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Cultivating Cultures of Care
Character cultivates caring. In my last blog here, I noted… “As a Master Facilitator with The Virtues Project, I am aware that (a) character matters and most so in times of uncertainty, (b) character is driven and developed by the practice of virtues and (c) such practice is made possible by reflecting on what each virtue looks like in action. As I face each step of the walk forward, it is crucial to assess the situation, identify the virtues called for, imagine what they would look like, and then act accordingly.
- Assess the situation with Openness and Discernment
- Identify the virtues called upon with Discernment and Decisiveness
- Imagine the virtues in action with Creativity
- Act upon that imagination with Initiative and Commitment“
This morning I was inspired by a remarkable student presentation that reminded me powerfully of (a) the importance of building cultures of community driven by character and (b) the equal importance for us to individually take true care of ourselves. After the session this morning, I found myself assessing my situation, identifying virtues needing practice, imagining their application, and acting upon it. In a subsequent class/course with those same students, I made the assignment to be an hour of self care. Their ticket out would be that they take the hour and find a way to reduce their stress. I said I would be willing to stay around if that was what helped… but I gave them all the option. They identified their plans for that self care and went off, thankful. I too made my declaration.
Building cultures that care and taking care of ourselves are not divergent themes. We set the example, and build the culture in doing so.
Peace, passion and prosperity…
Barry Lewis Green
aka The Unity Guy
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Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal. Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community. Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart. The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.” With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist.
The Paths of Love
In lasts week’s post on Love and Grace, we continued an exploration of caring for ourselves, which we
started with in The Long, Cool Road and followed into broadCAST September 2019. We recommend the reads and reflection, and we continue the deeper dive this week.
Jenny says…
To date, and essentially, I have offered the following in retrospect. Allow me to recap.
This Blog may very well be all over the place in thought. As I have been these past couple weeks. I don’t mind saying it like it is, as you probably have noticed by reading my last blog, I am quite up-front and honest. I am usually very positive and upbeat. But guess what, I am human like the rest us, and I am exhausted. I have been pushing myself to the limit in every aspect of my life. I have been trying to be a kick-ass Mom, Friend, Partner and Student. Well I only have so much to give. I guess what I am saying is that in order to fill your own tank, you need to do things that you love. Even then you can find yourself drained and depleted. I am a prime example of that this past week.
This summer has been full, beautiful and extraordinary. So many positives, yet I am pooped. I am a strong believer in self-care. A huge believer. But even in the moments of self-care, my mind is in full speed, thinking of all that I need to do in the next five years of my life. Which in all honesty does not help or benefit me in the slightest. While most structure their lives around schedule and organization, my life 
just doesn’t work well that way. Or at least I don’t think it does. Lord knows I have tried. I am a fly by the seat of my pants kind of girl. I get things done, and if I don’t, I clearly didn’t think it was needed in that particular time, or in that particular order. I know I am not the only one that lives like this. Other people may think it is chaos, where I find it comfortable. It just works. Rather than getting into how it works, which I don’t think really matters. We all work differently. I want to talk more about doing the best that we can with what we know. And finding what fits and benefits your life.
I am currently reading a Brene Brown book called Rising Strong. She is a phenomenal writer and I find myself relating to most of her writings. I have to say it is taking me a LONG time reading because of that thing we call life. I take all the moments I can spare to sit and read for a bit. But let’s be real, I also have a million other things that I want to do. Be lazy and watch Netflix, eat cheesecake, do my nails, hang with my boy, maybe just do absolutely nothing while scrolling through Pinterest. You know, all those important valid things. Which I think at times we need to do. I think it is a part of unwinding and letting ourselves breathe for a moment in time.
In Brene’s book she talks about doing the best that we can with what we know. I relate this to Child and Youth Care (in which I am studying), and life in general. Brene talks about finding people ignorant or rude, or responding a certain way to something. At first, we look at the person like they have ten heads. Like maybe they are just jerks. That’s not the case. We are simply doing the best with what we are given. 
We are doing our best in life with our skills and knowledge. This speaks to me on many levels. In society, as a parent, as a friend, as an employee, or with ourselves. I look at how I am to others. I love them, I love everyone really. I find the best in anyone and everyone. That is because I was raised that way. Raised to be kind, empathetic, compassionate, and respectful. That built a love and understanding within me that I use outward. I treat others with love because I was treated with love. It is my norm. But when it comes to taking moments to care for me, that isn’t so natural. I can’t exactly blame it on my upbringing, but it is more of a generational thing as far as I am concerned. I feel like moments of relaxing, taking a nap, going to a spa, or getting your hair done, may have been considered more of a selfish act. When really it isn’t. It is taking little moments to love yourself.
Because this is not such a natural act, I get stuck in moments of self-care, with little imprints of caring for others or thinking about the million things I need to do. That is not self-care at its finest. I know how difficult it is to completely unwind, allowing your mind to compartmentalize the important and not so important things we need to focus on at that time. I guess therefore I have been left exhausted. I have been doing things for myself amid chaos these past couple weeks. But clearly, I have not allowed myself to detach and let go of everything I have no control over in that very moment. If I can’t fix it now, then get into that little box inside of my head so I can push it away somewhere until I can address it or accommodate it.
Let me add something this week.
- In life there will always be moments to love ourselves enough to rest and take care of our basic needs. But how we come to do that is the real test. This is where we are doing the best with what we have, or what we know. We are taught by people around us how we should and shouldn’t love ourselves. We mirror what we have watched growing up. We allow people to plants seeds, such as, selfish, lazy, high maintenance, or needy. When in all reality it is a basic need of ours. We NEED to care for ourselves. However that looks to each of us may be completely different or one in the same. Now like I said, we are either taught how to love ourselves or we learn. So, let us learn.
In my next post, and upon reflection, I will share thoughts on what that might look like.
Barry says…
I love the idea Jenny is proposing. Self care and love are unique to each of us; as is balance.
Yesterday was a bit a remarkable day for me. In Public Relations class with some music students, we 
talked on the importance of self awareness as an artist… and the need to be authentic in our “branding”. Posing creates much more work, to maintain the pose.
Last evening, I attended a memorial for a former student who took his own life last week. Sam was a gifted Soul; gifted with compassion, generosity, kindness, thoughtfulness, creativity, enthusiasm, joyfulness and more. And yet, he chose to depart this realm. I shared this post on my feelings around the news and the day yesterday morning. Then, last night and upon reflection after the memorial, I shared this Facebook live post, around thoughts on Sam and more. I shared this post yesterday as well… on Sam’s family choosing to advance the necessary dialogue on suicide.
