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The Paths of Love

In lasts week’s post on Love and Grace, we continued an exploration of caring for ourselves, which we started with in The Long, Cool Road and followed into broadCAST September 2019.  We recommend the reads and reflection, and we continue the deeper dive this week.

Jenny says…

To date, and essentially, I have offered the following in retrospect.  Allow me to recap.

This Blog may very well be all over the place in thought. As I have been these past couple weeks. I don’t mind saying it like it is, as you probably have noticed by reading my last blog, I am quite up-front and honest. I am usually very positive and upbeat. But guess what, I am human like the rest us, and I am exhausted. I have been pushing myself to the limit in every aspect of my life. I have been trying to be a kick-ass Mom, Friend, Partner and Student. Well I only have so much to give. I guess what I am saying is that in order to fill your own tank, you need to do things that you love. Even then you can find yourself drained and depleted. I am a prime example of that this past week.  

This summer has been full, beautiful and extraordinary. So many positives, yet I am pooped. I am a strong believer in self-care. A huge believer. But even in the moments of self-care, my mind is in full speed, thinking of all that I need to do in the next five years of my life. Which in all honesty does not help or benefit me in the slightest. While most structure their lives around schedule and organization, my life just doesn’t work well that way. Or at least I don’t think it does. Lord knows I have tried. I am a fly by the seat of my pants kind of girl. I get things done, and if I don’t, I clearly didn’t think it was needed in that particular time, or in that particular order. I know I am not the only one that lives like this. Other people may think it is chaos, where I find it comfortable. It just works. Rather than getting into how it works, which I don’t think really matters. We all work differently. I want to talk more about doing the best that we can with what we know. And finding what fits and benefits your life. 

I am currently reading a Brene Brown book called Rising Strong. She is a phenomenal writer and I find myself relating to most of her writings. I have to say it is taking me a LONG time reading because of that thing we call life. I take all the moments I can spare to sit and read for a bit. But let’s be real, I also have a million other things that I want to do. Be lazy and watch Netflix, eat cheesecake, do my nails, hang with my boy, maybe just do absolutely nothing while scrolling through Pinterest. You know, all those important valid things. Which I think at times we need to do. I think it is a part of unwinding and letting ourselves breathe for a moment in time.  

In Brene’s book she talks about doing the best that we can with what we know. I relate this to Child and Youth Care (in which I am studying), and life in general. Brene talks about finding people ignorant or rude, or responding a certain way to something. At first, we look at the person like they have ten heads. Like maybe they are just jerks. That’s not the case. We are simply doing the best with what we are given. We are doing our best in life with our skills and knowledge. This speaks to me on many levels. In society, as a parent, as a friend, as an employee, or with ourselves. I look at how I am to others. I love them, I love everyone really. I find the best in anyone and everyone. That is because I was raised that way. Raised to be kind, empathetic, compassionate, and respectful. That built a love and understanding within me that I use outward. I treat others with love because I was treated with love. It is my norm. But when it comes to taking moments to care for me, that isn’t so natural. I can’t exactly blame it on my upbringing, but it is more of a generational thing as far as I am concerned. I feel like moments of relaxing, taking a nap, going to a spa, or getting your hair done, may have been considered more of a selfish act. When really it isn’t. It is taking little moments to love yourself.  

Because this is not such a natural act, I get stuck in moments of self-care, with little imprints of caring for others or thinking about the million things I need to do. That is not self-care at its finest. I know how difficult it is to completely unwind, allowing your mind to compartmentalize the important and not so important things we need to focus on at that time. I guess therefore I have been left exhausted. I have been doing things for myself amid chaos these past couple weeks. But clearly, I have not allowed myself to detach and let go of everything I have no control over in that very moment. If I can’t fix it now, then get into that little box inside of my head so I can push it away somewhere until I can address it or accommodate it.  

Let me add something this week.

  • In life there will always be moments to love ourselves enough to rest and take care of our basic needs. But how we come to do that is the real test. This is where we are doing the best with what we have, or what we know. We are taught by people around us how we should and shouldn’t love ourselves. We mirror what we have watched growing up. We allow people to plants seeds, such as, selfish, lazy, high maintenance, or needy. When in all reality it is a basic need of ours. We NEED to care for ourselves. However that looks to each of us may be completely different or one in the same. Now like I said, we are either taught how to love ourselves or we learn. So, let us learn.

