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Fear: The End?

Over this month, we have looked at fear.  In our last post, we dug in on Fear and the Track Record.  Today, we bring it all together with an add.

Jenny says…

To catch you and me up to date, here is what I have shared this month.

This month I will speak on fear and how we allow it to consume and control us.  Fear is defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous likely to cause pain, or a threat. It is to be afraid of someone or something.

Many of us allow fear to control decisions and choices that we make, which in turn may alter the path that our life is meant to take. It can be stressful, create anxiety and overwhelm us and our lives.
When I think of fear, a video from Steve Harvey’s talk show comes to mind. He was in between airing his show during commercial break and out of nowhere got the urge to speak to his audience about “jumping”. He speaks about how is it that we really know if we can be successful at something if we don’t take the “jump” and just go for it. It was awe inspiring and motivational. I suggest finding it and watching it. It resonated with me and to be truthful it helped me “jump”.

Fear can be for a multitude of things. We can be afraid of anything from spiders, to a change in careers, or maybe we are afraid of death. These things are inevitable. We will experience so many different things in the duration of our lives. Why would we allow the fear of encountering these things freeze us from moving fluidly to experience all that the world has to offer?

It is so much easier to say than to do. I get that, believe me. I spent my life questioning what it was that I was meant to do. I dabbled in different jobs. Many of them over the years. I exceled in some, but not at others. But no matter what job I was doing, something wasn’t there. Even though I felt this in the depth of my heart, mind and gut, I didn’t know what it was that I was meant to do. I was fearful of going back to school. I was fearful of failure. Or maybe a little fearful of getting an education that I either would not use, or I wouldn’t truly love. Because of this I took many years to explore, to figure out what it was that I was destined to study. From the age of 19 up until the age of 31, I kept coming back to helping people in some capacity whether large or small. I worked in retirement homes, I worked with children, I worked with adults that had Cerebral Palsy and Down Syndrome. I grew to know that I was meant to help. Whatever that looked like? I also knew that I love hard. I genuinely care. I feel pain of others and truly empathize. So, there had to be something that fit this criteria. There had to be something that nurtured my strengths and passions. And there was. But first I had to dig deep and get to know who I am as a person. Then it took a whole other level of realness within me. Which at moments brought on a fear of its own. But I pushed through it, fear and all. I worked on my abilities and skills and the rest fell into place.

When we think of fear, we think of the negative aspect of it. What we don’t always realize is there are actual benefits to feeling fear. Fear guides our fight and flight responses. It also heightens our senses while keeping us alert and better prepared. When our brain kicks in to fight or flight our body is pumped full of Cortisol (the stress hormone). When we are finding ourselves flushed with stress or fear our adrenaline kicks in. Adrenaline increases our heart rate, but also gives us a burst of energy and focuses our attention on the danger at hand. During this fearful or stressful state, your body is also supplying norepinephrine, which is much like arousal. It helps us become more aware, alert, awake and focused. We become more responsive. And it pumps blood flow to the areas that are the most essential during this time, so that we can flee the stressful situation.

I think of all the things that our body and brain is capable of in these moments. I think hell, why are we not learning how to use fear and stress in a more positive way? Why can’t we build on our fear and maybe somehow it will help us overcome and conquer something that we had no idea we were even capable of? Or maybe allowing ourselves to feel the fear in those very real and terrifying moments, we in turn discover life-altering realizations about who we really are, and why we react in those particular moments.

So, a little more about what I discovered in the moments of facing “my fear”, and even years after. I spend my younger adult years just living life, moving from apartment to apartment, house to house. I never stayed in any place too long. I never stayed in any relationship too long. I had a gypsy soul, and still do in a much healthier way. I was lost I guess you could say. I was so unsure of anything in life, anything other than knowing I wanted to be a mom. That was the only thing I could think, the only thing that I was certain of. Even though I was young, I was a lover, and a very nurturing person. I knew I needed to be needed. It might sound crazy, but that was something I felt at a very young age. So, the years went by quickly, still no growth on my part, or at least I didn’t feel that there was. Yet, there was! Every single moment of my life was growth somehow. Even the moments where I was failing. There was growth in my bad decisions. There was growth in every relationship I ever had. I couldn’t see exactly how this would all play out. But it did. And now years later I see how and why all of those moments, those fearful situations, and those terrifying yet brave choices that I made put me in the right place in my life. It gave me the tools I needed to know when the moment came for me to “jump”. And it’s funny because I watched Steve Harvey’s video and thought “how will I know when and where I should actually jump?”. Boy did it smack me right in the face. It was like walking straight into a brick wall. And it was scary as all hell. It shook me to the core, yet, made EVERYTHING so damn clear. Everything in my life had led me to this moment. Now this may look so different for each and every one of you. It may not only shake you to your very core, but it might knock you right off your feet. I guess that is where harnessing our stress hormone and our fear comes to play.