So What?
And so why do I offer up such? I would suggest that self care and self love are grounded in seeing our best self and character, and honoring it. I suggested in class that one powerful form of self love is to love others. In other words, when we fully identify and accept who we are here most to love … and love them… we love ourselves. This does not imply trying to save everyone. It does imply that choosing to be of service to those who matter most to us can run parallel to us taking time to take care of ourselves.
For example, I spent a great deal of my adult life trying hard to please everyone. In the final analysis, and with great mentors, I realized that I get to pick who I choose to best serve. For all, I choose to try to give friendliness and joyfulness as a countenance. That is my universal service.
But to maintain my best energy and care, my personal and professional lives have a sharper focus. With Epic Engage™, we serve those world embracing and noble minded educators, entrepreneurs and emerging leaders who get it or want to get it. We are clear on that. We are not here to convince or preach but serve who best and most needs our work. We get to choose when and where and how.
With my personal life, I have my Camelot, my tribe, my chosen family who will get my very best.
Stephen Covey referred to this prioritization as the big rocks. I referenced it in The Long, Cool Road.
Ultimately, I am suggesting that self love and the love of others are parallel journeys; but we must be very strategic in choosing who we best serve. During this most busy term of my life (and it indeed is), the best way I will take care of myself is to choose who I will actively and purposefully serve and love best. I only have so much to give, and I must needs choose where I will best give. In so doing, I will both take care of my energy and health, and I will feel best fulfilled with the feeling that I have been there for the people who matter most. Caring for them in my personal and professional lives shows care for me. I think that is what Andy Grammer sings of here.
My 10-Day Path to Love
So, I am taking on a personal 10-day project to sharpen the blades and simplify. I saw this meme on 
Facebook, reminding me of the intriguing numerical significance of 10 days in September 2019.
91#19 with the # running from 0 through 9. Intriguing indeed.
Each day, I will eliminate one distraction or add one habit.
Yesterday, on the first day, I decided that I will no longer engage in any activity unless I feel a real energy is there for movement. In other words, I need to feel a “Hell Yeah”. If not, I do not.
Today, and in honor of Sam, I will commit to one simple, conscious act of kindness each day. I tend to think of myself as typically kind… but I am intent on making sure a day does not go by where I do not take one simple act of kindness, in word or deed.
Over the next 8 days, I will establish 8 other commitments. Whether you start your own act now during this period or not… think about taking 10 days and making 10 simple commitments to cut things out or commit to simple actions that will love you and others.
See where that takes you. I will let you know my 10 next week. 🙂
TOGETHER
Together, we are committed to living a joyful life and work. Best friends do that.
Together, we will continue to explore our own perspectives on love and character and how they can build a life of work, play and service that is right for each and all of us.
Peace, passion, prosperity, and a whole bunch of Love and Character
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Benny and Jarry
Jenny Dearing speaks to love in action. She brings talent, experience and learning around love, 
trauma and care. With a passion for Child and Youth Care and Addictions, and a background in same, she connects, and memorably so. Her work spans children and youth care with addictions, personal and senior care, respite work, and business leadership; delivering on all. Jenny is a Certified Virtues Project™ Facilitator, with professional training in child and youth care with addictions support and home support services. With certification in ASIST Suicide First Aid, Autism Awareness and Understanding, Trauma Information Care and Child and Youth Care Practice, Jenny brings it, with zeal. On top of all that, she loves singing, and is an accomplished multi-media artist … and brings both to her work. Artistry is a path to love and healing. Jenny knows it. She believes in it. She drives it.
Barry Lewis Green moves the needle on character leadership and unity building with joyful ferocity and thoughtful zeal. Barry helps leaders forge strong, united cultures at school, work, business and community. Joe Calloway says, “I had the distinct pleasure of being in an audience in Montreal with Barry Lewis Green on the stage. Quite simply, Barry absolutely captivated us with his talent, his message, and his heart. The feeling of unity that Barry created in the room that day was extraordinary.” With 39 years in education and leadership training and development … and work in the private, public and community sectors across Canada… and as a speaker, educator, master facilitator, coach, writer, singer, dancer, and cartoonist, Barry stokes the fire on together strong.
Every Day is Judgement Day
Last week, I wrote on Pulling Back the Bow. In it, I wrote that:
- “Steven Pressfield’s The War of Art and his thoughts on resistance come to mind. The closer we get to moving, the greater the resistance, not unlike a bow. I am there. And now I need most to pull back on that bow of health. It will support all of the others.”
This week, I wrote on Facebook…
- As I collapse on the bed… getting through a second very busy day while living with these lungs right now… a totally unrelated but somehow related thought occurs to me on judgement … of all things. There are two ways to think of judgement. The first is about making good and sound decisions for our own lives. The second is about looking at other people’s lives, thinking we somehow know them or know better, and judging them on their actions. The former is wisdom. The latter is ignorance by it’s true definition. Live the former. Let go the latter. As I crash here, I realize no one knows my life and I know no one else’s. My responsibility is to live as best I can … and not judging others. My responsibility is executed by practicing sound judgement in my own decisions. No idea why that popped into my head and heart but I am glad it did.
Judgement is making sound decisions, and I am making them. As leaders, educators, entrepreneurs and livers of life… as students, mentors and more… good and sound daily judgement matters. That requires wisdom and even sacrifice.
Practice that kind of judgement. I am. It is mine all mine. 🙂
Make every day, Judgement Day.
Seems like a Van Hagar kind of day, lol.
Peace, passion and prosperity…
Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy
Nightmarish Classes
I do not often remember my dreams. Yet, last week, I had two powerful and great dreams that reminded me both of what I love and that for which I dream of in the future. They were solid reminders of who I am.
Even still and more so, I very rarely remember nightmares. That being said, this week already, I have had 3 episodic nightmares with varying scenarios and themes. Indeed two in one night, two nights ago, were two of the worst I can ever remember.
That being said, with reflection these past 48 hours, these 3 nightmares have been even more powerful teachers. They have (a) revealed to me key fears, (b) helped me explore their cause and core and (c) offered me insights into how I face them fiercely and heroically.
Two calendar months from today, I have a date with a publicly acknowledged goal, and I will be in PEI for a weigh in and measurement and celebration of same. My intent is to be approaching a 38″ waist line, down from a max of 48″. The relevance of such an achievement is threefold.
- First, it will be the slimmest I have been in some 20+ years.
- Second, it will serve to heighten and return my strength and vitality to those levels to which my soul resonates. Even at my heaviest, I had energy. There is more returning. 🙂
- Third, it serves up the physiology for the next leg of life and work, as I approach my 58th birthday February 20 and moving forward.