In my next post, and upon reflection, I will share thoughts on what that might look like.

Barry says…

I love the idea Jenny is proposing.  Self care and love are unique to each of us; as is balance.

Yesterday was a bit a remarkable day for me.  In Public Relations class with some music students, we talked on the importance of self awareness as an artist… and the need to be authentic in our “branding”.  Posing creates much more work, to maintain the pose.

Last evening, I attended a memorial for a former student who took his own life last week.  Sam was a gifted Soul; gifted with compassion, generosity, kindness, thoughtfulness, creativity, enthusiasm, joyfulness and more.  And yet, he chose to depart this realm.  I shared this post on my feelings around the news and the day yesterday morning.  Then, last night and upon reflection after the memorial, I shared this Facebook live post, around thoughts on Sam and more.  I shared this post yesterday as well… on Sam’s family choosing to advance the necessary dialogue on suicide.

So What?

And so why do I offer up such?  I would suggest that self care and self love are grounded in seeing our best self and character, and honoring it.  I suggested in class that one powerful form of self love is to love others.  In other words, when we fully identify and accept who we are here most to love … and love them… we love ourselves.  This does not imply trying to save everyone.  It does imply that choosing to be of service to those who matter most to us can run parallel to us taking time to take care of ourselves.

For example, I spent a great deal of my adult life trying hard to please everyone.  In the final analysis, and with great mentors, I realized that I get to pick who I choose to best serve.  For all, I choose to try to give friendliness and joyfulness as a countenance.  That is my universal service.

But to maintain my best energy and care, my personal and professional lives have a sharper focus.  With Epic Engage™, we serve those world embracing and noble minded educators, entrepreneurs and emerging leaders who get it or want to get it.  We are clear on that.  We are not here to convince or preach but serve who best and most needs our work.  We get to choose when and where and how.

With my personal life, I have my Camelot, my tribe, my chosen family who will get my very best.

Stephen Covey referred to this prioritization as the big rocks.  I referenced it in The Long, Cool Road.

Ultimately, I am suggesting that self love and the love of others are parallel journeys; but we must be very strategic in choosing who we best serve.  During this most busy term of my life (and it indeed is), the best way I will take care of myself is to choose who I will actively and purposefully serve and love best.  I only have so much to give, and I must needs choose where I will best give.  In so doing, I will both take care of my energy and health, and I will feel best fulfilled with the feeling that I have been there for the people who matter most.  Caring for them in my personal and professional lives shows care for me.  I think that is what Andy Grammer sings of here.

My 10-Day Path to Love

So, I am taking on a personal 10-day project to sharpen the blades and simplify.  I saw this meme on Facebook, reminding me of the intriguing numerical significance of 10 days in September 2019.

91#19 with the # running from 0 through 9.  Intriguing indeed.

Each day, I will eliminate one distraction or add one habit.

Yesterday, on the first day, I decided that I will no longer engage in any activity unless I feel a real energy is there for movement.  In other words, I need to feel a “Hell Yeah”.  If not, I do not.

Today, and in honor of Sam, I will commit to one simple, conscious act of kindness each day.  I tend to think of myself as typically kind… but I am intent on making sure a day does not go by where I do not take one simple act of kindness, in word or deed.

Over the next 8 days, I will establish 8 other commitments.   Whether you start your own act now during this period or not… think about taking 10 days and making 10 simple commitments to cut things out or commit to simple actions that will love you and others.

See where that takes you.  I will let you know my 10 next week.  🙂

TOGETHER

Together, we are committed to living a joyful life and work.  Best friends do that.

Together, we will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

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Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

The Long, Cool Road

In our last blog, Be Open, we spoke to just that; being open.  To follow on that theme, and through September, we thought to explore openness to life, as it is.

A mentor of Barry’s once said “life is best lived, living it at it’s own speed”.  This pic and post from Jon Tesh stumbled across our radar last night.  Barry posted it on Facebook, and added, “Strength is in living the story as most nobly you can…”.  Ultimately, we are all positively challenged to live the long, cool road as best we can.

