Optimism, and Wholeheartedness strengthened by Certitude.

More specifically, for November…

  • I will walk as a student of character
  • I will learn the very basics of conversational Mandarin
  • I will prayerfully engage in my Ruhi studies
  • I will sing, write, and live with my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda
  • I will teach business leadership at college and do my thing with Epic Engage™
  • I will eat “more than right” and walk daily.  

I will.  I will listen to The Hero Within… and a slate of Shinedown tunes like I Dare You… they are my band after all … and Wake Up … and more.  I will listen to MY music, not in some superficial pumping up kind of way … but to feed my soul.  I will reinforce the insatiable hunger for Optimism that already resides within.

I am inviting you to join me on November Reign.  It requires nothing but to take on your battle cry. Where do you need to BRING IT this month?  I mean bring it.  What do you need to do this month that will send one big cool ball hurtling into motion?

Yes, this week has had cool and great moments and conversations; and it has had walls to climb.  Yeah, Optimism is practiced.  It is built, with work.  It shines greatest when tested.  It shines greatest when we deal with the walls.  These times in which we live are a test.  But Optimism is up for it.  I am too.  How about you?

Peace, passion and prosperity.

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

 

 

 

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