Today, OCTOBER 30, I offer…

Maybe instead of running when we feel this undeniable pull in a certain direction, we should instead explore this path. Maybe this is the path that we were meant to travel. Maybe it is something you never in a million years thought that you would do, or even be interested in doing. Now let me be clear, I am talking healthy changes, healthy exploration and experiences. I am not saying to jump into a random relationship or take a job because you have a fear of the unknown. I am saying listen to your body cues. Feel that surge of energy when the cortisol flushes through you. Use that as your driving force to challenge or overcome the obstacle that you are facing.

Barry says…

… and I intend to; explore. Thanks for that reminder Jenny.  These past few years, especially, since my TIA/stroke in 2015, I have felt something of a gnawing in my Soul.  Indeed, over the last year or so in particular, I have taken on a strategic and almost purposefully meandering journey of reflection and re-engineering … almost.  No, not almost, indeed and in deed.

This week, that kind of culminated in a post called What Matters Most?  In that, I shared on making and leaving your M.A.R.K. and stating your C.A.S.E..  I highly recommend the read if I do say so myself; and I do.

With that in mind, my deepest desire is not for riches nor fame, but service and impact.  I seek only to work with those I can truly help.  They are identified in that blog, where I focus it down to:

  • I love, honor and have a blast helping global goal minded, and noble hearted educators, entrepreneurs and leaders move the world. I speak, teach, coach, facilitate, consult, write, cartoon, sing, dance, vlog, blog, pod and create on it.

How does this relate to fear?  I am about to go outside my ever increased (over the years) box.  I have had moments in my life where I was called upon, first resisted, and then made my jump… and those moments served in (a) teaching me my best relationship with fear, (b) showing me new understandings of capacity, and (c) offering new vistas and roads.  This moment is no different.

In doing so, it might mean some kind of change of scenery; not necessarily geographically.  It might mean new circles.  It will mean new circles.  That does not mean leaving my teaching, nor my work with Epic Engage™.  That is the core and heart to this growth.  I am an educator and entrepreneur who simply wants to love, honor and have a blast helping those global goal minded, and noble hearted educators, entrepreneurs and leaders move the world.  It does mean digging deeper on a global focus.

Since childhood, I have seen myself as “Terran”, and my neighbourhood was Newfoundland and Labrador.  I seek to primarily travel and work and walk with those that get that.  That is not an elitist view because such a vision is open and accessible to anyone.  It does mean that it is time for me to put on those global glasses and find those whose full heart is in it.  I have no desire to retreat into local life.  I love where I live, and will always call it my “hood”.  But my vision is world embracing, and embracing is more than “accepting”.  It requires a Wholeheartedness that says there is no “Plan B”.  It requires such a Wholeheartedness that many might not share.  That is OK.  A part of me wants to ride with everyone.  A bigger part of me knows that we best ride with those who want to ride together.

My life and friendships and work will not change much.  But, there will be a fundamental change in seeing my life as “global”. As noted, I care not for riches, nor fame.  Still, this “boy inside the man” has always sought service and impact that has no freakin’ borders and serves those who have the capacity and deep desire for the “betterment of the world”.

Some will not be on board, and that scares a part of me.  But, that is good. Fear is a friend that causes us to question what it is we fear.  Some fears tell us that we need to protect ourselves and that is a good thing.  Some fears say “I dare you“.  That is a good thing too.

For the next two months, I am choosing to run silent and deep.  I will continue posting daily on my platforms of Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram and Twitter, thrice daily; morning, noon and night.  Three times daily with posts that I feel might add to the character of life.

That being said, I will be laying low otherwise..  I will be focusing on my teaching, Epic Engage™, my university courses and my health.  I will not be out and about.  There may be an event or two.  There will be a few coffees and evenings with friends.  But, I am drawing back, taking a deeper dive into those “global” eyes.  I will be better understanding that I am a world citizen; an educator and entrepreneur without borders, if you will.