Still, we often either rush or resist the forces of life, choosing drive over flow.  Here, and for the next few blog posts, here and on LinkedIn, we explore thoughts around love, character and flow.

Here, we begin to digest on thoughts around love, character and living.  In the broadCAST for September, we will continue the exploration, and into our September Benny and Jarry posts.  It promises to be real, raw, reflective and re-creating.  For now…

Jenny says…

Hmmmmm…. Where do I begin???  This Blog may very well be all over the place in thought. As I have been these past couple weeks. I don’t mind saying it like it is, as you probably have noticed by reading my last blog, I am quite up-front and honest.

I am usually very positive and upbeat. But guess what, I am human like the rest us, and I am exhausted. I have been pushing myself to the limit in every aspect of my life. I have been trying to be a kick-ass Mom, Friend, Partner and Student. Well I only have so much to give.

I guess what I am saying is that in order to fill your own tank, you need to do things that you love. Even then you can find yourself drained and depleted. I am a prime example of that this past week.

This summer has been full, beautiful and extraordinary. So many positives, yet I am pooped. I am a strong believer in self-care. A huge believer. But even in the moments of self-care, my mind is in full speed, thinking of all that I need to do in the next five years of my life. Which in all honesty does not help or benefit me in the slightest.

While most structure their lives around schedule and organization, my life just doesn’t work well that way. Or at least I don’t think it does. Lord knows I have tried. I am a fly by the seat of my pants kind of girl. I get things done, and if I don’t, I clearly didn’t think it was needed in that particular time, or in that particular order. I know I am not the only one that lives like this. Other people may think it is chaos, where I find it comfortable. It just works.

Rather than getting into how it works, which I don’t think really matters. We all work differently. I want to talk more about doing the best that we can with what we know. And finding what fits and benefits your life.  In the upcoming broadCAST, I will explore some thoughts around that.  For now, I repeat, “We all work differently… We all work differently… doing the best that we can with what we know… finding what fits and benefits your life.”

Barry says…

Jenny brings up a great point and one around which I have been, myself, thinking on this past week, probably unbeknownst to my bestie even.  Just yesterday was my first day back into the College year, and I posted this on Day One.  In it, I suggested:

“On this first day of the College year, I find there can be elements of overwhelm. For those passionate about teaching and doing our level best, it is a 10 month journey every year, standing in front of and with 15-30 souls at a time and engaging learning in the best of ways. For my speaker colleagues, it is not unlike 24 keynotes a week. This year, I want and intend to take it up another notch and the next 4 months in particular, for me, are going to be truly filled. Filled with delivering courses, studying character leadership and education, co-leading on Epic, learning basic Mandarin, enjoying song and dance, and getting into optimal health and shape. It will be filled, and today is the first day. Day One. :)”

First, I suggest a read of that post.  Second, and even last night, I ran into my own overthinking brain.  It caused my own sense of racing, and I knew that this cannot be maintained over these next 4 months of growth.  Strategic thinking and planning is important, but there is a time and place.  I have done mine.

Now, it is about execution… and execution is in the now.  Knowing what is important now and in the future allows me to prioritize on the go.  I choose those things that will serve me in the now and going forward.  It is about flow over drive.  A wolf does not spend countless hours considering and planning.  It knows what is important to it, and it goes and does that, as needed, when needed… from rest to hunting, and everything in between.  It is true throughout nature.

Over these next few weeks, and starting with the broadCAST, I too will explore thoughts around being as the best form of doing.

As children, we knew what was important to us… and I am not simply talking about play.  I knew what “causes” were important to me.  The work of this company is grounded in those, but I find I get distracted with what Stephen Covey would call the smaller rocks…. and sand. My own exploration this month will be about the aspects of character needed to beautifully and fiercely focus on the big rocks so that we live in the now and look forward to the future.