Indeed, there will be cause to celebrate.
That being said, both my dreams last week and nightmares this week have caused me to better frame both the opportunities and challenges ahead… and help me to better understand what is required of me now, and going forward. I feel better armed.
My thought to you, this day, is ” What loves and fears, manifested in your dreams, do you most need to take stock of at this time?” Just remember the words of Dumbledore.
Peace, passion and prosperity.
Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™
Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity
and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.
PS
A bunch of other possible reads, of note…
PPS (Other Resources)
- Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe. As part of that work, we offer you …
- and our buffet of FREE services and resources here.
Steadfast and Flexible
Some two weeks back, I offered This is Day One: The Journal Begins. In it, I said, among other things…
- “On December 31, I posted this wish of Happy 2018! Within it, I offered thoughts on 5 strategies for the incoming year. I believe it worth a read and viewing… and reflection. If making this an authentic and great year is important, I doubly suggest so.
- The C.A.S.T.™ also, collectively, offered this post on 10 perspectives on goals and their achievement; and I humbly but strongly recommend the read as well. There are views and thoughts worth the time, plus music and message that can add to your launch into 2018.”
I offer this to say, “How is your new year going thus far?”
What is it bringing you? What are you bringing to it? Is it more of the same ol’ same ol’? If so, what needs changing? Are the challenges heightened? If so, what needs to be called upon within you to rise to those challenges, in whatever healthy form? Is it going great, full on and better than expected? How can you best ride that wave to ensure sustainability as best you can?
Either way…
… the arbitrary changing of dates does not necessarily change anything; as much as the fireworks might say otherwise. The 1st of the year is but a convenient anchor point for a somewhat inconvenient truth. Much of it is our choice. It is our choice in terms of how we act and respond. It is our choice in terms of how much we accept and do not. It is our choice to get back on the horse or not. That is our responsibility… our response ability.
I heard it said years ago that every diet works. Some are healthier than others, but every diet works… if we avoid the one fatal step. When we fall off, however briefly, do we give up or get back at it? The nutritional counselor in the radio interview said that, if we do well for 6 days and bad for one…. we will be successful… if we get back at it. This is true of anything as goal.
It is true in matters of business, health, job hunting, and more.
For me…
I entered this year, with great progress in my walking… 105,000-120,000 steps a week. A week ago, my left ankle pulled and I have had to bring things back. But I adjusted, both exercise and diet (not a “diet”, my food intake). I remain eating healthy and walking to a lesser degree, for now. The result?
I sit here, writing, in pants that are 42″ waist, down from a max of almost 50″ at one point. I am in an online exercise and walking group using Fitbit, and I am even guest hosting some online exercise 
classes for my friend Krista Walsh… aaagh. I am adapting and reducing and managing this journey. I am making better choices.
Steadfastness and Flexibility
This is the one area for the last almost 20 years that has been challenging. It was challenging because (a) I never found the answer that worked for my temperament (until now) and because, in the past, when I fell off, I did not successfully reset. I did not adjust.
Darwin never actually said it was “survival of the fittest”. He essentially said it was survival of the most adaptable. Rivers get where they are going… they may meander, go to trickles, then rapids and falls but they get where they are going.
All of this is to say that steadfastness and flexibility are important elements of our growth. They are heroic in nature. We learn and adapt but we do not give up. Wherever you are with your goals, know that this is always DAY ONE.
Peace, passion and prosperity.
Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™
Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.
PS
Some other reads, of note…
- The Greatest Gift
- More on Gifts
- Life and Care Hacks
- For Leaders and Educators
- Three Teachers
- Character Matters: Leader Thoughts
- Character First
- Developing Leadership Character
PPPS (Other Resources)
- Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe. As part of that work, we offer you …
- and our buffet of FREE services and resources here.
Barry’s Blog
Change is coming in 2018. To date, we have published some 332 posts under The Epic Blog name; right here. 
Personally, I chose The Epic Blog as a name to somehow “fit” with the Epic Engage™ branding. Truthfully, I always struggled with the name as it implied the blog was epic. What it has been is a series of thoughts around character education and leadership; and it will continue to be so; sincerely offered.
That being said, of late I have been documenting my own road back to full health and strength after stroke with the latest installment from last week being Wayfarer 8.0 . This past week has seen continued and consistent progress with almost 80,000 steps already in over the last 5 days. Essentially, this journey is an application and practice of character; employing Cooperation with my new and supportive team online, Discipline with my consistency… and Joyfulness in how I have created the space to do the work necessary. The success, present and continuing, will be founded and grounded in the practice of character. Great and consistent and reliable behaviour and action is grounded so.
With that all in mind, going forward this will be Barry’s Blog; a humble offering around observations, thoughts and ideas with respect to character leadership and education on the ground in real time and real world.
Just this past week, Christmas Day in fact… I came across this on new conversations in the classroom. As a business educator myself, I strongly and humbly suggest a read; whether you are an entrepreneur, educator or emerging leader. It references ethics and values… but I would suggest that we are talking matters of character. Issues of harassment, justice and success in the marketplace alike… they demand character. They demand stronger senses of fairness, empathy, discipline, trust, trustworthiness, courage, excellence, honesty, commitment, understanding, and so much more. Read the article and consider, for yourself, what strengths of character are demanded at school, work, business and community… going forward. Such reflection matters now, more than ever.
Right here, each week, we will look at the world and our corners of it … and explore the vital importance of the faces of character… some 101 and counting virtues that set us up for sustainable strength and success. This will not be kumbaya (nothing wrong with that but it won’t be that). This will be real … real time, real world… exploring the nuances of character and how to build cultures grounded in same.
If you are an educator, entrepreneur or emerging leader… I say to you that we will take a few minutes each week and give it real take-away value. Hope you join me.
Won’t you? … I am asking you.
Peace, passion and prosperity.
Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™
Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity 
and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.
PS
I invite you to listen to and download the song by Sheena Grobb and Maria Aragon.
PPS
Some other reads, of note…
- The Greatest Gift
- More on Gifts
- Life and Care Hacks
- For Leaders and Educators
- Three Teachers
- Character Matters: Leader Thoughts
- Character First
- Developing Leadership Character
PPPS (Other Resources)
- Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe. As part of that work, we offer you …
- and our buffet of FREE services and resources here.
broadCAST December 2017: All About Gifts
The broadCAST™ is a monthly weigh in by members of The CAST™ of Epic Engage™. Independent experts in their own right, and I am humbly proud to say friends of mine… members of The CAST™ have an opportunity to share their earned insights 
right here, for you, each month. With that in mind, we wholeheartedly encourage you to connect with these experts on their respective bodies of work and how they might be of service to you. They each bring such great value in service to their respective work and audiences.