Will drawing back and doing so be scary?  Yup.  Yip. Uh-huh.  It will mean questioning and changing my life in ways I have gotten used to for now seemingly too long.  I love my life, and am grateful for it; but it is time to change it.

So, and again, let me ask you.

  • What matters most to you? What cause or work or progress or service matters most to you? Deeply. Maybe consider those global goals to jog some thought.
  • How do you imagine yourself now, or in the future, helping advance on it… moving the needle on it?
  • Who do you imagine yourself best serving in doing so?
  • What talents, capacities and services do you bring to move that needle?
  • How will you be known with consistency, that is aligned with you, simple and enjoyable?

Dare yourself.  Your fear might be your friend.  Fear is never the end… it is the beginning; of discovery.  Spend some time with you.  Reflect.  Re-engineer.  Face the fear and feed the fire.  I will.

TOGETHER

So, yes… fear has been our journey for October.  Together, Jenny and I ever continue to be committed to living a joyful life and work.  Friends and colleagues do that.  As noted, having a better understanding of fear helps too.  We will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.

Join us, stay tuned and engage us.  Our lives matter.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

 

Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

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Using Fear

This week, we continue our exploration of fear.

Jenny and I are digging deeper on this thing called fear, for ourselves and others.  We are going beyond the “face value” of this force we call fear.  This week, we question it’s value.

Jenny says…

I have shared three times on fear so far in:

I encourage you to go back and read for yourself.  In The broadCAST™, I finished by saying I had some questions.  I do, for us all.  And some thoughts.

I think of all the things that our body and brain is capable of in these moments. I think hell, why are we not learning how to use fear and stress in a more positive way? Why can’t we build on our fear and maybe somehow it will help us overcome and conquer something that we had no idea we were even capable of? Or maybe allowing ourselves to feel the fear in those very real and terrifying moments, we in turn discover life-altering realizations about who we really are, and why we react in those particular moments.

Honestly, I continue to think on these questions and thoughts and will no doubt share more next week.  For now, I am asking that you think about it.

Barry says…

Jenny, I find this useful and am pondering same.  What if fear was a tough coach, believing in us but pushing us?  What if fear desired to be tamed or conquered?  In my post in The broadCAST™, I suggested “that fear is too often lumped into one big bowl. Truthfully, there is irrational and rational fear. Fear has its benefits. It can keep us safe in the face of rational fear. Irrational fear, on the other hand, can control us in ways we must resist.”

What if the irrational fears are truly here to help?  We know the rational fears are good for us; they protect us.  But, indeed, what if the irrational fears were intent on inviting us to tame them, to conquer them, to build confidence through the courage in facing them?  What if they are stepping stones to learning our greatest capacity?

Tomorrow, I have one of the most potentially far reaching talks I have ever given ( I will share more next time), but there are voices within that I have not heard in years. Voices that say, “Are you up to this?” and such.  I have been in the training and development field for 39 years, have delivered messages to 200,000+ people through 20,000+ contact hours, have coached 1500+ clients, and delivered to audiences as large as 4,000… and still that voice creeps in for tomorrow.  It questions me.  And I will answer to the best of my ability.  As a mentor once said to me, “Courage first, Confidence second”.  I am about to find another stepping stone.

Fear as Motivator

TOGETHER

So, yes… fear continues to be our journey for October.  Together, Jenny and I ever continue to be committed to living a joyful life and work.  Best friends do that.

As noted, having a better understanding of fear helps too.

Together, and through October and beyond, we will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.

Join us, stay tuned and engage us.  Our lives matter.

Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character

Benny and Jarry

Peace, passion and prosperity…

Benny and Jarry

Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action.  She brings talent, experience and learning around love, trauma and care.  With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so.  Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all.  Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services.  With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work.  Artistry is a path to love and healing.  Jenny knows it.  She believes in it.  She drives it.

Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal.  Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community.  Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart.  The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.”  With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.

PLUS CHECK OUT…

CHECK OUT OUR COACHING

and our MULTIVERSE of online forums and offerings

 

Nightmarish Classes

I do not often remember my dreams.  Yet, last week, I had two powerful and great dreams that reminded me both of what I love and that for which I dream of in the future.  They were solid reminders of who I am.