TOGETHER

Together, we are committed to living a joyful life and work.  Best friends do that.  Together, we will explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.  We think this will get interesting; and out of this will come many cool, long road beautiful moments from the Benny and Jarry experience.  Join us, stay tuned and engage us.  Our lives matter.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

 

PLUS…

CHECK OUT OUR COACHING

and our MULTIVERSE of online forums and offerings

 

Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

 

 

My Summer CAMP

Last week, I published Summer Cookin’ with the AL’s.   I am holding true to it.  I have met with Felicia Newell and Jon Butler on plans for my health this Summer and into the Fall of 2019.  And, I am excited about same.  In a nutshell, and drawing on my last post, I reiterate my vision:

  • SpirituAL … I am a spiritually connected man, and Baha’i
  • EmotionAL… I am a Simple Man, best friend to my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda
  • PersonAL… I am a singer, dancer, cartoonist, writer, archer and storyteller
  • PhysicAL… I am a man of 36″ waist and 100 kilos
  • MateriAL… I am a man of simple beautiful home and car, with new bed, telescope and wardrobe
  • FinanciAL… I am a man of healthy WEALTH, not extravagant but allowing me to do the work I love and love the work I do, to live the life I love and love the life I live, and support the causes and people in which I believe most
  • VocationAL, ProfessionAL, OccupationAL… I am an educator, for life
  • EntrepreneuriAL… I am The Unity Guy™ of Epic Engage™, the global Character Leadership Company
  • EducationAL… I am a master student and teacher on character leadership, education and unity building, able to speak in English, Mandarin and French

And, now, I am taking 6 days to disappear and cleanse.  I will get more clear, with a much deeper dive.  Some niggling things demand such.  I will pray and meditate.  I will pray and meditate, and act. I will be that spiritually connected man, Baha’i.

I will pray and meditate on what it means to be that Simple Man, and best friend to my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda.  I will pray and meditate on what is speaking to me about singing, dancing, cartooning, writing, and more.  I will pray and meditate on my physical vision; a man of 36″ waist and 100 kilos.  I will pray and meditate on my simple beautiful home and car, with new bed, telescope and wardrobe.  I will pray and meditate on being a man of healthy WEALTH, not extravagant but allowing me to do the work I love and love the work I do, to live the life I love and love the life I live, and support the causes and people in which I believe most.  I will pray and meditate on my work as educator and entrepreneur.,, as The Unity Guy™ of Epic Engage™.  And, I will pray and meditate on being a master student and teacher on character leadership, education and unity building, able to speak in English, Mandarin and French.

Yes, I will pray and meditate; and be open.  Shoghi Effendi once said that there are 5 suggested steps to prayerful problem solving:

  • Pray and meditate about it. Use the prayers of the Manifestations as they have the greatest power. Then remain in the silence of contemplation for a few minutes.
  • Arrive at a decision and hold this. This decision is usually born during the contemplation. It may seem almost impossible of accomplishment but if it seems to be as answer to a prayer or a way of solving the problem, then immediately take the next step.
  • Have determination to carry the decision through. Many fail here. The decision, budding into determination, is blighted and instead becomes a wish or a vague longing. When determination is born, immediately take the next step.
  • Have faith and confidence that the power will flow through you, the right way will appear, the door will open, the right thought, the right message, the right principle or the right book will be given you. Have confidence, and the right thing will come to your need. Then, as you rise from prayer, take at once the fifth step.
  • …lastly, ACT; Act as though it had all been answered. Then act with tireless, ceaseless energy. And as you act, you, yourself, will become a magnet, which will attract more power to your being, until you become an unobstructed channel for the Divine power to flow through you.

You can find more, here.  Most importantly, I will act on that clarity that comes from such prayer and meditation; as the advice is given above.  I will enter such with open mind and heart.  I will be relentless.  I will carve out my own best truth.

My thought to you is four-fold.

  • Cleansing of mind, body and spirit requires honesty, openness and courage.
  • Doing so is an investment.
  • Doing so requires us to be open, adaptive and relentless (your OARs in the water).
  • The return is high, on Clarity and Confidence.

How can you see yourself cleansing and getting to the essentials?  For me, I have done much of such this past year, but, of late, I have come to see that I need this one big push… to truly get back to me.  It may not radically change things (or it may).  But, it is always best to get on your best path.

So, I am disappearing for a week.  I will have conversations with those I deeply trust.  I will take actions needed.  I will meditate.  I will pray.

It is CAMP, for me.  🙂

See you on the other side.