December 2017
This month, we are continuing with our evolving new look, feel and delivery to the broadCAST™. As we head towards that “magical season” these coming weeks, we thought to bring some new sparkle going into 2018. Focusing on Campus, Creativity, Communications, Life, Music and more… we hope you engage and enjoy. This month, we explore thoughts around gifts; inner and outer. 🙂
THE CAMPUS CORNER…
Trent, Ray and I are offering a section called The Campus Corner where we each offer a short tip or idea on teaching or learning or some aspect of education and leadership; one simple idea from each of our bodies of expertise. To start…
TRENT LANGDON SAYS
As we approach the end of another calendar year and a well-deserved holiday break for all, the educator is no doubt caught in the seasonal and professional rush. Attempting to finalize your academic responsibilities while playing the proverbial pinball between family and friends can take its toll. Simplify as much as possible, clearly plan your blueprint for the final few days, and hold on for the ride. So, reflecting upon the school year that has been thus far, and taking your ‘impact inventory’, what have been your fence posts or your ‘take-aways’ so to speak? Are your thoughts primarily consumed with the challenges that created great stress and difficulty or are you able to find balance by also highlighting those great breakthroughs that provided strength and energy? I suggest that we must:
- Continuously remind ourselves to keep our impact efforts at the forefront and also be willing to address those potholes that create danger in the road ahead.
- Treasure and intentionally document the ‘impact’ moments with your students. Take a step back and realize that every interaction has meaning.
- Understand that the teacher-student relationship should be rooted in reciprocal meaning and well-being for both.
I will have some more to add in the upcoming Leaducator™ Experience this very week. I invite you to stay tuned. Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Holidays and New Year!
Trent Langdon is all about finding identity & building ‘life legacy’ through character education, integrity-based living, and social-emotional development. He is a junior high school counselor for nearly 
700 adolescents and is dedicated to serving his students, their families, and communities. In addition, Trent works on behalf of his colleagues to build identity, protect professional roles, and to give teachers ‘a voice’; he is serving as Vice-President of the Newfoundland & Labrador Teachers Association (NLTA) for the 2017-2019 term of office. Trent is also a Canadian Certified Counselor with the Canadian Counseling & Psychotherapy Association (CCPA). And last but certainly not least, Trent is a proud contributor to the Epic Engage™ team and co-author of The Leaducator Experience™. Check out Trent’s blog.
RAY HOLLISTER SAYS
Character, Accountability, and Responsibility – CAR – may be the most undervalued pillars of getting good grades by students today. I frequently ask students, “What kind of CAR do you drive?” It is a rhetorical question asked of students to have them stop and reflect on a specific aspect of school that is almost never openly discussed. Specifically, I ask them to honestly identify (for themselves) what character they bring to school, what accountability they have for their education, and what responsibility do they hold to get the most out of school. Three universal truths that seem to be ignored (probably because it is ‘unfair’) are:
- The character you exhibit during class, interacting with classmates and interacting with teachers has an enormous impact on your scholastic success.
- Holding yourself personally accountable for the results of your studying, your tests, and your actions has an enormous impact on your scholastic success.
- Taking personal responsibility for your work, your grades, and your behavior has an enormous impact on your scholastic success.
These truths are not ‘fair’ or ‘unfair’ on their own. But unfortunately, over the years a new mindset seems to have emerged (commonly referred to, rightly or wrongly, as the Millennial Mindset) that celebrates the idea that you are owed good grades simply for showing up at school. There are those that think it is unfair that a well-dressed, articulate, polite student who frequently seeks feedback from teachers seems to consistently get better grades than anyone else. Yet, when given the same opportunity (dress well, be articulate and polite, seek counsel of teachers), they shy away from it claiming they ‘shouldn’t have to do that’… And that is the whole point – they DO NOT HAVE TO DO THAT! But, yet it remains true that the results are better when those actions are taken.
Being of good character is not a chore, nor is it a sign of weakness! Quite the opposite, actually. Taking responsibility for oneself is not required, but the results gained from doing so are astonishing. Being accountable for your work and behavior is not compulsory, but for those who do so, the results are exceptional. These three hallmarks of a stellar student are FREE and ACCESSIBLE to EVERYONE. Yet few choose this path. So this Christmas Season, I offer you a minor shift in the Scrooge classic along a scholastic theme:
- The Ghost of Character Past asks how your Character has influenced what your teachers think about you, what your classmates think about you, and what those around you think about you. How has your character impacted your grades?
- The Ghost of Accountability Present asks how do you hold yourself accountable? How does your current mindset about accountability influence the quality of your learning?
- The Ghost of Responsibility Future asks how will your grades change if you take full responsibility for your own work, your own learning, your own test scores? How will this impact your scholastic success?
Now I ask you to imagine it is Christmas Day in scholastic heart; when you throw open the shutters and take in the crisp morning air, what does your future hold? What do you shout to the world? What kind of CAR will you drive?
Ray Hollister is all about strength, excellence and potential. In fact, he has a very special connection 
with students – he’s helped thousands achieve average scores of over 90% for 20 years! His love of learning… and his ability to teach anybody the same easy strategies he used to study far less than everyone else while maintaining outrageously high test scores… quickly earned him a lot of ‘friends’ seeking his advice. Ray has personally conducted numerous studies to develop an intense, focused, and results oriented program for college students. With the success of that program, Ray set his sights on helping younger students in Junior High, High School, and those just entering University. The end result is a program that will help any student – especially YOU – learn more, study less, and earn consistently high grades. www.rayhollister.net
BARRY LEWIS GREEN SAYS
December has that notion of “gift giving” associated with it; whether Christmas or Hanukkah or whatever celebration one might engage this time of year. I certainly see the diversity of friendship, talent and perspective of The CAST™ as a gift, for me… and I truly hope you. My band, Elevation, too. Still, here, I share some thoughts around discerning our inner gifts… thoughts I think important for students, teachers and anyone who sees life as the possibility of learning and growth.