Even still and more so, I very rarely remember nightmares.  That being said, this week already, I have had 3 episodic nightmares with varying scenarios and themes.  Indeed two in one night, two nights ago, were two of the worst I can ever remember.

That being said, with reflection these past 48 hours, these 3 nightmares have been even more powerful teachers.  They have (a) revealed to me key fears, (b) helped me explore their cause and core and (c) offered me insights into how I face them fiercely and heroically.

Two calendar months from today, I have a date with a publicly acknowledged goal, and I will be in PEI for a weigh in and measurement and celebration of same.  My intent is to be approaching a 38″ waist line, down from a max of 48″.  The relevance of such an achievement is threefold.

  • First, it will be the slimmest I have been in some 20+ years.
  • Second, it will serve to heighten and return my strength and vitality to those levels to which my soul resonates.  Even at my heaviest, I had energy.  There is more returning. 🙂
  • Third, it serves up the physiology for the next leg of life and work, as I approach my 58th birthday February 20 and moving forward.

Indeed, there will be cause to celebrate.

That being said, both my dreams last week and nightmares this week have caused me to better frame both the opportunities and challenges ahead… and help me to better understand what is required of me now, and going forward.  I feel better armed.

My thought to you, this day, is ” What loves and fears, manifested in your dreams, do you most need to take stock of at this time?”  Just remember the words of Dumbledore.

Peace, passion and prosperity.

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™

Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.

PS

A bunch of other possible reads, of note…

PPS (Other Resources)

  • Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe. As part of that work, we offer you …
  • and our buffet of FREE services and resources here.

Steadfast and Flexible

Some two weeks back, I offered This is Day One:  The Journal Begins.  In it, I said, among other things…

  • “On December 31, I posted this wish of Happy 2018!  Within it, I offered thoughts on 5 strategies for the incoming year.  I believe it worth a read and viewing… and reflection.  If making this an authentic and great year is important, I doubly suggest so.
  • The C.A.S.T.™ also, collectively, offered this post on 10 perspectives on goals and their achievement; and I humbly but strongly recommend the read as well.  There are views and thoughts worth the time, plus music and message that can add to your launch into 2018.”

I offer this to say, “How is your new year going thus far?” 

What is it bringing you?  What are you bringing to it?  Is it more of the same ol’ same ol’?  If so, what needs changing?  Are the challenges heightened?  If so, what needs to be called upon within you to rise to those challenges, in whatever healthy form?  Is it going great, full on and better than expected?  How can you best ride that wave to ensure sustainability as best you can?

Either way…

… the arbitrary changing of dates does not necessarily change anything; as much as the fireworks might say otherwise.  The 1st of the year is but a convenient anchor point for a somewhat inconvenient truth.  Much of it is our choice.  It is our choice in terms of how we act and respond.  It is our choice in terms of how much we accept and do not.  It is our choice to get back on the horse or not.  That is our responsibility… our response ability.

I heard it said years ago that every diet works.  Some are healthier than others, but every diet works… if we avoid the one fatal step.  When we fall off, however briefly, do we give up or get back at it?  The nutritional counselor in the radio interview said that, if we do well for 6 days and bad for one…. we will be successful… if we get back at it.  This is true of anything as goal.

It is true in matters of business, health, job hunting, and more.

For me…

I entered this year, with great progress in my walking… 105,000-120,000 steps a week.  A week ago, my left ankle pulled and I have had to bring things back.  But I adjusted, both exercise and diet (not a “diet”, my food intake).  I remain eating healthy and walking to a lesser degree, for now.  The result?

I sit here, writing, in pants that are 42″ waist, down from a max of almost 50″ at one point.  I am in an online exercise and walking group using Fitbit, and I am even guest hosting some online exercise classes for my friend Krista Walsh… aaagh.  I am adapting and reducing and managing this journey.  I am making better choices.

Steadfastness and Flexibility

This is the one area for the last almost 20 years that has been challenging.  It was challenging because (a) I never found the answer that worked for my temperament (until now) and because, in the past, when I fell off, I did not successfully reset.  I did not adjust.

Darwin never actually said it was “survival of the fittest”.  He essentially said it was survival of the most adaptable.  Rivers get where they are going… they may meander, go to trickles, then rapids and falls but they get where they are going.