In the meantime, and in related news, consider the latest Leaducator July 2019.  It has relevance, resonance and links worthy of consideration I humbly offer.  Engage and enjoy.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

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Summer Cookin’ with the AL’s

You can call me AL for this blog, lol. But this post is about some new Summer cookin’ for yours truly.  You see, last Wednesday, I posted this on Check In and Conclude.  And now, with Summer in fuller swing, I posted this latest issue of The broadCAST™ for July 2019.  As part of the CHECK IN, I offered…

“As part of my 20022020 Vision, here is what I am cluing up between now and July 1.

  • Getting my weigh scales, gym and Panda ready for a Summer of full on wellness, including my first ground setting meeting with a nutritionist Friday… all towards that 36” Waist, Lean and Strong.
  • Setting my schedule for LEARNING this Summer:
    • MBa – Character Leadership and Unity Building
    • Mandarin and French
    • Ruhi Intensive
  • Preliminary PLANNING for CNA and MUN into Fall 2019.
  • Developing my 5 Year W.E.A.L.T.H. Plan for 2019-24.
  • Re-engineering the Epic Engage™ website, including a schedule of project plans.”

But The broadCAST™ moved me to revisit my GROWTHery list leading up to February 20, 2020… with my AL’s work.

  • SpirituAL … I am a spiritually connected man, and Baha’i
  • EmotionAL… I am a Simple Man, best friend to my #bestlittledogintheworld Panda
  • PersonAL… I am a singer, dancer, cartoonist, writer, archer and storyteller
  • PhysicAL… I am a man of 36″ waist and 100 kilos
  • MateriAL… I am a man of simple beautiful home and car, with new bed, telescope and wardrobe
  • FinanciAL… I am a man of healthy WEALTH, not extravagant but allowing me to do the work I love and love the work I do, to live the life I love and love the life I live, and support the causes and people in which I believe most
  • VocationAL, ProfessionAL, OccupationAL… I am an educator, for life
  • EntrepreneuriAL… I am The Unity Guy™ of Epic Engage™, the global Character Leadership Company
  • EducationAL… I am a master student and teacher on character leadership, education and unity building, able to speak in English, Mandarin and French

Consider some or all of the AL’s.  Consider where you are and where you want to be with some or all.  Then you develop a powerful GROWTHery list.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

Check In and Conclude

Taking stock and wrapping up is important.  Last week, I wrote about keeping on keeping on.  This week, amidst meetings with passionate entrepreneurs, and the close of my College year, I am reminded that moving forward often times requires us to close on some things.  In order to start new chapters, we must conclude old ones.  In order to start new tasks, we must wrap up others.  It is hard, but necessary.

I am reminded that, far too often, our busy-ness does not get things actually done.  We spread ourselves so thin, getting little bits of everything done… with no real sense of accomplishment.  This is both counter productive and discouraging.

This week is that week that I do a mid year check in.  I am finished my College year… and Canada Day is July 1.  Formerly known as Dominion Day, I take this lead up to Canada Day as a time to stake my own true Dominion; that over which I actually do have control.  This is a time to clue up projects that need conclusion; and to clear the table for the balance of the year.  As part of my 20022020 Vision, here is what I am cluing up between now and July 1.

  • Getting my weigh scales, gym and Panda ready for a Summer of full on wellness, including my first ground setting meeting with a nutritionist Friday… all towards that 36” Waist, Lean and Strong.
  • Setting my schedule for LEARNING this Summer:
    • MBa – Character Leadership and Unity Building
    • Mandarin and French
    • Ruhi Intensive
  • Preliminary PLANNING for CNA and MUN into Fall 2019.
  • Developing my 5 Year W.E.A.L.T.H. Plan for 2019-24.
  • Re-engineering the Epic Engage™ website, including a schedule of project plans.

This will happen from Wednesday, June 26 through Sunday, June 30… 5 days.  And on Canada Day, I rest.  There will be such a feeling of accomplishment, and a sense of setting the foundation for a much needed Summer.  My thought to you is this.  As we head into July 1, halfway through 2019, identify what do you need to conclude and put to bed… then do that.

I think this is important as it helps with focus and Zeal… and with making decisions regarding career, and more.  Clearing the table and erasing the whiteboard open up possibilities.  Do that.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

Beyond Engaged

My last post here was about being engaged.  This morning, I posted this on integrity.  I suggest both reads.  For me, the answers are right under my nose and closer than my life vein.  They impact all arenas of my life.