Barry Lewis Green is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His 
work is about voicing, exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. His book Human Being Being Being Human speaks to that. and that is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday. www.epicengage.com
CREATION CORNER…
JAMIE McCABE SAYS
Friends, I hope this does not come across as “selly”. But… With the holidays fast approaching, you know the stress and worry that comes with it … of what to give others as a small token of love or friendship. I know too, as I too struggle with what to get my mother in law or sisters for the holidays. I like to put a lot of thought into it so they know how much I care about them. I read an article the other day however, about giving “experiences” for the holidays. I thought, that is perfect! I love spending time with family and friends. What if your gifts too … were an experience. What would that look like? Well, that’s exactly what we do here at Clay Cafe! We give the gift of creativity! You will never have to give a receipt with your gift from us because you will never get the wrong color or the wrong size. How about the gift of presence? That’s right, presence! Put down your phone, get off that laptop or trv and bring someone on a date and give them the gift of being present. You can have just as much fun painting pottery with someone as you did watching that cute kitten video. The best gift I ever gave was a video I made for my Dad that began with my mom and him when they first started dating, right up into his three kids, grandkids…it was a life montage to music. He loves that video and we watch it at least 4 times a year. It was handmade with love. That’s what matters the most. So for this holiday season, give an experience, however you manifest it. Here at the Clay Cafe, you can hand paint a gift or give the gift of painting the perfect memory with someone you love. You will have a masterpiece to remind you of your paint date that you can use and talk about for years to come. Either way, experience the Season!
Jamie McCabe is all about creativity and connection. She is on a mission to bring people together through art and exploring their creative side at Clay Café Avalon. Jamie became an entrepreneur and opened the paint-your-own pottery studio in 2008 and has seen many memories painted there since then. She works with children and schools where she provides after school art programs. She believes we should color outside the lines more and embrace our inner artist. At Clay Café, it’s not about painting the perfect piece, it’s about painting the perfect memory. www.claycafeavalon.caCOMMUNICATIONS CORNER...
JOEL SWEENEY SAYS
See and hear what Joel has to say on technology and communications at this time of year…
Joel Sweeney is all about effective communications. He has been speaking, training, coaching and 
writing about it for over 20 years. He is the author of The Wedding MC Handbook and Little Helpings of Food for Thought. His third book, The Speaker’s Tool Box – Perfecting the Craft of Speaking, was released in the 2015. He is the owner of Professionally Speaking (established in 1995). Joel helps entrepreneurs and business professional become effective, engaging and confident speakers. www.JoelSweeney.com
CRAZY COOL CORNER…
LIZ BURT SAYS
Hope you are well and enjoying the pre-Christmas excitement. It’s almost Christmas and, as the year draws to a close, I’m trying to take a little extra time to reflect and practice gratitude. I’ve been very fortunate this year to take a huge leap forward in my career, make a bunch of new friends, move into a cute cosy new home, and we even adopted the sweetest cuddliest cat. Gratitude for these things is easy but on the bad days when things seem bleak, we really should try and remember all that we have to be grateful for. I think when we are so focused on progressing, achieving and improving our lives we can lose sight of how far we’ve come. The setbacks I experienced in the last few years gave me a far greater perspective, pushed me to work harder and made the triumphs of 2017 so much sweeter. Gratitude is such an important element of a content and happy life. So, as you celebrate the holiday season, take a little extra time to count your blessings. Think of those less fortunate and remember that even the struggles of today could one day be a gift in disguise!
Liz Burt is about real and healthy results. She is a master motivator. She is also a marathoner and 
marketing specialist living in Calgary, AB. She holds a three-year diploma in Business Management and Marketing, a Bachelor of Arts in Communication Studies, and will begin her MA at the University of Alberta this spring. In addition to being wild about learning and running, Liz is also an avid traveller and has backpacked through twenty countries in the last few years. In her professional life she loves working with small businesses to develop simple and effective marketing and communications plans that achieve real results. She is creative, a bit of a health nut and loves to share her healthy passions in her blog. Liz is a goal setter and risk taker. She loves coffee, cooking, and great conversations. She gets huge joy in helping people and small businesses achieve their goals and are always ready to lend an ear and share advice. lizburt.wordpress.com
KRISTA WALSH SAYS
Krista shares a life lesson on memory and names… ?
Krista Walsh is about productivity and creating cash flow. Krista is an award winning entrepreneur, author and speaker. From dental assistant drop out, to family business builder, to emerging leader for Atlantic Canada (twice), Krista will share her journey from failure to success and explore how to increase your cash flow and productivity. In 2005 Krista established “KC COLLECT,” a 
credit, collection and resource company. It would be the first and only female-owned collection agency in Atlantic Canada. Krista’s informative presentations engage and challenge audiences to effectively manage and build their businesses, professional relationships, and enhance their profiles. Andrew Oland- President, Moosehead Breweries says “Krista is a smart, dedicated and passionate woman. She is an engaging and practical presenter who adds tremendous value to any audience.” Her breakout sessions will assist you in navigating the practical tools you can implement immediately to increase sales and productivity, enhance and build relationships, and strengthen and increase cash flow. Krista’s determination and vision has been recognized by her peers and she has twice received the Atlantic Canadian Emerging Award as one of Canada’s leading young entrepreneurs. www.kccollect.vpweb.ca
MUSIC and MESSAGE…
Going forward, Mark and Sheena will be contributing quotes and music respectively in our new section called MUSIC and MESSAGE… to lift the mind and heart. For December…
MARK BLACK SAYS
Going forward, Mark will be offering motivating thoughts in visual form… going to be cool. For now, Mark has offered…
Mark Black, CSP is all about wellness and resilience. He is a Heart 
and Double-Lung Transplant Recipient, 4-time marathoner, resilience expert, speaker, and coach. Mark helps people “Thrive in Challenging Times”. A Certified Speaking Professional, Mark has inspired more than 100,000 people in more than 350 presentations. At 23 Mark faced an unimaginable challenge. His doctor informed him that his heart was failing. Without a rare and dangerous heart and double-lung transplant he would not see his 25th birthday. Three years later, after receiving his second chance at life, Mark ran his first marathon. Mark spends his free time with his beautiful wife and two kids. www.markblack.ca
SHEENA GROBB SINGS
Moving forward, Sheena shares in song, and message; and I am ever thankful. This month she shares a beautiful message on ALREADY THERE. Truthfully, the first time I heard this song, it was live, unexpected and most needed by me. It was a moment that I truly needed to hear the message. It still warms my heart, deeply. I hope it does for you too. Thank you Sheena. 🙂
Sheena Grobb Singer/Songwriter and Speaker… is humbly amazing. “It is without a doubt a masterpiece of songwriting and soundscape. Really incredible, soulful music. She will definitely get a huge audience in time, trust me.” Alex Wharton, Abbey Road Studios. A songbird from the age of two, songwriter at ten, with 3 albums under her belt, a nomination for the Western Canadian Music Awards, 
and over 500 tour dates across Canada, the US, and the UK, Sheena Grobb (one of Canada’s best kept secrets) is spilling over. With the release of her newest album, The Breakless Heart, mastered at Abbey Road Studios in London, and a life changing music video created by Lindsey Nelko (past choreographer with So You Think You Can Dance), Sheena is embarking on her most meaningful project yet – The Living Compassion Project™ – inviting others to “unlock their lives” through sharing their stories… as she begins to share hers. www.sheenagrobb.com
QUOTE of the MONTH
That which God said to the rose, and caused it to laugh in full-blown beauty, He said to my heart, and made it a hundred times more beautiful. — Rumi
VIDEO for the MONTH
The FREEPIC Forums™
- Check out free resources and services right here.