All of this is to say that steadfastness and flexibility are important elements of our growth.  They are heroic in nature.  We learn and adapt but we do not give up.  Wherever you are with your goals, know that this is always DAY ONE.

Peace, passion and prosperity.

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™

Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.

PS

Some other reads, of note…

PPPS (Other Resources)

  • Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe. As part of that work, we offer you …
  • and our buffet of FREE services and resources here.

This Day One: The Journal Begins

On December 31, I posted this wish of Happy 2018!  Within it, I offered thoughts on 5 strategies for the incoming year.  I believe it worth a read and viewing… and reflection.  If making this an authentic and great year is important, I doubly suggest so.

The C.A.S.T.™ also, collectively, offered this post on 10 perspectives on goals and their achievement; and I humbly but strongly recommend the read as well.  There are views and thoughts worth the time, plus music and message that can add to your launch into 2018.

And then … two nights ago, I started.  I started on a video journal of this newly elevated road back to personal and optimal health … and what I am learning along the way.  I started to document the results from spending cool time in my FOXhole Gym, with my music and mementos and meaning all surrounding me.  I am calling it This is Day One, as each day is a new day.  Here are my first 3 installments.

Each is about 5 minutes.  In their totality they start to examine intention, habit, motivation, anchoring, focus and chasing a vision.  I offer them for your consideration; whatever your goals or desires for a better life at school, work, community or life might be.  As the next three months go, I will be sharing learnings on this journey and aspects of character that are crucial.  The intention is to practice, experience and observe character and behaviour in reaching for your goals.

It is offered in service.

Peace, passion and prosperity.

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™

Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.

PS

Some other reads, of note…

PPPS (Other Resources)

  • Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe. As part of that work, we offer you …
  • and our buffet of FREE services and resources here.

Wayfarer 1.5: Just One Goal

These past few weeks, what I am calling my Warfarer Journey towards optimal health has granted me some lessons indeed.  This week, the most powerful yet.

I invite you to check this post from LinkedIn on A New Kind of Great Day.

At core, and amidst a bunch of things learned, the shift has been to me seeing my goals as being narrowed down to one ultimate goal; a vision of who I am… and as if in the right now.  Everything I do, moving forward is in support of that vision.  I make decisions in alignment with that vision.   I get to define Barry and I ask myself each day, “what would Barry do?.

More specifically, I have only one real goal. To be that guy. Then, on a daily day tight compartment basis, I now ponder a new version of GREAT.

  • GET … based on who you are and what you do, what do you need to GET done today.
  • RELEVANCE… how does that powerfully relate and have resonance for your one goal of BEING and DOING? This one is a fixed point, really. You are always relating your “get” to your natural BEING and DOING.
  • EXECUTE… what actions do you need to take on to go get it today?
  • ASSESS… on a scale of 1 to 5 (5 being DONE), at the end of the day, measure your getting it done; and be prepared to reset.
  • TIMEFRAME… this is another fixed point… today… 24 hours. That is your time frame; those day tight compartments.

This speaks to me of Simplicity.  I am no longer juggling what I perceive as multiple goals in various arenas of my life.  Those multiple goal concepts served me well overall with a health say 75-80% completion rate I am estimating.  But there are significant gaps.  My road to health is really now about daily actions in terms of the Barry I envision.  What would Barry do becomes a daily question of guidance, using the GREAT action model.

As to my weight loss, I am 46 pounds down, plateauing a tad… but I am getting there.  I no longer have arbitrary goals of outcome, but daily goals of task and effort… that support my true goal.  I am 46 pounds down, and I am doing the daily action that will inevitably witness the results.  And I am feeling focused.

Peace, passion and prosperity.

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™

Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.

PS

Some other reads, of note…

PPS (Other Resources)

  • Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe. As part of that work, we offer you …
  • and our buffet of FREE services and resources here.

Petty Decisions

Earlier this evening, there was this news.  In immediate reaction and response, I posted on Facebook, the following:  Wow, are you kidding me? LIVE your life. Live YOUR life. Live your LIFE. Somehow. Fly Mr. Petty fly.

Then, some hours later, there was this… an update.

As we collectively await word, some things occur to me.