They confirm the Wisdom of my nine milestone goals, and my dreams and plans.

The greatest and most constructive “disruption” is to align your team of four.

It is getting beyond engaged.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

Simple, Man

Last week, I wrote on Simpler and HonesterWow, I did not realize how much that would impact me, consciously and otherwise.  Over the last year in particular, I have been purposefully reflecting on meaning for me in and for what I keep calling “the next chapter”.  Specifically, back in March of 2018, I wrote on Aim High.  It considered 5 areas worthy of questions, answers and reflection.  And I wrote The Book on Happiness in that month.  In April of last year, I wrote on #FTSF$%#K the Script…. and Find Your Simplicity… and What is Your Ikigai?  In May 2018, I wrote on 5 Questions for Clarity… and Finding Your Scriptand your fit.   The blogging continued on a variety of topics related to my work (including purposeful reflection) and in January 0f 2019, I wrote on The Tr’a’at is Talking…. Manifest, Oh! and Do the Work.  In February, The BIG Cool Work and Our Universal Three… about Remembering who you are, Readying yourself every day and Rising in action and service.  Indeed, this meandering exploration of me heated up with A Birthday Wish and:

It might seem that this is all I have blogged on, but I write a lot of blogs.  🙂  That being said, and in and amidst all of this reflection and journaling (out of the seeming complexity of same), two things arise for me.

  • FIRST, I suggest meandering has a purpose.  It is called exploration.  Indeed, I suggest any and all of the reads above to nudge your own meandering reflection.
  • SECOND, by traveling the road or river and all its meandering, you invariably arrive at a destination point of sorts for at least that leg of the journey.  For me, that has just happened.

The Next Landing Point

These past few weeks in particular, I have had questions asked of me randomly that have surfaced some realizations and remembrances.  I have had huge and heartfelt disappointments and wondrous surprises that have done same.  And, with it all, there has been almost a bubbling up or boiling down of some simple truths.  Recalling passions, purpose and more.

Specifically, the other day, in a conversation around age of all things, someone asked me how I might describe myself in terms of age.  My answer was quick, forthright and lovingly forceful (and unplanned).  I said that I consider myself a “force of nature”.

I don’t give a “rat’s arse” what number or category you want to apply.  I am thunder and lightning with the “and” in between.  Well, that got me thinking; that and those other direct and unexpected questions along the way.  Actually, it got me realizing some undeniable truths for me.  Undeniable truths are the destination point for reflection.  You are trying to get to them, in terms of your very soul.  Everything else is wishy-washy.  So, what are my undeniables?  I include them here as to what my soul screams in a whisper and not necessarily as how I have been living or not living it of late.

  • In the work I do and the life I live, I am a force of nature, unconstrained as the wind. I live to create, learn and teach for a damn freakin’ better world.  I am an outlier and a misfit who loves humanity.  I revere the human spirit, reveling in it.  Humanity rocks.  Inhumanity rots.  I am accountable to and unapologetically confident in humanity; and my deep desire to live and serve it.  I am not perfect, nor do I believe in it as a noun.  I have made and will make doozies of mistakes. BUT, I damn well sure believe in perfect as a verb.  Perfecting and raising my character is not part of me.  It is me.  In that, I have got a four let word for I don’t care… a whole lotta drive to get me there. I do not care about fame nor fortune, but I live for fierce.  I will work, live, love and play with what I call “activants”; those people who do not want to change the world… they are doing it by their very living in it. No kumbaya.  All, bring it.  I love and live fiercely. Untempered.  Unconstrained, Unconditional. Period.  Force of nature. Dangerous. In the best of ways.  When I am fiercely honest with myself, I love and live like a weapon when the order is “fire everything”. In life and work, I love the extremes of inward, slow and gentle to gregarious, fast and forceful.  I am a creator, student, teacher, singer, dancer, writer, cartoonist on all things character.  I fiercely contend it is the path to vibrant, dynamic, exciting and future driven unity.  And, I loooove that.  I am Barry (Lewis Green).  I am The Unity Guy thing.