Wayfarer 1.5: Just One Goal
These past few weeks, what I am calling my Warfarer Journey towards optimal health has granted me some lessons indeed. This week, the most powerful yet.
I invite you to check this post from LinkedIn on A New Kind of Great Day.
At core, and amidst a bunch of things learned, the shift has been to me seeing my goals as being narrowed down to one ultimate goal; a vision of who I am… and as if in the right now. Everything I do, moving forward is in support of that vision. I make decisions in alignment with that vision. I get to define Barry and I ask myself each day, “what would Barry do?.
More specifically, I have only one real goal. To be that guy. Then, on a daily day tight compartment basis, I now ponder a new version of GREAT.
- GET … based on who you are and what you do, what do you need to GET done today.
- RELEVANCE… how does that powerfully relate and have resonance for your one goal of BEING and DOING? This one is a fixed point, really. You are always relating your “get” to your natural BEING and DOING.
- EXECUTE… what actions do you need to take on to go get it today?
- ASSESS… on a scale of 1 to 5 (5 being DONE), at the end of the day, measure your getting it done; and be prepared to reset.
- TIMEFRAME… this is another fixed point… today… 24 hours. That is your time frame; those day tight compartments.
This speaks to me of Simplicity. I am no longer juggling what I perceive as multiple goals in various arenas of my life. Those multiple goal concepts served me well overall with a health say 75-80% completion rate I am estimating. But there are significant gaps. My road to health is really now about daily actions in terms of the Barry I envision. What would Barry do becomes a daily question of guidance, using the GREAT action model.
As to my weight loss, I am 46 pounds down, plateauing a tad… but I am getting there. I no longer have arbitrary goals of outcome, but daily goals of task and effort… that support my true goal. I am 46 pounds down, and I am doing the daily action that will inevitably witness the results. And I am feeling focused.
Peace, passion and prosperity.
Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™
Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The 
Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.
PS
Some other reads, of note…
- For Leaders and Educators
- Some Thoughtful Perspectives
- One Thought at a Time
- Three Teachers
- Character Matters: Leader Thoughts
- Leader ToC
- Character First
- Developing Leadership Character
PPS (Other Resources)
- Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe. As part of that work, we offer you …
- and our buffet of FREE services and resources here.
broadCAST November 2017: A New Life
The broadCAST™ is a monthly weigh in by members of The CAST™ of Epic Engage™. Independent experts in their own right, and I am humbly proud to say friends of mine… members of The CAST™ have an opportunity to share their earned insights right here, for you, each month. With that in mind, we wholeheartedly encourage you to connect with these experts on their respective bodies of work and how they might be of service to you. They each bring such great value in service to their respective work and audiences.
November 2017
This month, we are launching a new look, feel and delivery to the broadCAST™. As we head towards that “magical season” in December, we thought to bring some new sparkle going into 2018. Focusing on Campus, Creativity, Communications, Life, Music and more… we hope you engage and enjoy. 🙂
THE CAMPUS CORNER…
Trent, Ray and I are offering a section called The Campus Corner where we each offer a short tip or idea on teaching or learning or some aspect of education and leadership; one simple idea from each of our bodies of expertise. To start…
TRENT LANGDON SAYS
Joe Dimaggio, the epitome of ‘coolness’ in the 30’s and 40’s; not only a professional baseball player and Yankee slugger (no less), but married to Marilyn Monroe! Holy moly, can you have a higher profile career and relationship built into one package? It was an era that saw movie stars and sports figures become ‘larger-than-life’ and evolve into heroes of the ‘super’ kind. There were fewer of them (as compared to this day in age) and their names were synonymous with greatness during a time when people needed escape and a reason to dream.
One of Joe’s famous (and most mortal) quotes often sticks with me and can be a mantra for any leader who seeks excellence while maintaining a deep sense of humility – “I played my best everyday; You never know when someone may be seeing you for the first time.” This is a message that, as educators, we can entrench within our students as they approach the challenges of each day, build the skill set necessary for post-secondary options, and enter the unforgiving workforce. It can also become the foundation and standard for our own professional practice. To read more on Joe and this thought, check out the Leaducator Experience™ for November 2017.
Trent Langdon is all about finding identity & building ‘life legacy’ through character education, integrity-based living, and social-emotional development. He is a junior high school counselor for nearly 700 adolescents and is dedicated to serving his students, their families, and communities. In addition, Trent works on behalf of his colleagues to build identity, protect professional roles, and to give teachers ‘a voice’; he is serving as Vice-President of the Newfoundland & Labrador Teachers Association (NLTA) for the 2017-2019 term of office. Trent is also a Canadian Certified Counselor with the Canadian Counseling & Psychotherapy Association (CCPA). And last but certainly not least, Trent is a proud contributor to the Epic Engage™ team and co-author of The Leaducator Experience™. Check out Trent’s blog.
RAY HOLLISTER SAYS
Whose Opinion Matters? This may ruffle some feathers – especially if you’re under 35 – but it is 100% accurate and necessary. When you are in the classroom, whether you are 14 or 41, there is a disturbing trend that seems to be emerging among students that is sadly working against their ability to learn effectively. That trend is the concept that the student’s opinion is paramount when considering what grade they have earned. The two key concepts here are “Student’s Opinion” and “Earned”. When it comes time to record the grade that a student will receive (for ANY class, assignment, paper, etc), the MOST EFFECTIVE WAY to help a student genuinely learn and grow is to give them what they EARNED. For this purpose, it is important to realize that in this moment, the only opinion that *should* matter for assigning a grade is the TEACHER! This is especially important in younger grades, specifically early education thru Junior High School. If you will take it to heart that a Teacher’s mission is to HELP you grow, HELP you learn, and HELP you succeed, then it should stand to reason that the teacher’s opinion is the only opinion that matters when it comes to your grades. With this in mind, if you will simply take the time to ASK your teacher what you can do to improve and/or to be even more successful in their class, I promise, you WILL get an answer! And if you genuinely LISTEN to what they say, AND put into practice, you will find that you not only reap the rewards of better grades, but you will also reap the rewards of better learning, better growth, and more success in the classroom – and life.