First, I sincerely honor the attention to craft that Tom Petty has brought to his music.  He is a musician in the best sense of the word.  Specifically, I posted on LinkedIn this week… the following post on Creativity, Choice and Decision.  Within that posting, I suggested that:

The courage to decide… confidence in one’s choices… this does not imply perfection or arrogance. Courage and Confidence here implies that we will try and that we know we will learn and grow, regardless of initial success or not. Discerning and being willing to act in the moment does not imply you know what will happen. It implies that you trust you can respond and learn from whatever outcome. There is true Confidence… not simply bravado. We run with our decisions, knowing we can change direction in our running… if need be.

All of this is to suggest that Decisiveness is a strength of character needed to live a life of integrity; true to one’s best self.  Having never met Tom Petty, I cannot say for sure… but, it seems to me he has made his choices… real and authentic.  Like John Mellencamp, he never wanted to be a pop singer.  If you want to be one great; but that was not his choice.  His music, was his to choose.  He was free to choose; and he chose.

So, with this in mind and heart, the news of Tom Petty speaks to me of both the potential “loss” of an artist that impacted millions and the reality that we only have control over our choices in life and profession… not in how long we enjoy both.

Then… what can we learn, in honor?

What are the decisions you need to make for true alignment and integrity?  What decisions require your courage right now?  What decisions will bring you the most confidence in their making? With discernment and deepest truths in mind, what decisions require your action?  It is time.

As an educator or leader; how can you advance the conversation with your students and teams and communities… to get to making the decisions that count?  Can you offer up examples of people who have chosen the courageous decisions… people with whom your students, teams and communities can identify?  Can you facilitate great conversations about what those decisions took and the impacts they had on the lives of those who decided and those they affected?  It is time.  It is indeed and in deed… time.

I think Tom Petty has already lived a life true… to himself and his craft.  I believe this to be so.  Whatever our time, if we were to be so bold and courageous; there is life.

That is the strength of character that is Decisiveness.  Decisions… make them.  Take them.  indeed, it is how we learn to fly.

Peace, passion and prosperity.

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™

Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.

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Unity Packs a Powerful Punch

Check this out ahead of the Packers-Bears on Thursday Night Football.  Within, you will find a statement from the Green Bay Packers that reads…

The NFL family is one of the most diverse communities in the world. Just look around! The eclectic group of players that you root for, the coaches you admire, the people you sit next to in the stands, those high-fiving on military bases, fans at the sports bar or during tailgate parties — we all come from different walks of life and have unique backgrounds and stories.

The game of football brings people together. As NFL players, we are a living testimony that individuals from different backgrounds and with different life experiences can work together toward a common goal.

This Thursday during the national anthem at Lambeau Field, Packers players, coaches and staff will join together with arms intertwined — connected like the threads on your favorite jersey. When we take this action, what you will see will be so much more than just a bunch of football players locking arms. The image you will see on September 28th will be one of unity. It will represent a coming together of players who want the same things that all of us do — freedom, equality, tolerance, understanding, and justice for those who have been unjustly treated, discriminated against or otherwise treated unfairly. You will see the sons of police officers, kids who grew up in military families, people who have themselves experienced injustice and discrimination firsthand, and an array of others all linking together in a display of unity.

Those of us joining arms on Thursday will be different in so many ways, but one thing that binds us together is that we are all individuals who want to help make our society, our country and our world a better place. We believe that in diversity there can be UNI-versity. Intertwined, we represent the many people who helped build this country, and we are joining together to show that we are ready to continue to build.

Let’s work together to build a society that is more fair and just.

Join us this Thursday by locking arms with whoever you’re with, stranger or loved one, wherever you are — intertwined and included — in this moment of unification.”

– The Packers Players

Vince Lombardi once said…

Individual commitment to a group effort – that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work.

Now, consider the message…

Diverse communities… bringing people together… different backgrounds… common goals… images of unity… freedom, equality, tolerance, understanding, and justice for those who have been unjustly treated, discriminated against or otherwise treated unfairly…  helping make our society, country and world a better place…. believing that in diversity there can be UNI-versity. … working together … for a society that is more fair and just…. and in this moment of unification.

Epic Engage™ believes.  We contend.  We stand.  It is who we are and what we do.  As a training and development company with a global vision of working with educators, entrepreneurs, and emerging leaders to:

  • educate and lead with high character, strength and joyful excellence.
  • unite strong cultures of diversity and fully engaged purpose, talent and capacity.
  • inspire dynamic learning cultures of flourishing passion, creativity, growth and prosperity.