This will always evolve in terms of articulation and vocabulary.  But it will not in terms of spirit.  That being said, have I been living this fully?  No.  I have been tempered for way too long, hoping to be comfortable for as many people as possible.  Comfort is good, but it can also be cowardly and complacent.  I want neither.  Never have, though I have tempered myself.  This past year, and over the 4 years since stroke, I have been slowly but steadfastly getting to a space where the shy but immensely creative boy merges with the confident, “successful” but somehow overly-responsible-to-the-wrong-things-and-people man.  It is what drives my nine milestone goals for this year ahead of my next birthday.  The result is and will be some new best of both worlds.  This silly boy and fierce man are one.

Now, many who know or think they know me might say that that is what they see and experience right now, but it is not.  98% pure water is not pure.  And pure is what my soul craves.  No tempering or tampering down.

Does this mean no mistakes?  Hell no.  It does mean I am choosing to get back to and even move the needle on Hell Yeah.  It does mean a rediscovering of an energy buried a bit, for too long.  It does mean a new found kind of boom.

Quite recently, I have been introduced to the music of Damien Rice, LP, Zaz and Brass Against… among others.  Each time, I hear a song that touches my soul, I know.  I don’t have to think about it.  I freakin’ know.  Each time, I meet a person who does the same to and for me, I know.  Each time, I run across a cause that does the very same, I know.  I know. You do too.  You just have to tap in and open up.

Look, conformity for conformity’s sake is numbness.  Conformity for not rocking the boat, is repression and oppression.  Conformity to fit in is a slow death.  I want neither.  I am not in favour of strife nor contention.  But being who you are is not about trying to offend.  Trying to offend is another form of posing.  Asserting your voice is simply finding your place.  As a kid, I knew my voice, all the while learning to speak it.

For You

For you, who might be reading this… here, are my humble suggestions.  First, try out some of the blogs noted and start dabbling or diving in.  Second, practice Courage and Honesty in doing so.  Third, understand that the goal and eventual reality is that you will come to a simple understanding and that is that knowing who you are is right under your nose around about where your heart is found.

In one of my blogs, I suggest that the stars are the Soul, the captain who sets course by the stars is the heart, and the navigator/helmsman is the mind who figures out the way there.  The ship itself is the body.  Understand that and let your soul be your guide, your heart make your best decisions, your mind figure the way, and your best body carry you there.

That is this simple man‘s plan.  Everything else is settling.  To Hell with that.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

Simple and Honest

A few days ago, I wrote on Your 4 Best Horsemen.  In it, I suggested that “Last night, amidst a circus of emotions and though singing the tunes, I thought of 4 words that I now choose to guide me up and into Summer, whereupon I spend 2 months with my bestie and soul sister visiting.  HEALTH. WORK. SIMPLE. LOVE.”  Then earlier today, I posted on broadCASTing Your Ideas.

Tonight, I posted this on Facebook.

  • Since initially articulating my focus on these 9 milestones, real and encouraging progress is happening. That being said, I have been restless of late. It is today that I realize why.  There is a purpose to all of these. It is born of being ready for what I have been calling the “next chapter”. But there is still a depth and breadth of Honesty that needs manifesting for me now.  At this place and space in my life, I am ready. I am ready for a healthier, stronger Barry. I am ready for a more simple and focused life filled with the work I love. I am ready for a life of Panda, dancing, singing, movies, and “coffees”… much of which I have now, but more. And I am finally ready for love; not contrived nor forced nor urgent but when it arrives… I am ready… without plan or intent or timing in mind. Why do I offer this? It does not change who I am or what I do. But, as I approach a Summer that will be remarkable (and it will be)… I need to articulate… to say the words. I will be healthy and strong. I will do the work I love. I will be singing and dancing and doing all the things I love. And, I will be ready. Yeah, I needed to say the words. I have done so. Now, on to living.

All of that is to say that two things occur to me this evening; the power of Simplicity and Honesty.  Get clear on what you truly want, and say it.  Then, go live.

Peace, passion and prosperity…

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Your Best 4 Horsemen

Last week, I wrote on a Discerning Mind. Indeed, these last few days in particular, I have had opportunity to practice.  You see, this weekend marks the 4th anniversary of my mother’s passing to the Next Realm (as I affectionately call it).  I wrote this on Facebook to honor her.