Ray Hollister is all about strength, excellence and potential. In fact, he has a very special connection with students – he’s helped thousands achieve average scores of over 90% for 20 years! His love of learning… and his ability to teach anybody the same easy strategies he used to study far less than everyone else while maintaining outrageously high test scores… quickly earned him a lot of ‘friends’ seeking his advice. Ray has personally conducted numerous studies to develop an intense, focused, and results oriented program for college students. With the success of that program, Ray set his sights on helping younger students in Junior High, High School, and those just entering University. The end result is a program that will help any student – especially YOU – learn more, study less, and earn consistently high grades. www.rayhollister.net
BARRY LEWIS GREEN SAYS
I share some thoughts around defining moments. Remembrance Day is a day of honor on November 11 in Canada. I also think Remembrance is something powerful for each of us; if we but focus on the constructive learnings. When we do, we build a track record of personal and healthy confidence. Indeed, here is a post from another 57 year young person on such reflection and worth a read. And here is a post on doing just that for identifying your strengths. I believe and contend that Remembrance is a powerful teacher. When we look back at challenges and see them as defining moments… they can be the most powerful and effective of teachers. When we help others… our students and colleagues and friends… to remember their defining moments, we help build character and confidence and capacity. This is leadership.
Barry Lewis Green is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about voicing, exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity and resourcefulness. His book Human Being Being Being Human speaks to that. and that is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday. www.epicengage.com
CREATION CORNER…
JAMIE McCABE SAYS
Clay Cafe’s Creative tip for November is how affective art can be as a source of therapy and relaxation. Life can be stressful and busy but when you take the time to ART, it is relaxing and fun. It allows you to just focus on the task at hand and nothing else. Art helps us communicate in a different language. Self expression! It’s also a great way to communicate and connect with those that paint memories with us. Believe it or not… it also helps with critical thinking skills as you concentrate on a vision, color options and design elements. They say that a picture is worth a 1,000 words….we often times communicate through our painting and work of art with colors and designs that we “feel” would be great for our masterpiece. Grow as a person and an artist; drop by to Paint today!
Jamie McCabe is all about creativity and connection. She is on a mission to bring people together through art and exploring their creative side at Clay Café Avalon. Jamie became an entrepreneur and opened the paint-your-own pottery studio in 2008 and has seen many memories painted there since then. She works with children and schools where she provides after school art programs. She believes we should color outside the lines more and embrace our inner artist. At Clay Café, it’s not about painting the perfect piece, it’s about painting the perfect memory. www.claycafeavalon.caCOMMUNICATIONS CORNER...
JOEL SWEENEY SAYS
See and hear what Joel has to say on engaging your audience…
Joel Sweeney is all about effective communications. He has been speaking, training, coaching and writing about it for over 20 years. He is the author of The Wedding MC Handbook and Little Helpings of Food for Thought. His third book, The Speaker’s Tool Box – Perfecting the Craft of Speaking, was released in the 2015. He is the owner of Professionally Speaking (established in 1995). Joel helps entrepreneurs and business professional become effective, engaging and confident speakers. www.JoelSweeney.com
CRAZY COOL CORNER…
LIZ BURT SAYS
One thing that I think readers of the broadCAST™ should always remember is that “you will obtain your goal if you maintain your course”. This life lesson came to me a long time ago, on a fortune inside a fortune cookie of all places, but it is the one piece of wisdom that I try and remember daily. It reminds me that it basically comes down to consistency and sustained effort if you want to achieve anything.
Sometimes we can be working towards something that just feels impossible, and the road to the finish line seems way too far away. That’s when I try to remember that I just need to focus on the tasks at hand and eventually I will get to where I want to be. We often give up on things we want in life when it becomes difficult and we get discouraged by small setbacks. But whether your goal is to write a book, loose 100lb or go back to school, don’t focus on, “holy crap that’s going to be a lot of work” and give up. Instead, just focus on creating sustainable daily habits that will move you closer to your goal, day by day. Make a commitment to yourself to write one page a day, switch one unhealthy meal for a salad a day, or sign up for one course each semester. And even if you fall off track, don’t beat yourself up, just get right back at it. Sometimes life throws us curve balls and we have to roll with the punches. We might have to readjust, re-strategize and refocus, but, small steps in the right direction are better than none.
So, fall in love with the process, create good habits and be proud of yourself sticking with them. When you feel unmotivated and you want to quit, just remember, through consistency and determination, you will get where you want to go.
marketing specialist living in Calgary, AB. She holds a three-year diploma in Business Management and Marketing, a Bachelor of Arts in Communication Studies, and will begin her MA at the University of Alberta this spring. In addition to being wild about learning and running, Liz is also an avid traveller and has backpacked through twenty countries in the last few years. In her professional life she loves working with small businesses to develop simple and effective marketing and communications plans that achieve real results. She is creative, a bit of a health nut and loves to share her healthy passions in her blog. Liz is a goal setter and risk taker. She loves coffee, cooking, and great conversations. She gets huge joy in helping people and small businesses achieve their goals and are always ready to lend an ear and share advice. lizburt.wordpress.comKRISTA WALSH SAYS
Krista shares a little, big life lesson and hack… ?