… we are on board.  Fully, of whole heart and mind… and soul.  Character forges powerful, practical and poignant unity to change the world one school, workplace, business and community at a time.  Today, and personally, I am another Packers fan.

Green Bay hosts Chicago at 8 p.m. ET on Thursday, aired on CBS, NFL Network and streamed on Amazon Prime Video.

Peace, passion and prosperity.

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™

Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.

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  • Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe. As part of that work, we offer you …
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Consider It? I CAN

This week, we are exploring CONSIDERATION as a virtue… a strength of character of leadership at school, work, business and community.  Before we go further, CONSIDER THIS.

  • To think about the needs of others, thoughtful of feelings, speaking gently and tactfully… being a joybringer with thoughtful acts… this is Consideration.
  • BUT, it is also to make and hold our decisions with care and discernment, being thoughtful and mindful… considering all factors, and options.

In our work around character, leadership and getting results, we use an 8-step, 4-phase process called ICCCCCAN™

PHASE ONE.  Know Your Battleground.

  • Identify the ISSUE, at hand.  Get abundantly clear on what the problem actually is, as opposed to symptoms.  You are attempting resolution, not a band aid… so you need to know the real and core issue.
  • Determine the CAUSES that have brought you to this issue or situation.  Make a clear list of the factors that have brought this issue to bear.  Know thy enemy here implies knowing what caused the matter… helps you solve the matter.
  • Inventory the specific CONSEQUENCES, if you do nothing.  This is your motivation.  Be very descriptive in terms of what will happen if you do nothing to resolve the issue.  Get clear on the pain.  This is your leverage.

PHASE TWO.  Prepare Your Base Camp for Battle.

This phase is about knowing your realities.

  • Get clear on the CRITERIA for making any decisions.  What are your real world parameters in making decisions and taking action?  In other words, what would truly limit your capacity to respond… time, money, other?  Be truthful here, so that you identify legitimate and real criteria… and not simply excuses.
  • What is your COMMUNITY of support and resources available in addressing the issue?  Who has your back?  Who can you call on?  What resources are available going forward?

PHASE THREE:  Battle Cry!

This is the heart of your solution.  Character is fundamental to great responses.  Character leadership matters at the heart of any issue.

  • What is the CHARACTER demanded by the matter at hand?  What strengths of character are demanded to address the situation fully and effectively?  Character is the basis of great and consistent and needed action?  Get clear on the virtues you need bring to the table?

PHASE FOUR: Engage the Fight!!!

Now, and action!

  • What are the ACTIONS and behaviours to be manifested and demonstrated, born of the character to be practiced in making a difference?  Make your detailed action plan.
  • What is your first step, NOW?  Be specific.

These 8 steps in 4 phases demand diligence, discernment and decisiveness.  So, maybe you might consider this process.  It is one wholly characterized by CONSIDERATION.

Peace, passion and prosperity.

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™

Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.

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MaD Commitment

Earlier this week, we posted on Commit and Depart; initially exploring Commitment, Detachment and Initiative and the process of letting go to move forward.

Then, we explored Motivation and Discipline as they might connect with Commitment… particularly with my personal road back to health.  I am intent on getting back to my own optimal strength and health.

Commitment to something important requires us to detach or depart from something less important.  We do not break habits; we change them.  That requires the virtue of Sacrifice which is to give up something important for something more important.

In doing so, we must needs find our best motivation.. driven by Enthusiasm, Purposefulness and Determination … and reinforced by Discipline.  In other words, Commitment requires us to depart from old ways, in favor of new ones.  We best do that by our motivation and our practice of Discipline.

We invite you to think about an important goal you might have, personally or professionally.  Here is a process we might suggest.

  • Get very specific as to what you are committing to achieving.
  • Get clear on what you must release to do so.
  • Now, get abundantly clear on your motivation.  Find your enthusiasm for the goal by exploring the absolute and real relevance it has for you.  Get real on it.  Get particularly clear on the purpose of the goal; why it is important.  Ask yourself how you will show Determination in making it happen.  These are the key elements of true motivation.
  • Then determine how you will practice Discipline in those moments of doubt or distraction or even despair.

Commit, release and go MaD.  Try that out and see where it takes you at school, work, business and community.  We think it might be interesting.

Peace, passion and prosperity.

Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™

Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.

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Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe.

 

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