This is a picture of my mother before she was my mother, or a grandmother or great grandmother. I offer this on this day, 4 years after her passing to the Next Realm after 92 years… because it reminds me that lives are more than our memories.  My memories of Marion Green (and my dad Malcolm Green) are grounded in my experiences. But both were people… were young… had their joys and fears… their strengths and challenges… like us all.  They lived. This 4th anniversary is the hardest so far for me… not exactly sure why. My faith is strong. Earned too. I know that. I do not fear that mom or dad or anyone is “gone” or that I have “lost” them. But I miss them both… in this world. Not out of some obsession with memory. I miss the people they were. I am also reminded this day that none of us “get out of life alive” as a mentor and friend once said. Our unconscious sense of invincibility is to be in question. That is not morbid. It expresses the importance of living in this life… truly living. It was a powerful message in “5 Feet Apart” (which I will see again) yesterday… among other very cool moments. Today is hard for me… and it should be. I own it. It is mine. Hard is not awful. It can create a sense of Awe. My life is a gift to me. Our lives are gifts. Watch Dead Poet Society and hear the Professor’s words. Carpe Diem. Seize the Day. This day, I seize the “missing”. I feel it. I embrace it as hard as that is. It is mine. It helps define me and my appreciation for life. Even more importantly, it reminds me that our lives are not a series of pictures or posts… or popularity. My life is mine to use and grow and experience as best I can. Our life is a gift… then appreciating it is more than unwrapping it. It is using it, loving it. This picture speaks to me of a person I never knew … but did. She lived… as Marion Macdonald Green. Miss you mom… and that is a good thing. I think this day is a day for Chapters, Cape Spear, prayer and dreams. My life matters. So does yours.

Rereading this, it still resonates for me today.  As I sang last night, it resonated; choosing songs like Making Plans for Nigel, Auberge and It’s Not My Time.

As well today is the First Day of Ridvan… a sacred time for Baha’is around the world.  And, it is Passover and Easter.  On Good Friday, as noted in my tribute of sorts, I watched “Five Feet Apart” and highly recommend it.  It all has got me thinking about Simplicity, as virtue.

Last night, amidst a circus of emotions and though singing the tunes, I thought of 4 words that I now choose to guide me up and into Summer, whereupon I spend 2 months with my bestie and soul sister visiting.

  • HEALTH
  • WORK
  • SIMPLE
  • LOVE

From this day, April 21 through to June 20, health will guide every decision.  My work as The Unity Guy™ in class and beyond will be a fierce focus only doing what fits… as I enter Intersession at college and a launch of new work with Epic Engage™.  I will sacrifice the less important for the more, in doing so.  I will live simple and with love, practicing Contentment in and amidst the urgency of life.

HEALTH.  WORK. SIMPLE. LOVE.  I am calling them my four horsemen for the now.  They fit my plans. There is alignment. What four words could guide you these next few months?  What four words can be your promise to yourself; at school, work, business and/or community?

Peace, passion and prosperity…

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Discernment and Decision Daily

Last week, I wrote on Every Day is Judgement Day. And on LinkedIn, I wrote this past couple of weeks on The All-In Virtue and My Own Opus.  Here is what is occurring to me this day, this second day into April.

  • Every moment is a moment of judgement; a time of discernment and decision.  It is not unlike walking an unknown trail and being conscious of every step, trusting in our Discernment and Decisiveness.  

On one level, this is not rocket science nor earth shaking but I think we often take that process for granted, and it almost becomes unconscious… not unlike driving the same road every day and taking that trip for granted.  On another level, it requires the practice of deliberate Consideration.

  • What if we considered that our life is an unknown road, because it is?
  • What if we realized that we have not travelled this road before, because we haven’t?
  • What if we took our steps more consciously?
  • What would that look like?

As I walk towards my 9 milestones for my 60th birthday February 20, 2020, I think this is an important recognition.  I have never walked towards my 60th in my 59th before.  I certainly have not established 9 milestone goals before.  Each moment is a judgement call; a discerning decision to place my foot on the next part of the path.  Each decision matters.  Each can take me closer to or further from my intended destination.  Each decision can keep me focused or distract me.  Each decision can shorten or lengthen the time in reaching for intention.

How does this fit for you?  What would this look like?

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy

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