Krista Walsh is about productivity and creating cash flow. Krista is an award winning entrepreneur, author and speaker. From dental assistant drop out, to family business builder, to emerging leader for Atlantic Canada (twice), Krista will share her journey from failure to success and explore how to increase your cash flow and productivity. In 2005 Krista established “KC COLLECT,” a credit, collection and resource company. It would be the first and only female-owned collection agency in Atlantic Canada. Krista’s informative presentations engage and challenge audiences to effectively manage and build their businesses, professional relationships, and enhance their profiles. Andrew Oland- President, Moosehead Breweries says “Krista is a smart, dedicated and passionate woman. She is an engaging and practical presenter who adds tremendous value to any audience.” Her breakout sessions will assist you in navigating the practical tools you can implement immediately to increase sales and productivity, enhance and build relationships, and strengthen and increase cash flow. Krista’s determination and vision has been recognized by her peers and she has twice received the Atlantic Canadian Emerging Award as one of Canada’s leading young entrepreneurs. www.kccollect.vpweb.ca
MUSIC and MESSAGE…
Going forward, Mark and Sheena will be contributing quotes and music respectively in our new section called MUSIC and MESSAGE… to lift the mind and heart. For November…
MARK BLACK SAYS
Starting this month, Mark will be offering motivating thoughts in visual form… going to be cool. For now, Mark has offered…
Mark Black, CSP is all about wellness and resilience. He is a Heart and Double-Lung Transplant Recipient, 4-time marathoner, resilience expert, speaker, and coach. Mark helps people “Thrive in Challenging Times”. A Certified Speaking Professional, Mark has inspired more than 100,000 people in more than 350 presentations. At 23 Mark faced an unimaginable challenge. His doctor informed him that his heart was failing. Without a rare and dangerous heart and double-lung transplant he would not see his 25th birthday. Three years later, after receiving his second chance at life, Mark ran his first marathon. Mark spends his free time with his beautiful wife and two kids. www.markblack.ca
SHEENA GROBB SINGS
Moving forward, Sheena shares in song, and message; and I am ever thankful. This month she shares a beautiful message on GOOD FORTUNE. We love it. Hope you do too.
Sheena Grobb Singer/Songwriter and Speaker… is humbly amazing. “It is without a doubt a masterpiece of songwriting and soundscape. Really incredible, soulful music. She will definitely get a huge audience in time, trust me.” Alex Wharton, Abbey Road Studios. A songbird from the age of two, songwriter at ten, with 3 albums under her belt, a nomination for the Western Canadian Music Awards, and over 500 tour dates across Canada, the US, and the UK, Sheena Grobb (one of Canada’s best kept secrets) is spilling over. With the release of her newest album, The Breakless Heart, mastered at Abbey Road Studios in London, and a life changing music video created by Lindsey Nelko (past choreographer with So You Think You Can Dance), Sheena is embarking on her most meaningful project yet – The Living Compassion Project™ – inviting others to “unlock their lives” through sharing their stories… as she begins to share hers. www.sheenagrobb.com
QUOTE of the MONTH
Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. – Søren Kierkegaard
VIDEO for the MONTH
For Educators and Leaders
The FREEPIC Forums™
- Check out free resources and services right here.
Wayfarer 1.0
This weekend, we shared a post called Wayfarer: Ground Zero? In it, among many other things, I offered…
Back on October 15, I offered this on 77 Days and Beyond. Then, on October 18, I shared on GREAT and SLOWER Health. Since then, I have continued to live, reflect and learn. This past week, I got rid of 4 pairs of 46″ waist pants; an act of burning my boats, if you will. I have fortified my home with good food… in taste and sustenance. I have witnessed a slimming, even today. And all of that is to say that this journey continues… and, starting in November… weekly on Wednesdays… I will be checking in on my journey around the application and practice of character in this area of greatest and most present challenge; my very own health. I do invite you to join me as the lessons learned and shared will be applicable across many areas of life, I humbly expect, suggest and contend.
MY STORY, TO DATE
For those who might not know, on August 20, 2015… I experienced a stroke that, while “minor”, has left me with what I call “remnants”. One of those is a tiredness that extends beyond being sleepy. What I have been able to piece together is that a stroke can have an effect on the brain such that it requires much more rest and sleep. Indeed, sleep is the brain’s friend in health… among others, as I am finding in my own research…
That stroke, while not debilitating in any “major” sense, took much from me… in the way of my “tornado” style of energy and living. My life still has moments of great energy but with much longer moments of rest. It is now more like thunder and lighting, with great pauses in between the thunder and the lightning. The AND is bigger; so much bigger. Indeed, my energy requires a more strategic approach. That was a very difficult realization. Very.
That being said, I am also aware that, given this new “culture of tiredness” around which I have to adapt, my weight is a factor in alleviating at least part of the impact. While all of my tests over these past two years or so have shown no issues with blood pressure, cholesterol or other influential factors for stroke (it has left medical experts shaking their heads, for sure), I have come to understand the stroke as a shot across the bow and my weight is part of the inventory check; to repair and heal.
I have been blessed to have had relatively few remnants… and to be as relatively healthy as I am, at my weight and age. In 1996, I was in the best shape of my life, teaching dance 4-5 nights a week, while teaching business day time. I was active, healthy and strong. I was 220 pounds (100 kilos) of lean muscle… not ripped but strong. After several years of teaching dance, it became like a job and I stopped… but my heavy carb diet (nothing wrong with carbs if you are working it out) continued and I ballooned 70 pounds within a year… up to some 290 pounds (132 kilos). That weight has not seriously affected my health as yet, it seems. Still, it has not helped. And, it is time to get back to optimal health… for my work and play and life… going forward.
AND NOW, GOING FORWARD
That being said, my high was 316 pounds (144 kilos), and I am now down to 276 pounds (126 kilos); a drop of 40 pounds. My intent is to reach 242 pounds (110 kilos) … another 34 pound drop… by my 58th birthday on February 20, 2018… essentially 34 pounds over 17 weeks… or 2 pounds a week. I intend to do so using the SLOWER approach I alluded to in my post on GREAT and SLOWER Health.
After that, and into my 58th year, I still intend on reaching what I call 100K Be and Lift… meaning weighing 100 kilos (220 pounds) and being able to bench same.
All of this is to say, I invite you to follow or join me. This is not about an expert sharing their wisdom. It is about a student learning and sharing the ups and downs (more ups than downs). And, I will be learning… chatting with various people in the know… and sharing here. Ultimately, it will be a journey of exploring character and personal leadership as the basis for making better decisions.
Today is the continuation of the 77 Days and Beyond. But, it is also the beginning of those 17 weeks to 242. Whatever goal you might have for health, wealth, personal or professional… the matters of character we explore on this journey should be of value.
So, I invite you…
Until next time,
Peace, passion and prosperity.
Barry Lewis Green, aka The Unity Guy™
Barry is ultimately a vocalist, strength coach and educator. His work is about exploring, identifying, practicing and mastering our strengths and building upon them through practical and powerful unity 
and resourcefulness. That is why Barry is The Unity Guy™. EPIC Engage™ is an extension of The Unity Guy™. The Epic work is all about building strong, united and inspired cultures lead by character… at school, work, business and community; where everyone matters and contributes everyday.
PS
Some other reads, of note…
- The Boomer Generation
- The Strength of Elders
- Character Matters: Leader Thoughts
- Character First
- Developing Leadership Character
PPS (Other Resources)
- Our work is all about character. We work hard and joyfully to help build character driven, united and resourceful organizations and communities around the globe.
